RealityGlitch said:

Bingo. But also what I said. I'd give a dude a chance if he rock climbed though. Would be nice to have a partner climbing with me on a beautiful mountain.

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I believe that if you meet one of right ones, they would get in to climbing just to share that experience and get to know you and what you like even if they didn't climb when you met

I'll be honest, my wife didn't believe in love at all when we first met, she always thought that in a relationship you would always have to compromise and give up certain things in order to make it work, but sometimes that's not the case. My wife is free do to whatever she want and I'll try to support her in any way I can, what I need from her is honesty.

If she can give me that, then I would even pay for her airplane ticket to another man if she believed he could give her a better life. See I believe that if I truly love her then her happiness goes beyond my own, if not then what I actually love is my own life with her in it, but I am strange so don't quote me on it

ThurmanMurman said:

Gf texted me pissed off that she said bye this morning and I didn't say goodbye back. I was browsing the boards, so for the sake of avoiding responsibility for my actions, I'm making this yalls fault. Sorry...kinda.🤷‍♂️

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GenesisCorrupted said:

Humans are a social animal and it’s impossible for them to feel totally content completely alone.

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Mr Piggy said:

ThurmanMurman said:

Gf texted me pissed off that she said bye this morning and I didn't say goodbye back. I was browsing the boards, so for the sake of avoiding responsibility for my actions, I'm making this yalls fault. Sorry...kinda.🤷‍♂️

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“I didn’t say bye because you never leave my heart” is a swift recovery.  Then you get her flowers or make dinner.

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Mr Piggy said:

GenesisCorrupted said:

Humans are a social animal and it’s impossible for them to feel totally content completely alone.

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True for most, not for others.  Most of my great moments of fulfillment are in solitude.  I won the lottery with a partner that understands that and gives me plenty of space when I (often) need it.

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tree frog said:

Mr Piggy said:

GenesisCorrupted said:

Humans are a social animal and it’s impossible for them to feel totally content completely alone.

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True for most, not for others.  Most of my great moments of fulfillment are in solitude.  I won the lottery with a partner that understands that and gives me plenty of space when I (often) need it.

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Two weeks in solitary without so much as a book or tree or bird to keep you company is being completely alone.

Being single isn't that.  Regardless of what Hallmark and Hollywood would have us believe.

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OLDDAD77 said:

100%!

A few weeks ago I realized my mother is a raging narcissist. Been down a rabbit hole about how it affects children growing up and the shit we do to cope with the ptsd.

Then how we act as adults. I’ve been pretty self aware of the subconscious things I do for a long time, or used to do anyway. Getting better every day.

My younger brother is a complete disaster. Has no idea why he is the way he is and has become a narcissist himself. He chooses to drink obsessively to deal with the trauma that he doesn’t even understand happened to him.

We always thought our childhood (my mother) was normal. It was far from it! I recently started setting boundaries with her. In true narcissistic fashion she hasn’t spoken to me in three weeks! She’s also using triangulation and scapegoating me instead of doing any bit of inward thinking.

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RealityGlitch said:

I also don't want kids. My sister once told our friend that my midlife crisis would be finding out that I'm pregnant. She is right. But every time I tell someone I don't want kids, they tell me that my mind will change once I have one. No. My mind will not change and I do not want to have one to find out. One of the worst sounds in the world to me is a baby's cry. Sorry if that's harsh for anyone.

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tree frog said:

Mr Piggy said:

GenesisCorrupted said:

Humans are a social animal and it’s impossible for them to feel totally content completely alone.

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True for most, not for others.  Most of my great moments of fulfillment are in solitude.  I won the lottery with a partner that understands that and gives me plenty of space when I (often) need it.

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Two weeks in solitary without so much as a book or tree or bird to keep you company is being completely alone.

Being single isn't that.  Regardless of what Hallmark and Hollywood would have us believe.

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RealityGlitch said:

... But it's not really bad to want to be alone, is it? Because most people make me feel that it's wrong. I don't think it's wrong though.

One more thing, thank you all for giving me perspective.

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GenesisCorrupted said:

tree frog said:

Two weeks in solitary without so much as a book or tree or bird to keep you company is being completely alone.

Being single isn't that.  Regardless of what Hallmark and Hollywood would have us believe.

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There’s enough studies to prove this that it should be illegal to keep anyone in solitary confinement. After a prolonged stint in solitary people are almost never going to be the same.

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tree frog said:

She said, pay more attention to the birds and trees.

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