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You hear that ego death? You have to work on yourself. The answer is to get better. What you need to do is solve your problem. There is something about you women don't like, and you have to change it

Perhaps you could be a little more vague?

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Let's try not to turn this discussion into a men-women issues because it's not the case.
Low self esteem is NOT an aspect of intelligence.
I happen to know a few people (both men and women) who are introvert. I myself am introvert. I think that there's a misunderstanding regarding what this means.
Being introvert is when an individual prefers to spend more time alone (with their thoughts, preoccupations and interests) than with a bunch of people. They are more introspective and what might be confused with shyness is in fact a misinterpretation of their actions.
For example, when I find myself in situations where I am surrounded by lots of people with who I don't really relate to, I have an uneasy feeling. I feel and act somewhat separated from the rest, and someone from the outside can interpret this as a lack of self esteem. When someone from that group tries to have a conversation with me I don't behave as enthused as the rest and try to make that conversation as short as possible. This is not because I feel shy, also it is not because I have something against those people. It is just that in that particular moment I feel like being just me with my own thoughts.
Now, getting back to having a low self esteem, this is a psychological trait. It is generated of one's own inability to communicate with those around them, even if this is what they really want. They can't do that because they are in a constant state of thinking about their flaws and what others might see wrong with them. It's hard to start talking and open up when your mind in your mind, questions like "how he/she will interpret what I'm about to say?"; "does this make me look fat?", "maybe they are making fun of me" keep popping up all the time. In a situation like that, their minds become overly busy with inhibiting those insecurities, which in extent makes them totally unable to interact in a efficient manner with other people.
Low self esteem is a form of paranoia.
And paranoia occurs in moments in which an individual is unable to use reason and get themselves out of that clouded mind sensation. Instead of facing and analyzing their fears, they prefer to ignore them. And as long as one doesn't do all that, of course that one is incapable of finding the roots of their problems and fix what's wrong.
Now, if you ask me, this is not what I would call intelligence.

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You hear that ego death? You have to work on yourself. The answer is to get better. What you need to do is solve your problem. There is something about you women don't like, and you have to change it

Perhaps you could be a little more vague?

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Of course he has to work on himself.
All of us have to do that.
Thinking that whatever problem (such as loneliness, frustration, sadness, apathy and the like) is being inflicted (by somewhere outside of ourselves) to us is deluded and a form of escapism.
We feel lonely because we can't feel good about who we are, and then we look for answers in other people. We need others to occupy our time and thoughts because we want to escape that inner dialogue that takes place in our mind when we're alone.
Every person that makes us feel the least discomfort is merely a reflection of our issues, and if we're wise enough to get over ourselves, we can use all that as a pointer towards what we  need to work with ourselves.

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Mushroom trip - Can you actually make a post explaining what you mean? Or do you just make short and apparently condescending statements?

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Low self esteem is a form of paranoia.
And paranoia occurs in moments in which an individual is unable to use reason and get themselves out of that clouded mind sensation. Instead of facing and analyzing their fears, they prefer to ignore them. And as long as one doesn't do all that, of course that one is incapable of finding the roots of their problems and fix what's wrong.
Now, if you ask me, this is not what I would call intelligence.

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Difficulties men face in trying to attract women are not the same difficulties women face in trying to attract men.

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1. Naturalist Intelligence (“Nature Smart”)

2. Musical Intelligence (“Musical Smart”)

3. Logical-Mathematical Intelligence (Number/Reasoning Smart)

4. Existential Intelligence
Sensitivity and capacity to tackle deep questions about human existence, such as the meaning of life, why do we die, and how did we get here.

5. Interpersonal Intelligence (People Smart”)
Interpersonal intelligence is the ability to understand and interact effectively with others. It involves effective verbal and nonverbal communication, the ability to note distinctions among others, sensitivity to the moods and temperaments of others, and the ability to entertain multiple perspectives. Teachers, social workers, actors, and politicians all exhibit interpersonal intelligence. Young adults with this kind of intelligence are leaders among their peers, are good at communicating, and seem to understand others’ feelings and motives.

6. Bodily-Kinesthetic Intelligence (“Body Smart”)

7. Linguistic Intelligence (Word Smart)

8. Intra-personal Intelligence (Self Smart”)
Intra-personal intelligence is the capacity to understand oneself and one’s thoughts and feelings, and to use such knowledge in planning and directioning one’s life. Intra-personal intelligence involves not only an appreciation of the self, but also of the human condition. It is evident in psychologist, spiritual leaders, and philosophers. These young adults may be shy. They are very aware of their own feelings and are self-motivated.

9. Spatial Intelligence (“Picture Smart”)

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If you're relationships are ending so quickly, you probably need to work on yourself some. There is something about you that others are being turned away by.

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How can I be myself, someone with no confidence yet be confident (as suggested) to be attractive?

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Face your anxieties instead of masking them.

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What doesn't help is that none of the wpmen I'm with will speak with me. They won't tell me why they don't want to be with me. They won't even tell me they don't want to be with me. They just ignore me as if trying to not hurt my feelings - I'd rather be hurt though and told what I need to change!

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The reason why don't tell you what's wrong with you means that maybe they are aware that it's none of their business to change you.

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I do not agree with you implication that paranoia or other irrational thinking is unintelligent. Some of the most brilliant minds have been unbalanced and self-destructive. Studies have shown highly intelligent people have higher rates of neuroses, phobia and more serious mental illnesses. The inability (or unwillingness) to face fears is an emotional issue that has nothing to do with the amount of analysis applied to a mental hangup, or the neural horsepower that person has at their disposal.

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Just because intelligent people often suffer from mental illness does not justify it in any way, shape, or form. Intelligent people are more prone to mental illness because they are more perceptive and place greater emphasis on detail.

Ego Death,

I wish you the best of luck mate. It's been in my experience, that if you can come to love yourself, others will too.

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Just because intelligent people often suffer from mental illness does not justify it in any way, shape, or form. Intelligent people are more prone to mental illness because they are more perceptive and place greater emphasis on detail.

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Who's trying to justify mental illness?  I don't even know what that means

I was rebutting the assertion that neurotic behavior is a sign of low intelligence.

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I wish you the best of luck mate. It's been in my experience, that if you can come to love yourself, others will too.

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^^^Aye, this is the bottom line.