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But seriously, I have so much love to give but sometimes it seems impossible to find someone both worthy and willing to receive it.

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least you gave it a try, a lot of guys dont have the balls to approach a girl like that.

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kosmic_charlie said:

But seriously, I have so much love to give but sometimes it seems impossible to find someone both worthy and willing to receive it.

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same here, looks like this is a common problem

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I often wonder if women really understand how hard it is to approach some one. How many of you have had a woman approach you? If it's so easy and they're so liberated, why don't they do it more often?

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kosmic_charlie said:

Yeah that crossed my mind.  I never really did look to see if she had a ring after she told me that.  Afterwards, I thought maybe I should have said something half jokingly like "Well come on it's not like you're married or anything."  But if she made that up about being engaged and is gonna play games like that, then it's her problem because she's missing out on a good thing.  I'll have no part in that.

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exactly the attitude i have about rejection/etc
though even though i have an easy going attitude towards rejection, its the first step that makes me nervous, not being rejected but just feeling pure awkward, i just dont have the confidence i guess
good to see you finally got the courage though


"The husband does seem really pathetic though and I don't think she and her husband are even sleeping together any more but they still live together. "
really sad to here that, i feel bad for the man

girl i used to like is currently talking to me after her fiance broke up with her and is dating like some 15 yr old..
shes still completely totally and insanely nuts about him though, so i dont really wanna have any part of that

stefan said:

kosmic_charlie said:

But seriously, I have so much love to give but sometimes it seems impossible to find someone both worthy and willing to receive it.

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ever notice how your IQ drops about 50 points the second you try to talk to someone you like? i'm shy as it is, but put me in a room with a girl i have a crush on and i turn into the village idiot

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Exactly! Girls, especially the cute ones, don't know how easy they have it. They expect guys to be able to just come up and talk to them and work through all these intricacies involved in a two way conversation to successfuly win a date or phone number from them. And they think guys that have trouble doing this don't have any balls.

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going straight for the kill is just NOT how to do it in MY book...I take TIME..and just LET it happen, I dont force anything, or tempt fate in any way.

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ever notice how your IQ drops about 50 points the second you try to talk to someone you like? i'm shy as it is, but put me in a room with a girl i have a crush on and i turn into the village idiot. i fucking hate it.

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justsmurfy said:

I often wonder if women really understand how hard it is to approach some one.  How many of you have had a woman approach you?  If it's so easy and they're so liberated, why don't they do it more often?  Why wait for the guy to initiate a relationship?  My guess is that they find it as hard to come up with the courage as we do, but enjoy the benefits of having the male expected to have the balls to do something about it.  Yeah, maybe I'm a bit bitter about being in a situation where I'm forced to approach women and deal with the strong possibility of rejection (both nerve wracking), but what ticks me off is that women act like it's an easy thing to do, or if you don't do it well, that you're a jackass.  Rrrrrrr.  Hypocrisy.  .

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Yeah, once I was talking to this girl on a date.  I asked her if she liked me before I asked her out and she said yes.  Then i asked her why she didn't ask me out, if she liked me then.  She said: "Thats a guy's job." 

So I was like, "But isnt saying 'Asking girls out is a guy's job' a little like saying, 'Cooking, cleaning, and raising children is a woman's job'?" 

After that, the conversation took a decidedly negative turn, as she had no good answer to my question.  There was no second date, and I never got any.

After that, I decided not to talk to chicks about stuff like that anymore.

DoctorJ said:

Yeah, once I was talking to this girl on a date.  I asked her if she liked me before I asked her out and she said yes.  Then i asked her why she didn't ask me out, if she liked me then.  She said: "Thats a guy's job." 

So I was like, "But isnt saying 'Asking girls out is a guy's job' a little like saying, 'Cooking, cleaning, and raising children is a woman's job'?" 

After that, the conversation took a decidedly negative turn, as she had no good answer to my question.  There was no second date, and I never got any.

After that, I decided not to talk to chicks about stuff like that anymore.

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Some things just have to be said though, nice job 

Ripple said:

The only girl I approach is my wife and I still don't know what works???

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The most slimy superficial pigheaded chauvinistic sons of bitches cynically peddling a bunch of cheap mind games, fake personalities and selfish macho attitudes to losers with no self-respect so they can trick sluts with even less self-respect into having meaningless sex with them. I'd like to think it's all made-up bullshit, but the sad thing is that I know in my heart they're right. That's really how it works. It's how society is set up, they really do have the rules of the game figured out.

And I'll have no part of it. Yes, I'm a true playerhater and it's not because I'm jealous. I don't hate the players because they're having sex and I'm not, I hate them because they are phony assholes. And as for the dumb shallow bitches who reward them for it with a neverending supply of blowjobs? Fuck them. No, really, go right ahead, I'm sure as hell not going to. Not if they paid me.
 

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I feel the same way!

justsmurfy said:

I often wonder if women really understand how hard it is to approach some one. How many of you have had a woman approach you? If it's so easy and they're so liberated, why don't they do it more often? Why wait for the guy to initiate a relationship? My guess is that they find it as hard to come up with the courage as we do, but enjoy the benefits of having the male expected to have the balls to do something about it. Yeah, maybe I'm a bit bitter about being in a situation where I'm forced to approach women and deal with the strong possibility of rejection (both nerve wracking), but what ticks me off is that women act like it's an easy thing to do, or if you don't do it well, that you're a jackass. Rrrrrrr. Hypocrisy. Where the hell's spell check when I need it? I hope it's coming back.

-JustSmurfy

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Frog said:

I was rejected once.  That was enough for me, I guess, because I never tried picking up on a guy again after that.  I guess it's a self-esteem issue. 

I appreciate what you guys go through to try to date a girl in whom you are interested.  I agree that us girls should try to do what you do more often.  We'd probably appreciate you better.

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Dang, if that's you in your avatar, it's hard to believe you got nuked!

I've had some female friends talk about trying to get a guy to ask them out and make them think it was their idea.  What's your take on that?  It sounds pretty frustrating to me.

-JustSmurfy