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Unfolding Nature Shop: Unfolding Nature: Being in the Implicate Order

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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: Rahz]
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What do you suggest I do to make it up to her, anything?

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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: krypto2000]
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Say it with flowers. :inlove3:


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"Don't believe everything you think". -Anom.

" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

With much wisdom comes much sorrow,
The more knowledge, the more grief.
Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC

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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: Icelander]
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krypto2000 said:
What do you suggest I do to make it up to her, anything?


Just tell her you lied, you value her trust, you hurt yourself by lieing to her, and will you forgive me?

If she says yes, thank her. Tell her, her forgiveness heals your heart or some shit.;)

Cause it will. The goal isn't a plea for pity or sympathy, no corny lines, just honesty. You know.


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rahz

comfort pleasure power love     truth awareness peace I am      I feel      I do     I love  I speak    I see    I know

why there is reality and patterned, law-like consistency at all, rather than noise or non-reality is not a question physics answers. It's a question physics presupposes an answer to in order to provide other answers.

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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: Rahz]
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I think she'd rather have flowers. You know how women are.


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"Don't believe everything you think". -Anom.

" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

With much wisdom comes much sorrow,
The more knowledge, the more grief.
Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC

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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: Icelander]
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krypto2000 said:
What do you suggest I do to make it up to her, anything?


Blatant honesty, truth, and communication are the keys. If you don't use those three things, you will perpetually live out in your head the "what ifs" and "I wonders" and it will eat away at you whether you are consciously aware or not. You just have to--in person--tell her everything you feel about her without holding back anything... anything. This will probably be really hard, but once you do it, no matter what the outcome, things will only get better. I had a similar situation where I didn't tell the girl I liked that I liked her for a good 4 months, and it culminated to me running to her dorm and confessing everything. I was shot down, and felt like shit for 2-3 days, but after that I felt amazing. It had been eating me up and destroying me inside, turning me into this other, submissive person that was very unlike my true personality. When I did it though, it was like a weight was lifted off of my heart and I could function normally. You just have to be 100% honest no matter what, and things will turn out as they should.

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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: Icelander]
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Icelander said:
I think she'd rather have flowers. You know how women are.


A husband stops at the florists on his way home. At the door, he greet his wife with a bouquet of flowers. The wife says ascerbically, "I suppose that means you want me to spread my legs."

"No," the husband replies, "I think a vase will work just fine."


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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
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Philosophy or Spirituality?


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"Don't believe everything you think". -Anom.

" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

With much wisdom comes much sorrow,
The more knowledge, the more grief.
Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC

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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: Icelander]
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If you did not chuckle at that one, I will ban myself for an hour.


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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
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Well she's in another state for the next month so I can't see her in person and she won't answer the phone for me right now. Should I just wait until she gets back, or try to call her in a week or so? What d'you guys think?

She loves white roses, I had planned to greet her with some either way when she gets back. I'd rather be her friend than nothing though, and I don't want to scare her off.

And about the honesty thing. I mean, I can understand telling her how I feel, but how do I explain what happened? Should I really tell her I thought I was jesus lol? I can't see her believing me, or... well I dunno. I mean I don't think she'll think I'm making it up... well.. I really don't know. It's hard to put myself in her shoes yunno. I've been in this state of mind for the last 2 months. I'm new to this earth. It's hard to relate to normal people now.

I also haven't seen her in a few months and right now our relationship is fairly distant. We talk from time to time, but I haven't talked to her in about a month or 2, probably since this thing started actually, with the exception of a week or so ago when  started talking to her again. Oddly enough she did write about me on myspace, like half her posts were about me. It was so weird. I'm very confused on how to approach this.

I have no intention of lying to her, but is complete honesty, as in tell all, really the best policy here? I fear she won't be ready for it. I definitely have to start as more of a friend at first I think. I believe she likes me more than a friend, she definitely gives off that impression, but 1.) It's hard to trust myself, especially now, my mind has changed so much lately, and 2.) If I scare her off now, that's it for, likely, another few months minimum.

Her mother and father don't like me, though they haven't seen me in a couple years now, so there's not a whole lot riding for me atm. I dunno, I really am lost here for the time being. Things were going so great with us and then bam!

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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: krypto2000]
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as in tell all, really the best policy here? I fear she won't be ready for it.


I think you're right. Self trust is a big deal, that's what I ment about forgiving yourself, before you ask her for forgiveness. It's cool you can look at it like that. Just take it easy. Give it some time, and you'll look back on your experience with a little more balance. Call her if you think it would do some good, but you don't have to spill your guts about your experience, in order to apologise for some specific thing you said, right?


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rahz

comfort pleasure power love     truth awareness peace I am      I feel      I do     I love  I speak    I see    I know

why there is reality and patterned, law-like consistency at all, rather than noise or non-reality is not a question physics answers. It's a question physics presupposes an answer to in order to provide other answers.

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Re: So I've reached enlightenment [Re: Rahz]
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Yah, well I think I'm just gonna call her next weekend or so. Hopefully she'll be over it enough to talk to me then. To answer the phone :frown:.

When she gets back, unless something goes horribly wrong between then and.. then, I'll greet her with some roses and pour my heart out. I like that idea. Doesn't matter if she doesn't agree with me, at least she'll know. Nothing can happen if I say nothing yunno. At least this way it might open up a door.

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