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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: Stonerware]
#2266732 - 01/23/04 06:37 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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LoL! I was an avid Lykis 101 student for my entire High School career. Well, ok I wasn't a student, as much of what he said would probably piss women off more than set them up to be there for you - but I do get your point in that he is simply about the tang and not the sweet water it's mixed with He has a funny program, though I've stopped listening to him for the past three years since I don't live in broadcast range anymore. In Los Angeles he's on from 3pm-7pm on 97.1fm. It's definitely an entertaining show, but it doesn't quite fit into the theme here me thinks BTW, I'll just simply chime in with "I agree" to many of the statements here. Approaching women sure is a pain, though it gets easier with time. Good luck guys (and me, for that matter)
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Murex
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The ones I really like I can't talk to. I did that once and stuttered like a fool.
One time thow, I went streight up to a girl I just saw and asked her what she was doing, she said- "I'm waiting for my boyfriend".
I'll never find a girl. There is so much work to finding one that I gave up long ago. I hope it all just finds me at some point in time.
So many girls are stuck-up or psycho. They all seem to be so shallow yet think so highly of themselves. I treat hot girls just the same as anyone else- Because they EXPECT me to treat them better, I just shove it back in their faces.
Maybe it's a sub-contious thing, but in a way, I treat hot girls worse than 'normal' girls. It's wierd.
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Xibalba
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: Stonerware]
#2269069 - 01/24/04 06:58 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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Edited by Xibalba (09/29/05 11:06 PM)
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RuNE
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Lots of ideas tossed around...gonna reply to a few.
First of, good going man. You're one of the 100 guys that actualy have the balls to go up and talk to her. They say its not about how many times you get knocked down, its how fast you get up. You really should have asked that second girl. Its so damn hard, but the faster you get used to rejection the faster you find the girl that's right for you.
Some of you were talking how easy it is for girls, why dont they ask YOU out. Well, no offense dude, but how bout you jump in their shoes for a change? The girl KNOWS she's cute. She's gonna go with the best thing she could get. Be that by personality AND looks. WTF kinda man are you if you cant even go up to and talk to her? You're already off her list if you're scared of her. No girl wants a 'scaredy cat'. You have to be something she really wants if you want HER to be asking you out.
Xibalba: I know exactly what you're talking about. I've read some 'player' books/sites too. They do get the pussy, but a lot of the people who follow those guides are just that. Followers. Eventualy it'll bite them in the ass.
The key, is to work on YOURSELF. Have goals, have dreams, have ambition. Dont be a fuckin pothead loser that gets stoned and sits on his ass all day playing video games and eating chips, expecting girls to jump on you. I mean sure you can do that if you like, but you will not make any girl happy. Once again, put yourself in any girl's shoes. Imagine your gf did that....lay there playing video games getting fat eating greasy foods, being all nasty. Would YOU want her? Make yourself look presentable. Get used to exercise, eat healthy, learn about anything interesting (hey this site is a good start! ), just.... i mean be IMPRESSIVE. You do this, and girls will radiate torwards YOU. The 'players' get girls because girls go for jerks cuz they mistake their personalities for confidence. Players are just jerks with moves who know how to play the game. You want to get a girl and keep her, you need confidence, and you need a good positive personality. Treat her good. If she tries to walk all over you, you can just tell her you're not looking for that, and you can leave. She probably wont wanna let you go after something like that. But anyway, someone once told me that 'real men' are men like the character Maximus from Gladiator. He's passionate yet he has a strong will. Just have some will, and you shall get the girl. The longer it takes you to learn to stop being a wuss, the longer it will be before you find your future wife/long term gf. Girls are just human too you know. They need our love like we need theirs. (well....unless youre gay. haha!)
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Ripple
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The only girl I approach is my wife and I still don't know what works???
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RuNE
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: Ripple]
#2271816 - 01/25/04 02:04 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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Once you're in a long term relationship, the best book i've read on the subject is 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'. It's a really famous book, and i think i've already recommended it a few times before on the boards.
The book is for both men and women. In fact, both of you -should- read it for it to have a real impact. Its very informative, and more importantly it WORKS. Take it from my experience, i've used ideas presented in this book in my 3 year relationship and it really does work. Less arguments, less resentment, more trust, and such other things you'll get if you read this book, and actualy make use of it. (i've already read it twice, i need to read it again, its just so much stuff to jam in at once!) Both of you will be laughing while reading it because you realise as you read all the dumb mistakes (and misconseptions) you've made in past arguments, and how futile and pointless they were. I can honestly say i feel older after reading this book. In fact, while the book was still fresh in memory, i remember chuckling at couples on the bus who were arguing, because i could totaly pick apart the whole argument, and understand how both of them were going at it so wrong.
Anyway, bottom line, its a good book. Take it or leave it.
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Drummer
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: Ripple]
#2272101 - 01/25/04 03:42 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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Ripple said: The only girl I approach is my wife and I still don't know what works???
My girl is kind of like Michigan weather, you never know what the day will bring or what she is going to be like 2 hours later. She tolerates me and puts up with my shit, that in itself is a miracle so I will try to keep her around as long as she will stay.
Just stay confident Kosmic and keep your ego in check. The right one will come to you or meet you halfway.
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: Xibalba]
#2272314 - 01/25/04 05:24 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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The most slimy superficial pigheaded chauvinistic sons of bitches cynically peddling a bunch of cheap mind games, fake personalities and selfish macho attitudes to losers with no self-respect so they can trick sluts with even less self-respect into having meaningless sex with them. I'd like to think it's all made-up bullshit, but the sad thing is that I know in my heart they're right. That's really how it works. It's how society is set up, they really do have the rules of the game figured out.
And I'll have no part of it. Yes, I'm a true playerhater and it's not because I'm jealous. I don't hate the players because they're having sex and I'm not, I hate them because they are phony assholes. And as for the dumb shallow bitches who reward them for it with a neverending supply of blowjobs? Fuck them. No, really, go right ahead, I'm sure as hell not going to. Not if they paid me.
I feel the same way!
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I've never hit on a girl before. I probably never will. I'm absolutely terrified of girls. And I'm a freak that would get laughed at. I've only been hit on once and that was by a guy.
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Psilocybeingzz
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: ]
#2272680 - 01/25/04 07:52 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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I have been hit on by guys before, in fact my buddies call me.....dont laugh, the "fag magnet", cuase gay men hit on me most of all.
It really does suck!
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Phluck
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: Murex]
#2272847 - 01/25/04 09:05 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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"Maybe it's a sub-contious thing, but in a way, I treat hot girls worse than 'normal' girls. It's wierd."
Resentment stemming from sexual frustration.
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TODAY
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: Phluck]
#2273134 - 01/25/04 10:38 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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i'm good at talking to ugly girls for some reason.
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Frog
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: justsmurfy]
#2273447 - 01/26/04 12:47 AM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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justsmurfy said: I often wonder if women really understand how hard it is to approach some one. How many of you have had a woman approach you? If it's so easy and they're so liberated, why don't they do it more often? Why wait for the guy to initiate a relationship? My guess is that they find it as hard to come up with the courage as we do, but enjoy the benefits of having the male expected to have the balls to do something about it. Yeah, maybe I'm a bit bitter about being in a situation where I'm forced to approach women and deal with the strong possibility of rejection (both nerve wracking), but what ticks me off is that women act like it's an easy thing to do, or if you don't do it well, that you're a jackass. Rrrrrrr. Hypocrisy. Where the hell's spell check when I need it? I hope it's coming back.
-JustSmurfy
I was rejected once. That was enough for me, I guess, because I never tried picking up on a guy again after that. I guess it's a self-esteem issue.
I appreciate what you guys go through to try to date a girl in whom you are interested. I agree that us girls should try to do what you do more often. We'd probably appreciate you better.
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LeViTY
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: Frog]
#2273480 - 01/26/04 01:04 AM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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I have never hit on a guy. It's too scary. But it's really cool when a guy has the courage to talk to a girl, because I know I couldn't do it.
I'm glad I'm not a guy, hehe.
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stefan
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: LeViTY]
#2273820 - 01/26/04 04:42 AM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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I talk about this with girls sometimes about why does the man always has to do al the moves. And I ask them why they don't approach guys they really like. NO WAY, way to scary! is almost always the answer. And they agree that it isn't fair that man always have to approach girls but at the same tiome they're very happy they don't have to do it. seems like man just have a little more balls to go gor it although it's still scary damnit
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TODAY
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: stefan]
#2274581 - 01/26/04 11:58 AM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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i think i must be one of those really hot guys but just don't know it...its the only logical explanation of why i don't get any girls...they must be afraid of how sexy i am .
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Murex
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: TODAY]
#2275793 - 01/26/04 08:24 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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Just keep telling yourself that....
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justsmurfy
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: Frog]
#2283550 - 01/29/04 10:50 AM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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Frog said: I was rejected once. That was enough for me, I guess, because I never tried picking up on a guy again after that. I guess it's a self-esteem issue.
I appreciate what you guys go through to try to date a girl in whom you are interested. I agree that us girls should try to do what you do more often. We'd probably appreciate you better.
Dang, if that's you in your avatar, it's hard to believe you got nuked!
I've had some female friends talk about trying to get a guy to ask them out and make them think it was their idea. What's your take on that? It sounds pretty frustrating to me.
-JustSmurfy
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kushlover
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Re: Approaching Girls [Re: justsmurfy]
#2283988 - 01/29/04 12:55 PM (20 years, 1 month ago) |
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This thread really hits home for me. I was in a long term relationship till about a year ago. Since, I've been trying to fill the void I now feel from the lack of close companionship. Much to my dismay I'm having the same problems as described here. It is comforting to know I'm not alone.
Wise man once said, "If I was only castrated, I'd quit banging my head on the wall".
I guess the key is to be happy with what you've got. Despite feeling empty in places without the ex. I do have new freedoms I missed when I was with her.
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