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looner2 said:
You're out of your mind! Most women I know are not focused on being better than men, that's just ridiculousness.

First off, I took the "being better" part from ellenmyshade, she is the one that said it first... read:

For many women, it's not about being equal to the male anymore...it's about being better. In my opinion, that's a faulty mindset.

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Yes, I said that, but allow me to elaborate. "Better" was perhaps too broad a word to use.  Overall, I like being a woman.  But I cannot deny that there is something weird going on within my gender in regards to balance.  Keep in mind that this is my observation *overall,* as I try to give every person the benefit of a doubt. 

Many women behave as though they have a chip on their shoulder, as though they are "owed" something simply on virtue of being a woman.  Some women (not all of course, just making a point) are rabid men abusers, not just physically, but emotionally as well.  Most of my female friends will REFUSE to compromise in a relationship, leaving that burden to the male.  I have seen this with domestic issues, such as female to male abuse being tolerated, while male to female abuse carrying much harsher penalties. 

I have had a personal friend accused as a rapist, and you better believe that hell broke lose upon him...he was instantly painted in a negative light.  The accusations were proved to be false later on, but the treatment he recieved was abysmal.  It troubles me that we are no longer giving guys the benefit of a doubt when it comes to the issue of rape.  We are conditioned to automatically believe the female for some reason. 

Now, it sort of seems that women get a negative reputation because they handle problems differently then men do.  Women use guile to get what they want, and a less direct approach.  They are better at using what can be seen as "underhanded" tactics to achieve a goal.  I'm not saying this is good or bad, just pointing out that men and women handle issues differently. 

The one thing that irks me about my fellow females, is the "entitlement attitude" that I consistantly come across in them.  I think women feel as though they've been oppressed for many centuries, so they feel like they deserve some extra leeway in a lot of matters, like I've already detailed.  GRANTED this attitude is not gender specific, but I *have* noticed a certain overcompensation within society that seems to cater towards the "needs" of women. 

At the risk of being strangled by my fellow ladies, ( ) I have also noticed some truth in what Looner is saying. I don't think women INTEND or plot to bring men down, but sometimes that is how it appears in their rabid efforts to "right past wrongs." 

Maybe one day we can all meet in the middle.

looner2 said:

Well... it's obvious that looner2 lives in a really cool place where there isn't this unspoken understanding that women should be treated as less than equal to men. The Yin to the Pleasantville Yang?

Never did I say that women should be treated less then men. Can you point out where I did?

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silversoul7 said:

I was just thinking: it might have to do with the fact that women are generally more communicative than men. I don't know many female musicians, but I've met lots of girls who write poetry. There have also been many great female authors. Guys aren't so good with words, so they use music or visual art to express themselves.

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