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FreakQlibrium
Son of Uncle Meat


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Re: Your First Love [Re: ]
#1497524 - 04/27/03 09:08 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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i used to be the obsessive type mang, but i got over it. It seems like someone always gets the sh.......short end of the stick in any kind of a "love" relationship. Now i find the whole idea of it makes me somewhat nauseous.....
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FreakQlibrium
Son of Uncle Meat


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Re: Your First Love [Re: LeViTY]
#1497550 - 04/27/03 09:28 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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I don't think your first love really ever does go away..."
Especially if you marry the first girl you "love" and she hits you up for alimony
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Anonymous
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man i done figured that out the first time i was in love, love is just the funny feelin in your tummy, ahahah it's like if you're not the one cheating and shitting on the other then you are the one being shitted and cheated on, it's never like both the people feel the same way, kinda sad oh well
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FreakQlibrium
Son of Uncle Meat


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Re: Your First Love [Re: ]
#1497634 - 04/27/03 10:12 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Thinking with your heart REALLY sucks man.... although thinking with your weenie can get you into all kinds of trouble too
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Edited by FreakQlibrium (04/27/03 10:13 AM)
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Scarfmeister
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I have been in love many times but i have never really loved anyone. It saddens me that i have never met someone to whom i could completely loose my self in, and i fear that i never will.
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Phluck
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Re: Your First Love [Re: CherryBom]
#1498371 - 04/27/03 04:57 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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I guess it just seemed so perfect and devastating, there's no way part of you can completely give that up.
"Why would I ever want to meet anyone else? Nothing can ever feel anything like this again..."
...but it does again, or so you hope.
-------------------- "I have no valid complaint against hustlers. No rational bitch. But the act of selling is repulsive to me. I harbor a secret urge to whack a salesman in the face, crack his teeth and put red bumps around his eyes." -Hunter S Thompson http://phluck.is-after.us
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FreakQlibrium
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I have been in love many times but i have never really loved anyone. It saddens me that i have never met someone to whom i could completely loose my self in, and i fear that i never will."
i hear you man, but becoming so totally absorbed in another human being is fraught with perils of it's own.......when love goes bad and you're attatched it's like someone has impaled your heart with a triple pronged fish hook only to rip it out.....sorry for my lack of eloquence but that's what it always used to feel like to me.....i sincerely hope you enjoy a better fate.....
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Anonymous
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Don't fear it, shroomnoob, accept it.
Losing yourself in another person is a sign of weakness. Love should never become an obsession [shoutout to my ex-GF here, 2 years and counting], but a mutual bond of respect and caring.
I'd never become obsessed with a girl or beat myself up if I didn't get lost in her eyes, ya know? Maybe as a man I just see it a different way, but anyone feel what I'm sayin?
For the ladies: If you are, in any way, the "ex-gf" type girl mentioned above torturing/stalking an ex-bf and still think you have a shot (ESPECIALLY if it is anywhere near the time period I mentioned above), you should leave the dude alone. He broke up with you for a reason. Freak.
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saucerflosecrets
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Re: Your First Love [Re: Adden]
#1498824 - 04/27/03 07:59 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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i think it's very difficult to get over your first love... because the standards for any subsequent lovers have already been set. i was with my first love for three years and we broke up because his personality had changed pretty drastically. he seems to be back to his old self, which makes me feel sad sometimes (we still talk). sometimes i miss him so much it's like a physical pain... i am with someone else now and i'm really happy, but sometimes i can't help but wonder "what if."
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Morphrying
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Re: Your First Love [Re: CherryBom]
#1498887 - 04/27/03 08:24 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Once you learn to be loved and love others, you should continue to love them forever, but sometimes people confuse love with infatuation and sexual attraction, and I don't think thats what love is.... You are normal, don worry bout it.... oh yeah the butterflies in my tummy thing only happens when I see someone I am sexually attracted to....Like when I went to the lingerie coffeeshop and said duhduhduhduhduh, and she said, go ahead and have a seat, then more duhduhduhduhvvvvietnamese cccc coffee please, uhhhhhhhhhhhh Iced....
Edited by Morphrying (04/27/03 08:38 PM)
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Captain Jack
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Re: Your First Love [Re: Morphrying]
#1499147 - 04/27/03 10:12 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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the relationships i've had
the love i used to feel
taught me about liking someone
and how to be with her
and now i am in love
bigger and better
and i can keep it
because of what i learned in the past
-------------------- - Captain Jack has been hailed as a brilliant scholar, discredited as a brilliant fraud, and mistaken for a much taller man on several occasions.
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SoundsOfWar
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i can kinda forget about the bad things enough to get a kick outta some of the good memories. i guess the pain you go through toughens your heart a little each time cause the innocent thought of love is hard to see as clearly as i used to think it was. but that's just life in general. anyway, I'm glad I had that crazy fucking girl around. like you people care
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debianlinux
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love is a choice. an act of your will. love involves a certain level of self-sacrifice but also entails self-improvement. a relationship that doesn't work for the improvement of each person's health on all levels; spirtual, mental, physical, emotional... for the entirety of the relationship... contains no love. love, like control, is an absolute. there is either total control or only the illusion of control. one must understand that the only thing any of us can truly control is ourselves. the most in control person is the person with a great deal of self-control and a respect fopr the fact that he/she cannot truly control anything else. the same principles apply to love. one must first love oneself. you people speak of having your hearts broken. a broken heart caused by a relationship gone sour is a result of the realization that what you thought was love was actually a deception, a denial on your part. Once i found my true mate, and entered into a life of shared love I have evolved as a person in ways i never thought possible. having a true-love relationship changes EVERYTHING about your life in only the most positive of ways. the biggest steps that people fail to take to make love happen are 1) learning to love yourself and 2) putting forth the effort to cultivate a true-love relationship. selfishness has no place in a true-love relationship. you will only get out of a relationship what you put into it. the catch being that one cannot put into it with the selfish intention of getting back out of it. i could go on and on but my preaching is about done for today. remember to never take your mate for granted. easier said than done.
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I don't think you ever get over them completely and don't worry FQ I do the same thing....I'm terrified to run into my first love.....but at the same time I really wanna see him again and find out how he's doing...he almost ran me down to honk and wave at me the other day, but I dodn't realize it was him...other people see him all the time and apparently he see's me but I never see him....which is strange...but maybe its better that way.
You should never be concerned about loosing yourself in some one. The key to relationships is remembering: love is about co-existance not co-dependance. Live your life (yes your own life, not theirs) with that person, not for that person.
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Thor
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Re: Your First Love [Re: CherryBom]
#1500589 - 04/28/03 12:08 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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My first has always been in my mind, but I'm thankfull that I've never gone back down that road.
I think with the firsts we tend to romanticize it and think only of the good things about it while forgetting the bad things that caused the relationship to end in the first place.
My 1st I dated actually during 2 periods of my life, and I'm certain a 3rd time will not be a charm.
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Re: Your First Love [Re: CherryBom]
#1500816 - 04/28/03 01:46 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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well since its been 20+ years since my 1st i think i can safely say i am over that manipulative, non-caring psycopathic mind fuck bitch that was my 1st real GF.
time heals....esp decades
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Thor
Anti-Theist OVERLORD


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Re: Your First Love [Re: oDin]
#1500938 - 04/28/03 02:24 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
well since its been 20+ years since my 1st i think i can safely say i am over that manipulative, non-caring psycopathic mind fuck bitch that was my 1st real GF.
time heals....esp decades
LOL! Hey if Odin says anything mean you know she must have been horrible
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PeachMan
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Re: Your First Love [Re: oDin]
#1501129 - 04/28/03 03:25 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
well since its been 20+ years since my 1st i think i can safely say i am over that manipulative, non-caring psycopathic mind fuck bitch that was my 1st real GF.
time heals....esp decades
thats good to hear... my first love was definitey a 'non-caring psycopathic mind fuck bitch' now if only these decades you speak of would hurry the hell up....
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Captain Jack
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Re: Your First Love [Re: PeachMan]
#1501403 - 04/28/03 04:40 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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thor, never go down the same road twice.
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Lyena
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Re: Your First Love [Re: CherryBom]
#1501740 - 04/28/03 06:21 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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It goes away for a moment, but it's never really gone. Though my first love is far gone into the past he still has and will always have a little slice of my soul. And I'n okay with it. Of course both grow and change, but theres a ton of tiny triggers to memories that just wash it all back. I almost killed myself that way, remembering how everything used to be and longing for it.. the innocence and all the demons that came with it. Then I let it go, and remembered that instead of looking back on what once was to just relax and remember that it's over, like a dream. There was a lot to be learned.. but theres more to be learned.
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