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how should i tell my family?? *DELETED*
    #1739764 - 07/22/03 11:16 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

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Re: how should i tell my family?? [Re: 0toxic0]
    #1739802 - 07/22/03 11:32 PM (14 years, 7 months ago)

I lived under hardcore religious rule. The only thing you should do is be yourself, although sometimes a white lie can actually be for the better of both sides. But this is something inside of you telling you to express it, and you fear they will not accept it. If you do go about telling them and they are strongly religious expect some questioning. They may not be happy with who you are, but you are still who you are, before their knowing of how you feel. I moved out, and never dealt with it again. I let them know with rebellion (not reccomended). Sometimes you just have to lay it out and accept whatever comes next, and after that, and so on. Even if they disown you, you would have it off of your chest.


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Re: how should i tell my family?? [Re: 0toxic0]
    #1739911 - 07/23/03 12:07 AM (14 years, 7 months ago)

What have they got planned for you? I grew up in an athiest household and we celebrate Christmas and all that fun stuff. We just don't go to church. You could put a fancy spin on it and say you are a secular humanist and pray that they don't go and look up what that means.


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Re: how should i tell my family?? [Re: 0toxic0]
    #1740059 - 07/23/03 01:09 AM (14 years, 7 months ago)

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Re: how should i tell my family?? [Re: Xibalba]
    #1740632 - 07/23/03 11:25 AM (14 years, 7 months ago)

It sounds sever enough to warrant confrontation, which is sometimes unavoidable. If they have all sorts of shit planned that's not going to happen, because it's not what you want, you might as well let them know and get it over with. Sometimes people in very religious families end up just severing the ties; you might have to let them know that if they want you to be a part of the family they're going to have to let you be yourself.

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Re: how should i tell my family?? [Re: 0toxic0]
    #1743743 - 07/24/03 05:21 AM (14 years, 7 months ago)

I havent experienced this myself, but as you mentioned it is important to be true to who you are, and if the religious values of your parents are preventing this from happening then it is time to make things change.

The best way of dealing with the situation in my opinion would be to approach it in a nice and unconfrontational way. Maybe explain to them that at the foundations of what ever religion it is that they believe in is the importance of loving each other, being kind, considerate, moral and all the things we consider to be good in the world. If they can agree that much, then you can explain to them that they should try to see your choice from your point of view, that its difficult for you to hold beliefs simply because they hold them, and you want to experience life in a manner that will lead you to beliefs of your own. Explain that you understand that they only want the best for you, and in this set of circumstances the best might not be what think it is.

But then again, If you looked at my life at the moment, Im pretty unqualified to be giving anyone advice.

I hope it works out for you,

Our problem results from acting like cowboys on a limitless frontier when in truth we inhabit a living spaceship with a finely balanced life-support system." David C. Korton

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