Aninator said:

its like any other urge. be mindful... mindful walking. mindful eating. mindful sex. mindful mind. don't succumb to monkey mind and monkey action.

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Aninator said:

i mean even that word. "Lust" i mean is it bad to lust? or is it bad to let lustful feelings resonate for so long that you act on it and do something irrational or  inappropriate?

i don't think fantasizing about anything is inherently wrong unless there is dangers of acting on it? Mindful lusting

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nicechrisman said:

Nothin wrong with feelin a little dirty

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nicechrisman said:

Maybe some psychedelic sessions with the set intention of understanding and healing your underlying feelings about this could help you learn to be more comfortable

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Lophosaurus said:

Stop with religion and feeling guilty. It's a waste of time. Just be a good person, do good things, and that's it.

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Fiery said:

I've been struggling recently with sexuality, feeling guilty and even dirty for my sexual behaviors, which involve fantasizing about sex with women in peaceful and sometime intense sexual situations.

I think my thought process is messed up, because I grew up believing that sex outside of marriage was wrong, and that pornography and sexual thoughts were a sin, and even though my human biology says that it's ok, and healthy to do these things, I feel some sort of religious guilt.


Anyone have any advice for me, about how to be a healthy solo sexual individual, and justify my carnal nature and not have that guilt or remorse for something that I know I need(physical sexual release)

My thoughts are generally pure, but WHY do I feel so dirty sometimes for watching other people having sex and enjoying it?

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i'm honestly not sure if this is a serious post, especially considering some of your own replies, or if you're trolling. 


But, i'll bite.  I agree with Lophosaurus and will add this:  So long as you aren't hurting others, physically or emotionally, it really doesn't matter what you do.  One should also strive to not hurt themselves, but, in my mind, it's less important compared to not causing others pain. 

Unfortunately, no one is going to be able to give you anwers to the "Why do i feel this way?" question; that is only for you to decide.  You're in your 30's, man.  It's beyond time to shrug the guilt associated with religion.  Much of what was "taught" (likely pounded into your brain, aka indoctrinated with) to you are extreme interpretations used to fit someone else's personal agenda, be it someone today or a few thousand years ago. MAKE YOUR OWN WAY IN LIFE AND LIVE BY THE RULES YOU SEE FIT!  FUCK WHAT ANYONE ELSE WANTS YOU TO DO!

The reality is, in regards to sex, there is no "right" or "wrong" way(s) to have sex so long as it is between two [or more, if that's your thing ] consenting adults.  Shed your fear, shed your guilt.


lyrics to part of a song for you:

Quote:

.....
And I spent too many years
Searching for somebody
To be my wrecking ball
And rebuild all that's broken
And I spent too many nights
Without ever thinking
Maybe I'm a wrecking ball
And I'm breaking all that I'm touching
And I spent too many days
Drowning in the shallows
From the mess of the man that I've made
And the nest of mistakes that I have to lay.....

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Tulipslave said:

Fiery said:

I've been struggling recently with sexuality, feeling guilty and even dirty for my sexual behaviors, which involve fantasizing about sex with women in peaceful and sometime intense sexual situations.

I think my thought process is messed up, because I grew up believing that sex outside of marriage was wrong, and that pornography and sexual thoughts were a sin, and even though my human biology says that it's ok, and healthy to do these things, I feel some sort of religious guilt.


Anyone have any advice for me, about how to be a healthy solo sexual individual, and justify my carnal nature and not have that guilt or remorse for something that I know I need(physical sexual release)

My thoughts are generally pure, but WHY do I feel so dirty sometimes for watching other people having sex and enjoying it?

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i'm honestly not sure if this is a serious post, especially considering some of your own replies, or if you're trolling. 


But, i'll bite.  I agree with Lophosaurus and will add this:  So long as you aren't hurting others, physically or emotionally, it really doesn't matter what you do.  One should also strive to not hurt themselves, but, in my mind, it's less important compared to not causing others pain. 

Unfortunately, no one is going to be able to give you anwers to the "Why do i feel this way?" question; that is only for you to decide.  You're in your 30's, man.  It's beyond time to shrug the guilt associated with religion.  Much of what was "taught" (likely pounded into your brain, aka indoctrinated with) to you are extreme interpretations used to fit someone else's personal agenda, be it someone today or a few thousand years ago. MAKE YOUR OWN WAY IN LIFE AND LIVE BY THE RULES YOU SEE FIT!  FUCK WHAT ANYONE ELSE WANTS YOU TO DO!

The reality is, in regards to sex, there is no "right" or "wrong" way(s) to have sex so long as it is between two [or more, if that's your thing ] consenting adults.  Shed your fear, shed your guilt.


lyrics to part of a song for you:

Quote:

.....
And I spent too many years
Searching for somebody
To be my wrecking ball
And rebuild all that's broken
And I spent too many nights
Without ever thinking
Maybe I'm a wrecking ball
And I'm breaking all that I'm touching
And I spent too many days
Drowning in the shallows
From the mess of the man that I've made
And the nest of mistakes that I have to lay.....

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Urb said:

Flowie, have you ever actually engaged in sex.... With a woman?

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Only with you, that one steamy nights years ago in my tent when you dressed up like lady GAGA and did spice girls dance moves for me.

FOnd memories.

Quote:

WHY do I feel so dirty sometimes for watching other people having sex and enjoying it?

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Fiery said:

Tulipslave said:

Fiery said:

I've been struggling recently with sexuality, feeling guilty and even dirty for my sexual behaviors, which involve fantasizing about sex with women in peaceful and sometime intense sexual situations.

I think my thought process is messed up, because I grew up believing that sex outside of marriage was wrong, and that pornography and sexual thoughts were a sin, and even though my human biology says that it's ok, and healthy to do these things, I feel some sort of religious guilt.


Anyone have any advice for me, about how to be a healthy solo sexual individual, and justify my carnal nature and not have that guilt or remorse for something that I know I need(physical sexual release)

My thoughts are generally pure, but WHY do I feel so dirty sometimes for watching other people having sex and enjoying it?

---

i'm honestly not sure if this is a serious post, especially considering some of your own replies, or if you're trolling. 


But, i'll bite.  I agree with Lophosaurus and will add this:  So long as you aren't hurting others, physically or emotionally, it really doesn't matter what you do.  One should also strive to not hurt themselves, but, in my mind, it's less important compared to not causing others pain. 

Unfortunately, no one is going to be able to give you anwers to the "Why do i feel this way?" question; that is only for you to decide.  You're in your 30's, man.  It's beyond time to shrug the guilt associated with religion.  Much of what was "taught" (likely pounded into your brain, aka indoctrinated with) to you are extreme interpretations used to fit someone else's personal agenda, be it someone today or a few thousand years ago. MAKE YOUR OWN WAY IN LIFE AND LIVE BY THE RULES YOU SEE FIT!  FUCK WHAT ANYONE ELSE WANTS YOU TO DO!

The reality is, in regards to sex, there is no "right" or "wrong" way(s) to have sex so long as it is between two [or more, if that's your thing <img src="https://files.shroomery.org/smileys/shrug.gif" alt="" title=""/>] consenting adults.  Shed your fear, shed your guilt.


lyrics to part of a song for you:

Quote:

.....
And I spent too many years
Searching for somebody
To be my wrecking ball
And rebuild all that's broken
And I spent too many nights
Without ever thinking
Maybe I'm a wrecking ball
And I'm breaking all that I'm touching
And I spent too many days
Drowning in the shallows
From the mess of the man that I've made
And the nest of mistakes that I have to lay.....

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Great advice. Thanks for sharing!


A good perspective. Some people bloom late. Cheers.

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