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hairs
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Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut?
#2435322 - 03/15/04 02:41 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sorry, I posted this already elsewhere but it hadnt gotten any replies so.
She has done a lot of nasty things in her life. I wouldnt be so upset about it but, every sexual thing she has done has been with people that I have never had any amount of respect for, a lot of them I have straight up disliked, regardless of what they have done with MY girl. I try to blame it on her fucked up childhood. Though she hasn't been at all slutty for the duration of our relationship, it always haunts me to know where she has been. Hearing her stories feels like a dagger through my gut. Knowing that so many other guys know what its like to be intimate with her really makes me feel like shit. I dont think I can deal with it, I need to find myself a virgin!
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: hairs] 1
#2435358 - 03/15/04 02:47 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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Ask her not to tell you her stories.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slu [Re: hairs]
#2435480 - 03/15/04 03:10 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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You should leave her, or she should leave you. If you can't deal with someone's past, you shouldn't be with them.
And it's your problem, not hers.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slu [Re: valour]
#2435502 - 03/15/04 03:15 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah man, she is a ho...
Find someone who doesnt know your friends.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slu [Re: hairs]
#2435515 - 03/15/04 03:17 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think girls have just as much right to get away with having just as much sex as guys, but people shouldnt go around blurting it out and talking about it (if thats what they are doing). One thing is for a girl to sleep around alot with dignity and respect and another is to do it for the sake of being number one with the guys. I dont really know what you're story is or hers for that matter but if I were in your shoes I dont think I would be comfortable to hear about my girlfriend in that way but maybe she is trying to make a fresh start with you, I mean you did say she ahsnt been slutty through the duration of your relationship...
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: hairs]
#2435684 - 03/15/04 04:01 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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hairs said: Sorry, I posted this already elsewhere but it hadnt gotten any replies so.
She has done a lot of nasty things in her life. I wouldnt be so upset about it but, every sexual thing she has done has been with people that I have never had any amount of respect for, a lot of them I have straight up disliked, regardless of what they have done with MY girl. I try to blame it on her fucked up childhood. Though she hasn't been at all slutty for the duration of our relationship, it always haunts me to know where she has been. Hearing her stories feels like a dagger through my gut. Knowing that so many other guys know what its like to be intimate with her really makes me feel like shit. I dont think I can deal with it, I need to find myself a virgin!
She sounds like many others i have ran into, you need to either leave her and have nothing to do with her or stay and help her work out her problems witch include her past with her dad or who ever "touched" her and such when she was younger. If you choose to stay it will be a very long and bumpy road and if either one of you are under the age of 21 it wont last, at least your odds are far against you. So stop sit down and think long and hard about this one, because she need ALOT of help and in the end she might also realize your not the one your just the "nice guy" who was there to help her through a tough time.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: THEBOSS]
#2435726 - 03/15/04 04:13 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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been there dude. it sucks. just gotta figure a way to get over it.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slu [Re: hairs]
#2435798 - 03/15/04 04:34 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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hairs said: regardless of what they have done with MY girl.
Remember, in a relationship, nobody owns anyone. She's her own person, and your your own person. It's healthier to accept her for who she is now, which includes who she was. It is possible that it was a bad past, or natural experimentation, and as long as she's moved on, you should too.
I do have to admit though, that a virgin does have it's appeals
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slu [Re: temperance]
#2435809 - 03/15/04 04:37 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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hear that
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: hairs]
#2435839 - 03/15/04 04:49 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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Been there too..and I relate. You try to disregard it and look past it, but it just nags you.
It's understandable when you have a background, sexual or otherwise, that highly contrasts with hers..
Your heart will tell you one thing, but your brain will tell you the other thing, but only you can really feel what--in the long run--will be the more wiser path.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: SkorpivoMusterion]
#2435914 - 03/15/04 05:13 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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for those of you who have "been there too" what did you do about it.
I dont think I can be with her when I feel the way I do about what shes done, so I think I'll give it some time and see if I can ever get over it.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: hairs]
#2435941 - 03/15/04 05:20 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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If she has cheated on you , then yea you should be mad. But if she hasn't then remember this... The past is the past. If she is willing to change then fuck it and love her. But tell her you don't want to hear it and it makes you uncomfy(sp). But if you can't handle it then you need to my move on my friend. Remember I love you and do not have time for spell check and grammer.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: hairs]
#2435965 - 03/15/04 05:25 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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I didnt do anything about it--and that, I think, was just one of several reasons why the somewhat-inevitable break up occured in the future.
I guess some people, at some times, feel it's easier to try to ignore it out of blind love and stick with the game till it dries out and the obvious happens, rather than gather the balls and courage to say "ok, look, I want out" and risk hurting their partner or any other form of damage, etc etc..
That's all I can say man, at the moment.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: blackroselove]
#2435975 - 03/15/04 05:28 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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the thing is, I want to know about her past, even though it hurts. Another issue is she is going to planned parenthood to get birth control tomorrow, and in the heat of the moment, yesterday, I told her to forget about the meeting unless she plans on fucking some other trash. Ive told her I want out, but she doesn't, right now we are not speaking because she says she doesnt want to call me when I dont want to talk to her, when all I really want is her to tell me how much she loves me.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: hairs]
#2436087 - 03/15/04 06:00 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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hairs said: for those of you who have "been there too" what did you do about it.
Well, fucked around with her after partying like everyone else. But if she's your girlfriend, I could see that being tough... So if I were you, I would either get over it quick, or get lost. Who cares if she's had lots of sex, as long as she's not cheating on you. Maybe she can teach you some things, and at least she probably know what she likes, so ask her about that. If you're for real about the friends thing, tell her to change the names to protect the innocent
I dont know, I kind of like it when girls talk about their sexual experiences.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: hairs]
#2436095 - 03/15/04 06:02 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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hairs said: the thing is, I want to know about her past, even though it hurts.
Yuup. I was the same way too.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: hairs]
#2436158 - 03/15/04 06:19 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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As long as she's been faithful to you!
It depends on how deeply you feel for her ....that will decide weather or not you'll be able to put her past behind you....i guess?
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slu [Re: hairs]
#2436198 - 03/15/04 06:30 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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I agree that it certainly is true that if it bothers you a lot, you shouldn't ignore it and pretend everything is fine. When it comes down to it, it's up to how you feel and how she feels. Good luck.
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: hairs]
#2436212 - 03/15/04 06:33 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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i think as long as she knows its wrong, and agrees she will never do it again, i'd stick with her. You still should be mad, just deal with it calmly. If she seems like she will do it again, and isnt truely sorry, then dump her..
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Re: Am i wrong for being so upset at my girl for being a slut? [Re: Ripple]
#2436240 - 03/15/04 06:38 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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although i doubt ill be able to put it behind me, I think I'll try to make it work, until summer maybe. We are both only 18, me a little younger and shes still in highschool, but has her own place, with my best friends girlfriend. Hopefully I'll go to school far away and forget about all about her. I wish i didnt get kicked out of highschool cuz right before i left i met this total sweetie-virgin-freshman. I miss school
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