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CaRnAgECaNdY
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Is it ever okay to date an ex?
#3597807 - 01/08/05 10:10 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm looking for some opinions here. Do you think it's ever okay to date an ex boyfriend/girlfriend? I know that there are reasons why exes become your exes, but under different circumstances, there should be different feelings towards it. Right? Do you think that once someone has proven changes and has shown progress in certain areas, that someone is capable of being part of your life once again? I believe that people can change. I know because I have. I have belief in people. Not all are capable but there are those few who are willing to make their lives better and the only way for that to be possible is to change. So, with that being said..is it cool to date an ex?
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#3597811 - 01/08/05 10:11 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: blink]
#3597826 - 01/08/05 10:15 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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blinkidiot said: depends on circumstance; of the split and of getting back together
very true
it also depends of if you want to date with intentions to get into a serious relationship, or just for having fun a few times.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: blink]
#3597827 - 01/08/05 10:15 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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"Is it cool to date an ex" is mostly a value judgement. What matters is whether it is worth your time and energy or not, whether it feels right and good or not, whether the old patterns that drove you apart are gone or not, and that kind of stuff.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: CaRnAgECaNdY]
#3597830 - 01/08/05 10:16 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have hooked up with exes before, but it never lasted longer than the casual sex. We would just end up with nothing to say to each other and that awkwardness would return, so, in my case, it didn't work. Your situation may be different, but you gotta ask yourself what you are doing it for and keep it on that level. good luck
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: blink]
#3597837 - 01/08/05 10:19 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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I dont think it is Just for the fact that they are an ex because you couldnt deal with him. You will still reflect on those feelings wether you want to or not. His ways might come back also because he is in the enviroment that he was in when he had these ways. I just have been thier trying and trying and she would allways go back to her old self again. I really dont think its worth espeically if you question it as you are doing right now. But thats just my opinion and only that. The only way to find out is to try but thats only if you really want to find out. Is it worth giving it a chance just to find hart break or maybe rekindle love. No fire is like the origanal. I like my fires to burn strong no putter. But thats me
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: fee]
#3597919 - 01/08/05 10:42 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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ex's are good for casual sex.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: baraka]
#3597989 - 01/08/05 11:02 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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baraka said: ex's are good for casual sex.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: baraka]
#3597994 - 01/08/05 11:03 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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I was gonna ask,"Does date = fuck?"
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: CaRnAgECaNdY]
#3598006 - 01/08/05 11:10 AM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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My girl wouldnt comit do to the fact I smoke herb and what not. SO I walked away. I my self have been moving on from that route as of late for other personal reasons. I am sure I will see her again and hopefully she might see this change. Who knows. BUt I got sour feelings from it. She might as well. So who knows that will take time. But I dont see it as right or wrong. Love fallows blind without a look behind.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: blissedout]
#3598201 - 01/08/05 12:04 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have hooked up with exes before, but it never lasted longer than the casual sex. We would just end up with nothing to say to each other and that awkwardness would return, so, in my case, it didn't work.
Same here.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: CaRnAgECaNdY]
#3599353 - 01/08/05 03:57 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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if shit ended for a reason, it'll happen again. personality patterns rarely ever change.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: Vvellum]
#3599433 - 01/08/05 04:08 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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why would you want to?
why rehash old memmories.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: CaRnAgECaNdY]
#3599456 - 01/08/05 04:10 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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Under no circumstances.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: nonoman]
#3599600 - 01/08/05 04:49 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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Agree, no circumstances, their ex'es for a reason and people dont change to a certain degree, Good people are born good people, bad people are born bad people. habits and minor behaviors can easily change but who a person is (them as a whole) will never change.
You cant stop genetics.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: infamous]
#3599858 - 01/08/05 05:54 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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Nor can you prove that personality has anything to do with genetics.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: infamous]
#3599870 - 01/08/05 05:57 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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a shot of genetics with a few ounces of fuckeduplifeenvironment.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: Vvellum]
#3599896 - 01/08/05 06:03 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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not a good idea. the reason/s you left that person is probably still there.
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Re: Is it ever okay to date an ex? [Re: JTHM]
#3599981 - 01/08/05 06:26 PM (19 years, 2 months ago) |
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Know the old saying, "You can never go back again"...it holds true when it comes to ex's. You can never get back what you had. When it's done, it's done like crispy steak. Just my two cents on it
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hmmm. i'm in the same situation now. getting together with an ex from high school. i dumped him and didn't talk to him for years.he was heart broken and i was like 'whatever' my reasons: he told me he loved me after weeks and i wanted to party more or less. i always thought hs realtionships were cheesy. but we go to university together and just started talking again. which lead to causal sex.[we didn't sleep together when we were dating] but we still get along really well. i don't know what yer situation is like desire, but i tend to not get attached, really easy going and open. i guess it depends of how you view any realtionship. open or exclusive. i think you should enjoy the connection you have with people. for you just try to live without regrets. if you don't get involved with yer ex what would you have missed? any pain cannot outweigh a missed opportunity. hopes this helps -jue
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