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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MagicHombre]
#11969494 - 02/05/10 02:00 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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MagicHombre said: In my experience it's not a good idea. Jealousy isn't something that you can just not do. I mean, try it. Try not to be jealous, eventually it'll catch up to you.
I've got a group of friends who are very into the polyamory lifestyle and for a while so was I. The reason I quit that nonsense is because there was always drama involved. ALWAYS. You think soap opera's are drama? Well imagine if each of the characters were polyamorous... Who slept with who, who wants to sleep with who, who fell in love after sleeping with who, who fell out of love after sleeping with who. And round and round it goes. You can't escape the feelings of jealousy, cause eventually someone that you consider hotter and younger is going to capture the attention of your mate (open relationship or not, still your mate).
Then what? You or your mate will start sneaking around on the side. I'm not saying that this will definitely happen but from what I've seen, it usually does.
I don't recommend it.
So basically you failed and you're trying to make yourself feel better by thinking that everyone else will fail.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#11970047 - 02/05/10 03:26 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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MagicHombre said: In my experience it's not a good idea. Jealousy isn't something that you can just not do. I mean, try it. Try not to be jealous, eventually it'll catch up to you.
I've got a group of friends who are very into the polyamory lifestyle and for a while so was I. The reason I quit that nonsense is because there was always drama involved. ALWAYS. You think soap opera's are drama? Well imagine if each of the characters were polyamorous... Who slept with who, who wants to sleep with who, who fell in love after sleeping with who, who fell out of love after sleeping with who. And round and round it goes. You can't escape the feelings of jealousy, cause eventually someone that you consider hotter and younger is going to capture the attention of your mate (open relationship or not, still your mate).
Then what? You or your mate will start sneaking around on the side. I'm not saying that this will definitely happen but from what I've seen, it usually does.
I don't recommend it.
So basically you failed and you're trying to make yourself feel better by thinking that everyone else will fail.
No, I just got tired of bullshit drama. In polyamory and swinging there's loads of it. Just be single and fuck who you want.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MagicHombre]
#11970315 - 02/05/10 04:09 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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What if you want to be with someone, fucking other people? How does that turn into drama?
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#11970515 - 02/05/10 04:42 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Eh, I think MagicHombre has a point. It would take a really mature group of people to be polyamorous (is that the word I want here?) and still be able to keep their rising emotions out of it. Some people can probably do it and do it well, but they'd need a really excellent grasp on their emotions to pull it off. If even one person in the group starts to get jealous, it seems like drama would escalate.
Ps - this thread is 5 years old.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#11970521 - 02/05/10 04:44 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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MushroomTrip said: What if you want to be with someone, fucking other people? How does that turn into drama?
LOL! Lie to me and say that women aren't generally crazy...
You're right, it wouldn't turn into drama!
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: lukeboots]
#11970647 - 02/05/10 05:04 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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lukeboots said: Eh, I think MagicHombre has a point. It would take a really mature group of people to be polyamorous (is that the word I want here?) and still be able to keep their rising emotions out of it. Some people can probably do it and do it well, but they'd need a really excellent grasp on their emotions to pull it off. If even one person in the group starts to get jealous, it seems like drama would escalate.
Ps - this thread is 5 years old.
Yeah, very true... I've never known a group of people to be THAT mature, let alone agree on a pizza.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MagicHombre]
#11970804 - 02/05/10 05:28 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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MushroomTrip said: What if you want to be with someone, fucking other people? How does that turn into drama?
LOL! Lie to me and say that women aren't generally crazy...
You're right, it wouldn't turn into drama!
I don't know all women, so I can't tell you how they are, generally. Can you, or are you just using a small limited experience and over-generalizing it? All I know is that, once when I experimented with an open relationship, it was the man that went completely hysterical and in crisis of his masculinity. Of course, this is my own limited experience too. Besides, I met a few couples in an open relationship that were more than happy and completely in love with each other. Not all is drama.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#11971028 - 02/05/10 05:57 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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MushroomTrip said: I don't know all women, so I can't tell you how they are, generally. Can you, or are you just using a small limited experience and over-generalizing it?
Well, my "small limited experience" isn't exactly small or limited. Unlike you I haven't been in just "one" open relationship. And you're right, it's not always the women's fault.
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MushroomTrip said: All I know is that, once when I experimented with an open relationship, it was the man that went completely hysterical and in crisis of his masculinity. Of course, this is my own limited experience too.
So, you were projecting earlier when you said that "I failed," you meant that YOU failed. So, The man (YOU) went crazy, which they do, I know I have. Let me rephrase and try and explain this better... PEOPLE are crazy. You just made my point.
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MushroomTrip said: Besides, I met a few couples in an open relationship that were more than happy and completely in love with each other.
Not all is drama.
Met a few couples, eh? Have you ever LIVED with them for a matter of months or did you just have a few drinks with them? Ya know, you really don't know people until you've lived with them... I can tell you from my extended experience that things are not always what they seem. My point is... eventually it all turns to drama sooner or later.
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Edited by MagicHombre (02/05/10 06:37 PM)
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: Phishgrrl]
#11971052 - 02/05/10 06:00 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Phishgrrl said: What do you guys think? Good or bad........and I KNOW it totally depends. I guess I am really wanting to hear of others' personal experiences.
I think it's a great idea and I think that almost nobody is emotionally equipped to handle it without making a mess out of it. I couldn't and I've never met anyone who can. But I'm sure there are some out there.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MagicHombre]
#11973626 - 02/06/10 03:43 AM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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MushroomTrip said: I don't know all women, so I can't tell you how they are, generally. Can you, or are you just using a small limited experience and over-generalizing it?
Well, my "small limited experience" isn't exactly small or limited. Unlike you I haven't been in just "one" open relationship. And you're right, it's not always the women's fault.
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MushroomTrip said: All I know is that, once when I experimented with an open relationship, it was the man that went completely hysterical and in crisis of his masculinity. Of course, this is my own limited experience too.
So, you were projecting earlier when you said that "I failed," you meant that YOU failed. So, The man (YOU) went crazy, which they do, I know I have. Let me rephrase and try and explain this better... PEOPLE are crazy. You just made my point.
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MushroomTrip said: Besides, I met a few couples in an open relationship that were more than happy and completely in love with each other.
Not all is drama.
Met a few couples, eh? Have you ever LIVED with them for a matter of months or did you just have a few drinks with them? Ya know, you really don't know people until you've lived with them... I can tell you from my extended experience that things are not always what they seem. My point is... eventually it all turns to drama sooner or later.
Seek help little buddy.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#11974975 - 02/06/10 12:10 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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*Calls Ghostbusters*
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#11975145 - 02/06/10 12:43 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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That was pretty condescending, MT.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: lukeboots]
#11975285 - 02/06/10 01:06 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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What exactly was condescending? For you people, it's fully understandable to get all whiny and pissy, but god forbid someone makes a joke, that's just crossing the line. Luckily enough, I really don't give a crap about all this.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#11975344 - 02/06/10 01:16 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Whiny and pissy, hah. Give it a rest.
If you can't understand how "seek help little guy, LOL" came across as condescending, there might be something wrong with your ability to understand written tone. At least I can finally understand why so many people on this site think you're a terrible debater that resorts to personal attacks to justify your arguments.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: lukeboots]
#11976969 - 02/06/10 05:45 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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She's right.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: Icelander]
#11977162 - 02/06/10 06:17 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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I didn't say she was wrong...?
But for the sake of the discussion- right about what?
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: lukeboots]
#11977266 - 02/06/10 06:32 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Did I say you said it?
She's right about everything. (ever see a pic of her?)
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: Icelander]
#11977288 - 02/06/10 06:36 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, I have, quite a few of them.
And no, you didn't say that. But I refuse to let someone else be right about everything - that's a trait that MT and I share.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: lukeboots]
#11977894 - 02/06/10 08:00 PM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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You're right of course, she's just right about you.
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Re: Polyamory/ open Relationships? Any experience? Opinions? [Re: Icelander]
#11980810 - 02/07/10 10:25 AM (14 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, yeah yeah. I stand by the things I've said in this thread!
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