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Gillette
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Warning: dating rant inside
#5821284 - 07/04/06 08:03 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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For a minute I avoided posting this because I think it may make me sound like a snob, or a bit of a picky bitch, but I've never censored myself here.....
/rant
I'm sick of dating guys that want to date me. For once I'd like to date someone that I actually want to date. Like some guy that I've had a crush on forever, to actually want to date me, that would be cool.
I've really been avoiding the dating thing, but I get coaxed into it more and more, and its gay, its sucks and its only making me hate people and feel absolutly miserable about the way that society is going. Some people are calling this my quarter-life crisis. I don't feel like I'm in a crisis, I feel like I'm the only person that thinks the way I do in a 500 km radius. Why are there no people like me that want to date me? it makes me wonder what people must think I'm like and then what they must think after they talk to me.
I've been going on alot of coffee dates. They suck. I feel like its an interview and I'm usually the person doing the interviewing and realizing I have no interest in what the other person is even saying...."I'm a singer/song writer, I have a house in the mediteranian, I do this, I do that..." and here all I'm thinking is yeah thats nice and I'm not impressed at all, I just want someone to be like yeah, I like not wearing shoes! or something like that at least, just someone like me.
The worst thing is they call you after the date like they think it all went well and I have no idea how to be like, sorry, your boring to me, mind you I assume they're very interesting and impressive to other people, even people I know (usually the person that talked me into going on the date in the first place).
And the only, only reason I even attempt to date, is what if I pass up that person that is like me.
god this whole disaster is stupid.
/end rant
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hevvy_psi
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: Gillette]
#5821290 - 07/04/06 08:06 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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should you necessarily be seeking out a person 'like you'
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Gillette
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: hevvy_psi]
#5821298 - 07/04/06 08:09 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I'm not really even seeking them out, actually I'm very content not dating anyone, almost insistent on it, its more my general displeasure with the lack of cool people around me.
And when I say "like me" I mean like minded extra, I've had enough of dating my opposites.
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CherryBom
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: Gillette]
#5821300 - 07/04/06 08:10 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Dating is stupid.
Men are stupid.
You want to be lied to? Get a boyfriend. You're fine on your own. You're better on your own. No one deserves the emotional abuse that goes hand in hand with relationships. Spend more time with your meem then going out on stupid coffee dates with vapid excuses for men that feel the need to tell you about thier house in the Medeterainian.
You won't miss a good one, trust me. It's impossible to miss the 'right' one. He'll be all in your face and you'll know it and love him and he'll love you right back. Until he starts to lie to you. That's what usually happens.
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daimyo
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: Gillette]
#5821302 - 07/04/06 08:11 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I feel where you're coming from. I'm not much for dating myself. I'll be damned if I don't like to fuck, but attempting to go out with someone with hopes they'll be worth hanging on to is boring if not sickening.
I think the whole dating thing is just plain fucked. You just gotta do what you like to do, and eventually you will meet someone with the same interests. No guarantees they'll be any better than the other losers of the world, but it oughta be a better start.
Hell, it's giant dice game. Good luck sweetie.
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: hevvy_psi]
#5821306 - 07/04/06 08:13 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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coffee dates = :P
They probably already think you're a yuppie just for agreeing to go to one of those places. You just say, "hell no, let's go to [insert some activity that you find fun here]." And see if the guy enjoys that as much as you do.
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hevvy_psi
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: Gillette]
#5821318 - 07/04/06 08:17 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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is casual, chance-dependent interaction better than attempts at long term coincidence of our vastly variable personal lives?
-------------------- egocentrism is bangin on the door self-destructive selflessness seeps out from the core alone - eyes closed - an empty room i'm curled on the floor choose nothing, thus deciding all the nothing i've in store.
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Gillette
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: CherryBom]
#5821320 - 07/04/06 08:17 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
CherryBom said: Dating is stupid.
Men are stupid.
You want to be lied to? Get a boyfriend. You're fine on your own. You're better on your own. No one deserves the emotional abuse that goes hand in hand with relationships. Spend more time with your meem then going out on stupid coffee dates with vapid excuses for men that feel the need to tell you about thier house in the Medeterainian.
You won't miss a good one, trust me. It's impossible to miss the 'right' one. He'll be all in your face and you'll know it and love him and he'll love you right back. Until he starts to lie to you. That's what usually happens.
I fucking love you 
good thing your always here to set me straight.
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CherryBom
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: Gillette]
#5821321 - 07/04/06 08:18 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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....just trying to help.
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daimyo
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: CherryBom]
#5821345 - 07/04/06 08:25 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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You two should hook up
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gema
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: Gillette]
#5821346 - 07/04/06 08:26 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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You should make moves instead of waiting for people to make moves on you.
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daimyo
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: Gillette]
#5821356 - 07/04/06 08:28 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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If you're ever through Cleveland, I'm up for whatever.
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demiu5
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: Gillette]
#5821371 - 07/04/06 08:32 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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dating sucks...it's not fun to me. The chase, and the etc...it's all pointless, but it's what most people like to do. Then when a relationship actually happens, they don't know what to do. When the entertainment aspect is over and it's just two people sitting in a room...they freak out.
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You won't miss a good one, trust me. It's impossible to miss the 'right' one. He'll be all in your face and you'll know it and love him and he'll love you right back.
Are you serious about that Bom? If so, I know what I must do, and soon. If I fuck things up, I guess they weren't supposed to be.
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eligal
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: daimyo]
#5821376 - 07/04/06 08:33 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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daimyo said: If you're ever through Cleveland, I'm up for whatever.

yes, likewise, if youre ever in Cali.
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CherryBom
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: demiu5]
#5821515 - 07/04/06 09:29 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yea, actually that was probably the most important part of my disillusioned thoughts.
Love happens. Wether you want it to or not. Then sometimes it just goes away....wether you want it to or not. But when it happens it will kick your ass. It's bound to happen sooner or later.
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hevvy_psi
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: CherryBom]
#5821522 - 07/04/06 09:33 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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do you, as a girl, place any stock in an abbreviated interlude with someone you connect with in the short term?
my questions are getting dodged right and left and i'd like to have legitimite discussion here.
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KingOftheThing
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: CherryBom]
#5821528 - 07/04/06 09:36 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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believe me i could say the same things about chicks ive dated. lying is not a man only quality, believe me....and stupid?? u should hear some of the chicks ive dated talk, borderline retarded. i do seem to have much better luck with dumb girls.. also at least you dont have to be nagged in a relationship, being nagged by a woman is torture.
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The_Red_Crayon
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: Gillette]
#5821532 - 07/04/06 09:39 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Join the million+ club of all the people who are sick and tired of dating and the social scene. You can blame it all on a particular sex but id rather just blame it on the soulless materialism and status rat race. Perhaps maybe if you get out of that scene you will find someone you truly love.
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: daimyo]
#5821536 - 07/04/06 09:41 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I think the whole dating thing is just plain fucked. You just gotta do what you like to do, and eventually you will meet someone with the same interests. No guarantees they'll be any better than the other losers of the world, but it oughta be a better start.
exactly
i used to go on alot of dates, but after realizing that i was never going to meet someone interesting that way, i subscribed to this way of thinking. much happier now. dating sucks.
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CherryBom
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Re: Warning: dating rant inside [Re: hevvy_psi]
#5821545 - 07/04/06 09:44 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I'm not sure that I entirely understand your question.
As a woman, do I put stock (invested emotions?) into an abbreviated interlude (an on again- off again relationship)?
How about this? We are all different. Personally, I listen to my heart. If I love you I will love you with everything I've got, and then some. If we are 'off' and I still love you, well then; I still love you don't I? Why are we off? Is it because you want to off? Well then you're not giving me everything you've got, are you?
If you love someone and want to be with them, there are NO games. You are truthful and honest about how you feel and why you feel it. You're angry? Be angry! Frustrated? Break something! It's fun! Don't lie to yourself about how you are feeling. And for bloody hell, don't you fucking dare lie to somebody who loves you with thier entire soul. They don't deserve that, and you don't deserve that.
If you love, then LOVE. If you don't know, then figure it out, cuz you're missing out.
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