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To stay friends with your EX or NOT.
    #5811384 - 07/02/06 01:00 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

Ok so since this is on my mind,

I broke up with my girl over some pretty superficial shit she is being a bitch about (like not loaning me a MJ pipe to take to a concert for instance.) Her nagging and bitching drove me to the end of my fuse and I blew. Well I really blew. I told her off well excellently and continued to break it off with her today.

I told her nicely about it being over I just don't want to put up with shit I have life etc. But I had VERY VERY strong feelings for this girl, the most intense feelings I've had for ANYONE. But I really can't put up with all her SHIT it is knocking my life out of balance.

So I told her just delete my #, throw away my shit, forget about me, I have already done this to all her shit. She is water beneath the bridge for all I care. Since I have such STRONG feelings I find just suppressing them is better.

I want some other peoples opinions some chicks opinions too.

I think it goes, girls want to stay friends guys want to say fuck you and never talk again (what good is a girlfriend you can't fuck, well unless you don't want to)


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: rawtoxic]
    #5811415 - 07/02/06 01:18 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

first off...

how old are you?


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Roadkill]
    #5811416 - 07/02/06 01:19 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

25.

My last relationship lasted 6 months, this one has been 4 months.

Longest relationship about 26 months.


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: rawtoxic]
    #5811452 - 07/02/06 01:42 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

I had one serious relationship that had lasted 2 years...
from the time I was 19 to 21.
It hurt like hell when we split up...and no one could measure up to her for many years!~
I probably should have married her...to be honest.
She is my one regret in life!~

I played the field for many years after that relationship ended...many years!~


I'm 46 years old now and have had many relationships over the years.


I have found that its usually easier to just break up and not be friends...
unless it comes easy for you and her.
And it depends on what happened to cause the break up!~
I have 2 gals that I am still friends with from past relationships.

1 was after some time...like after many years went by.
and we have alot of mutual friends.

The other one...we just knew we were more like brother and sister...than anything else.
We still talk on a regular basis.
She is a wonderful person...she just wasn't the right gal for me.


I find it easier to be just friends with women that I have never been involved with!~

I have several life long friends that are women that I grew up with...
I have never tried to sleep with them.
It's always nice to have a womans perspective on things...
and I can go to them and ask what they think about a given situation.



tc


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: rawtoxic]
    #5811552 - 07/02/06 02:43 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

I still exchange Xmas cards with the woman I almost married. But beyond that, nothing else. Of course, she turned out to be a looney tune, so that ended that right quick. Ah well, 5 years down the drain - we live and learn I guess. :justdontknow:


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Roadkill]
    #5811822 - 07/02/06 07:29 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

Quote:

Roadkill said:
I had one serious relationship that had lasted 2 years...
from the time I was 19 to 21.
It hurt like hell when we split up...and no one could measure up to her for many years!~
I probably should have married her...to be honest.
She is my one regret in life!~

tc




:sad: You nailed my story man, you nailed it :sad:


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Colonel Kurtz Ph.D]
    #5811837 - 07/02/06 07:53 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

well here is the email I sent her last night:

i was going to let this rest not talk to you, your
business card has been destroyed, all pictures
deleted, phone # lost, then you called, why? to rub
it in? to give me some advice i don't care to hear?
why would I even listen to someone who won't give me a
chance with them?

i hate to be hurtful, mean or whatever you see it
as. but it is MY decision to be spiteful, I know you
have a right to speak for yourself well so do I.

i mean i see you as a snobby little bitch that
wouldn't let me borrow her little piece of shit glass
pipe but she goes around saying "sharing is caring"
rest the time. i hope you REALLY like that pipe.

and your realness shit, you may think your super real,
you little hippy wannabe. did you read some book to
teach you to be REAL or just an EX-BOYFRIEND that left
you for not being REAL enough? your realness of
telling me what's on your mind everything a little
thing went wrong DROVE ME INSANE. maybe try keeping
your mouth shut and letting the little things slide to
make life a little more enjoyable.

fuck you and don't talk to me. it's water underneath
the fucking bridge. gone. go back to jersey.

why am I being a dick? maybe it's my true character,
maybe it's what ABBY ****** brings out in me.

you were a waste of love, money and time in my book.

sorry it turned out this way go fuck yourself
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seems a bit harsh looking at it this morning but it felt right at the time.


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: rawtoxic]
    #5811841 - 07/02/06 07:59 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

petty but I understand your pain...my guess is your anger is fueled by pain...trust me man I know how it feels...my ex was so mean to me at the end our relationship she had me sobbin for days(right at christmas too) we weren't actually broken up at this point...but I was so hurt and got so upset for the way she was treating me that I refused to talk to her for months...eventually I did tho and now we're friends...she just had a baby actually and I'm really happy for her :smile:

it hurts now but the pain will fade in time...you'll find someone real(I can't stand fake ppl either so I know where your comin from)


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Iamthewalrus]
    #5811849 - 07/02/06 08:21 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

Actually her realness was so real that she had to let me know about every little thing that bothered her about me so she didn't keep those feelings bottled up inside she needed to let me know everything, while it sounds great for big things and helped with many of our problems. Hearing about little irrelevant shit on a constant basis DROVE ME INSANE.

Like the fact when I drive I go exactly the speed limit not 5MPH over like everyone else.


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: rawtoxic]
    #5811870 - 07/02/06 08:40 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

lol that does sound quite annoying...probably better off dude


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: rawtoxic]
    #5811881 - 07/02/06 09:04 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

I can sympathize with this entire thread. Especially Roadkill's post and Deepman's reply to it. I too have that one girl that I regret even meeting, she's a worthless excuse for a soul, who is so lost in this world that she treats everyone like shit but most sad of all, she treats herself even worse. Even though I have a hatred for her that I've never had before for anyone, I so sad for her, she is seriously one of the most beautiful woman I've ever met, but not in the important areas.

Everything is an experience and the only reason for living is for these types of moments where you can look back, remember, learn and share life stories. That's what this life is about, sharing stories.


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Iamthewalrus]
    #5811896 - 07/02/06 09:11 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

I care so much more about whats on the inside then outside(I truely do) I mean I love a beautiful girl as much as the next guy but no matter how beautiful a girl is if her attitude sucks shes no longer attractive to me


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Iamthewalrus]
    #5811906 - 07/02/06 09:15 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

I hear ya man. Completely agree. What pisses me off most is how a person will hide it and after time invested, their true personality comes through and you're left with bullshit and time wasted.


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Iamthewalrus]
    #5811908 - 07/02/06 09:16 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

and I agree with roadkill...its nice to have girl-friends...I know a girl whos engaged and we are very close...I can talk to her about anything...theres literally nothing thats off limits with us and some of my most meaningful convos have been with her...and when I've been down because of other girls shes always been there for me to tell me I'm too good for them(even if it probably isn't true :laugh:)

plus I'm a very emotional guy and its a lot easier to just be myself with girls...with guys it can be awkard to talk about feelings etc


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: rawtoxic]
    #5811923 - 07/02/06 09:24 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

I think that it is only possible to be friends after a breakup if you were friends before the breakup. It does not sound to me like you were actually friends with your ex. It is probably best to move on & process the lessons that are available to you through this experience.


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Iamthewalrus]
    #5811976 - 07/02/06 09:52 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

I'd like to throw 2 cents in on this since I've always sucked at picking girlfriends. I have been through alot of breakups and disfunctional relationships with most of the women in my life.
If you're asking whether to remain friends, or never speak to them again, I'd say this;
You two don't have to be buddies or ever hang out, but it never hurts to end a relationship on friendly terms and keep lines of communication open, even if you are royally pissed at her and have alot of stuff you want to tell her off about.
There are two main reasons that I think this;
1) If you hurt a woman's feelings, she'll probably try to get back at you, whether that's just bashing you behind your back to other girls , tearing up your vehichle or Fatal-Attraction-style antics, and who needs more enemies in this world?
2) booty calls, you may be pissed at her now, but sooner or later you are going to be horny as hell yet not having the time and energy to woo some other chick which may not pay off, or worse go out to a bar, get beer goggles and wake up next to one that makes you want to cry in the shower, "I CAN'T GET CLEAN! I CAN'T GET CLEAN! :cryariver: "
I've broken up with and been dumped by girls and handled it both ways, but now Ive found out it's easier to just wish them good luck, and tell them you are glad you had that time together, exc...exc...even if you don't mean it right then. I don't consider this lying because I'm going with the "all's fair in love and war" ideology on this one.
I hope this helps.
And I appologize in advance to any women that might read this and find it offensive, it's not meant that way.


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: rawtoxic]
    #5811981 - 07/02/06 09:56 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

My last relationship was 5 years and I think I'm still recovering from it..
In regards to being friends with ex-girlfriends, what Veritas said is right.. this only works if you were friends before the break up. Otherwise, it's pointless. Doesn't sound like you guys were the best of friends, or really related to each other on the same level. Just live and learn.. and move on. That goodbye letter is kind of harsh though. Might want to consider something a little nicer. A pipe and some nagging is nothing to get all bent out of shape about.


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Shroomism]
    #5811996 - 07/02/06 10:03 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

ya u may want to apologize and tell her that u were just hurt(or upset) and didn't mean it(cause this is probably true to some extent)


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Shroomism]
    #5811999 - 07/02/06 10:03 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

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My last relationship was 5 years and I think I'm still recovering from it..
In regards to being friends with ex-girlfriends, what Veritas said is right.. this only works if you were friends before the break up. Otherwise, it's pointless. Doesn't sound like you guys were the best of friends, or really related to each other on the same level. Just live and learn.. and move on. That goodbye letter is kind of harsh though. Might want to consider something a little nicer. A pipe and some nagging is nothing to get all bent out of shape about.




she was just being herself through the whole relationship and all you could do is berate her about it.

she was trying to give you what she thought was an amazingly open an honest experience and you weren't ready for it perhaps.

I know apologies are hard to come by after such "closure" has been giving, but you should consider one anyways.

she was only doing what she thought was right every step of the way. so shes selfish sometimes? better then all of the time. so she spoke her mind? better then lies.

brother, perhaps you do need to just be friends with her and find out what makes her tick beyond her sexuality. thats the only way to have a loving relationship anyways.

its not about protection and dominance for males... thats just what we tend to think its about.


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Re: To stay friends with your EX or NOT. [Re: Todcasil]
    #5812035 - 07/02/06 10:22 AM (17 years, 6 months ago)

good points dude


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