Okay, you replied to 3 questions I asked, thank you, and asked me some in return. Here goes;
In the case of the mean and abusive coach, he had a goal and it was to win. He found a method that helped him to achieve his goal of winning games. Being mean and abusive served the goal of winning. Fine. If your goal all along has been to win arguments, then I can see why you would take a mild model approach from someones method for winning.
However, you said that the goal here at S&P was just to become visible and having people pay attention to you.
You must also have a belief tied into this that winners get paid attention to and loosers don't. Related to S&P, you decided that the way to be a winner was through philosophical debate. Fine.
If you look at this picture, swamis actions when getting attention as a debater have been self serving. That's where the negativity comes into play. For you to win, someone has to loose.
Negative numbers and energy occurs when we take away from positive numbers and "energy". If you post here looking to win and be a winner, you have to take away postive numbers from others to create the winning amount of numbers for yourself.
In doing so, you are also creating a wake of losers behind you in the process. You get to feel good and the ahhhh of victory and experience the adoration, while the other now endures a sense of loss and disapproval from the crowed that was not there, until you came in to take from them so you could win.
Many do that here from time to time including me.
Maybe everyone does to varying degrees.
Maybe some never have.
Some, always or some times or most often go for the win win, they come here to give positives they have to those who are in the negatives. Those people get attention too and you have in that way sometimes, when you come in to give and share some winning ways you have discovered. Others who read are filled with positives from you and everybody wins. You can be paid attention to doing this by giving to people something they want. You can be worthy of others attention by having something of value to offer them for free.
When people here are telling you that you have options and choices for how you go about being seen and paid attention to here, that's what they are talking about. Some may give you a thumbs down for using the take away method to get attention when you could be using the giving method for it and creating winners here instead of losers.
If you think of yourself as a team coach swami, and S&P your team, and winning is important to you, then I would think you would be looking to create winners out of the members, not loser's. If just you win, that's selfish.
Now we get to Jesus. Jesus was not selfish. His goal was to give light and to bring his light into the world for others to see with. Yes, he did not compromise his truth in his goal either. When people told him to hate the tax collectors, he stayed true to his goal and loved and accepted them as his brothers. When people told him to stay away from the lepers, he stayed true to his goal and healed them with the power of his love and light. When people told him to stay away from the crazy and insane because they were possessed by demons, he would help them to be healed.
Jesus left winners and benefactors of his presence in his wake.
If you are going to use Jesus as an example of staying true to yourself well then, look at what his goal was and how he accomplished it. It was to bring light into this world he said and to give of himself and his light so others could be in light with him as his equals. He went for the win win.
Yes, we do cultivate our own actions for reward. Reward can be sought for just the self at the expense of others and reward can come from affording others from your wealth so they can share in it with you.
There are times, the swami persona comes here and gives of his wealth and affords it to others. Some times, you give of your winning strategies and afford them to others and every body wins and all are rewarded in that including you if you achieve a sense of fulfillment from helping to fill others with your light.
There are times you come here and give of your wealth in humor, and when it is not used to take away from someone making them to look like a foolish looser, everybody can be filled with laughter and everybody wins. All are awarded with laughter and you get the sense of fulfillment that comes from filling others with laughter and joy. If the laughter comes at the expense of another, then it was a take away, a negative and you created a looser on your own team.
It's your choice if you want to come here as a taker or giver as it is all of our choice to make when we come here. We are free to choose. I think many here see the potential in you to be more giving and affording and creating of a winning team. When they see you taking and creating losers for self gain, yes, they frown. Do you care?
I've done it sometimes and when I reflect on it, I don't feel good about myself for having made that choice. That's why I asked if it felt good to you, because I know it doesn't feel good to me. I feel good when I can give of myself to others and create win wins.
I am human as are you, what can we do but forgive ourselves if we care and work to mend what we have shreaded in haste and make better choices in the future.
Regarding the topic of protecting people from the evils and harsh realities of this world, that's a subjective thing to me so I can't really comment on that but I do share with the board how I deal with it and how I deal with it is different from you sometimes. I won't deny you your right to share how you deal with as I don't want to be denied mine.
Everyone should be allowed to speak and share freely here and be heard.
Sometimes, we all may talk as if our ways are the one and only right way and I think that's where any of us can turn others off to our messages. You don't get heard or paid attention to when you turn people off to you.
I think the diversity of those differences we share is important as it adds to the over all perspective on life offered here that people can draw from to suit and serve themselves.
My apologies if this was long, I just wanted to be thorough so you would understand my commentary best. That's all this is, comments. Take em for what they are worth to you. I am not asking you to change swami. if you are wanting a change of pace or MO, then, I am giving you feedback to make new choices with, thats all. I appreciate your presense here anyway it comes.
-------------------- Ahuwale ka nane huna.
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