Asante said:

Most Dominants I know (male and female) are terrible at what they do. But then again, most submissives are pretty crap too.

I hope you'll find a good match, matching is the most important thing and the hardest to do.

I'm a Switch by the way.

I saw your sig and immediately spotted you as a subbie

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SirShroomsAlott said:

Does a  dominatrix get you off at the end or your "session"...or do they just make you their bitch the whole time and you go home and fap after

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nice1returns said:

Mummy!  Kick me in the balls and stamp on my bell end, then throw donuts at my hard cock like a hoopla 

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koraks said:

Asante said:

Greediness, sexual obsession, inability to understand their roles, mental illness.

"Dommes" who have been raped or battered in vanilla relationships who turn into vindicative bitches taking it out on submissives. Doms who flat out deny any responsibility towards supplying the submissive with a wholesome fulfilling experience. Bruised subs with the attitude that Dominants owe them something or who come at them with elaborate wishlists and topping from the bottom. A cheap thrills mentality.

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Although I haven't experienced these aspects (at least not as far as I'm aware and I certainly hope I've never done wrong), I do recognize this sentiment in some of the things I see on Fetlife. Btw, I think there's nothing inherently wrong with topping from the bottom, as long as it's understood between the parties involved that this is the dynamic people are looking for.

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Fennario said:

I would definitely get down with a dom, but wouldn't be a sub all the time, I would reverse rolls here and there.

It's nice getting slapped in the balls with a ruler while jacking off, had a girl do that to me and man I was hard as a rock, she was talking dirty to me, and I came a fucking gallon of semen.  Shit was hot.

I won't get pegged though, will pass on that, but whip me till I bleed.

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Asante said:

It wholely depends on the scene you negotiate what will happen including whether there will be a "happy end".

In SSC BDSM (Safe, Sane, Consensual) its common that after the session there is a debriefing phase where both tend to chill and cool off, return from subspace and domspace, and if there are issues, to work at them.

Some Dominants however feel entitled to do exactly what they like and nothing else will be considered, with the submisdsive basically being a toy without a say in things, inside and outside the session. Needless to say that can lead to many problems.

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trees said:

Watch out for their strap on they plan to fuck you with

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