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Toddo
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bah...a girl question...need some opinions
#4028683 - 04/07/05 09:23 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Have a question.
Being a 18 year old high schooler...i have experiences a lot of what felt like love (just really liking someone..didn't now them well enough to love them.) But being rejected over and over (reject as in, they just thought it was funny that i actually liked them) I would feel so hurt. After so many failed attempts at meeting A NICE girl that liked me too, i think i built a wall around my self. I really just forced my self no to fall for anyone one..save the hurt . I'm the typical skinny teenager who will fills out in there 20's (i hope lol). I don't think I'm ugly...its just getting pushed away so much just really crushes ones self esteem around girls .
So there's a girl I been talking too online alot. I chilled with her a few times. I have no real feelings for her but she seems to be into me. I was telling her about this trip I had at the nature center...and she said she wanted me to take her there. Over all shes really nice, 1-10 for looks...being like a 7.
Should I break my walls down and give her a chance? I just keep telling my self to wait for that HOT smart one that's gonna just fall for you..heh. I also get presure from my older brothers...all the girlfriends they brought home where really hot!
what does everyone think? bah...im lost
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4028723 - 04/07/05 09:28 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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i think you shouldnt be worried about falling in love or not falling in love, have fun with her hook up with her, if you like it ask her out if not whatever. Live and have fun while your still young, there will be time for worrying about falling in love later
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: infamous]
#4028729 - 04/07/05 09:29 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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if anything get with her for the experience, confidence boost
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4028730 - 04/07/05 09:29 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Knock down those walls boy!!
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4028759 - 04/07/05 09:34 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Stop looking for love. Just enjoy your life.
Love will happen when your not looking.
And if you keep looking for a hot woman......your never going to find one.
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4028768 - 04/07/05 09:37 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Yes, I'd go for it. Don't feel bad that you've been shot down a time or two. Trust me, EVERY guy has. You never know, she just may be "the one". And if not, well just keep trying - you'll find your girl. Good luck!
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: niteowl]
#4028782 - 04/07/05 09:40 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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And if you keep looking for a hot woman......your never going to find one.
I totally agree. When you meet someone that just knocks you over with their personality and their outlook on life, it makes them look ten times better then what other people might see. But its all about what you see not others. Dont worry about what others think.
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4028783 - 04/07/05 09:40 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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look for a best friend not a trophy
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: niteowl]
#4028786 - 04/07/05 09:41 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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niteowl said:
And if you keep looking for a hot woman......your never going to find one.
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4028794 - 04/07/05 09:44 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Relax and go with the flow. Acting desperate for love will only impede your search.
Sex will come, attraction will come, and possibly eventual love will emerge. Divorce will follow thereafter, and eventually death. You have nothing to worry about, it's been programmed by natural selection and society for millenia.
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Ravus]
#4028810 - 04/07/05 09:49 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Ravus said: Sex will come, attraction will come, and possibly eventual love will emerge. Divorce will follow thereafter, and eventually death. You have nothing to worry about, it's been programmed by natural selection and society for millenia.
made my night!
Thanks everyone...i feel the stupid ass walls i put up falling. I need to stop looking for someone to make me look better as a person and find a best friend. Thanks everyone, I really appreciate what all of you had to say
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Ravus]
#4028811 - 04/07/05 09:50 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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i've been in your position man, break them walls down brother
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4028838 - 04/07/05 09:57 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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yeah man, i remember in college before i got married man....im not religious but i prayed for someone to love cuz i was so lonely...in retrospect she was right there all along
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: oDin]
#4030791 - 04/08/05 12:32 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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oDin said:
look for a best friend not a trophy
Totally agree with oDin on that one.
Take the girl with the personality and kindness in the 9 to 10 range. with looks in the 7 range. someone that will become your best friend.
they will make you happier than the hot looking girls...in the end. Trophy girls are fun at first...but they wear on you.
I know from 44 years of Experience.
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Althea]
#4030811 - 04/08/05 12:37 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Althea said: I totally agree. When you meet someone that just knocks you over with their personality and their outlook on life, it makes them look ten times better then what other people might see. But its all about what you see not others. Dont worry about what others think.
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4030836 - 04/08/05 12:45 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Don't expect a love-story just take life as it goes! Being romantic can only lead to disappointment, I say you go for it! Spend some time w/ her, she sounds cool and spending time with her can't hurt anything.
If you set your standards too high then you're going to be miserable, unless you get really fucking lucky (and it seems you don't have a history of luck w/ women)
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4031064 - 04/08/05 02:13 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Toddo said: Have a question.
Being a 18 year old high schooler...
stop right there! yer only 18! you have a whole life to be looking forward to love. you should be banging as many bangable chicks as possible while you still can!
most of all of my teenage years were spent in long term relationships. my only regret is that i should have been banging as many fresh asses as possible instead.
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4031161 - 04/08/05 02:40 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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Don't go looking for love. If you look for a relationship, you will never find one. Relationships happen as a consequence of living life. Try to relax, because it's in that state that you really get to know someone.
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: Toddo]
#4031182 - 04/08/05 02:47 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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look for a best friend not a trophy
Fucking rights. And that's exactly what I've found, fairly recently. I don't care if my friends want to fuck her or not.
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Re: bah...a girl question...need some opinions [Re: oDin]
#4031445 - 04/08/05 03:39 PM (18 years, 11 months ago) |
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oDin said: look for a best friend not a trophy
Odin, you are amazing.
In my opinion, walls are necessary, to some degree. But the key is to not have walls high enough that the good people can't see over. Be selective with who you trust, but if you feel like this girl's into you, why not see what happens?
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