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Anonymous #1
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Sexuality help
#23906625 - 12/08/16 12:01 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Am I bisexual?
I'm 22, im confused all my life I've been into girl, liked girl been with them. But lately I've been getting confused. It's not that I like guys or sexually attracted to them but it's just I know when some guys are attractive or not. Then I get confused at what I am, and anxious.
How do I accept I'm attracted to guys? But not sexually or love attracted. I take good of myself I go gym, dress good. And I attract girls, I've got a pretty flirty, friendly personality, I'm just very friendly and love everyone but obviously not sexual just happy and sometimes gay people take this as me being gay which I'm not interested at the clubs like wtf maybe I need to accept I'm good looking because I have self esteem issues, I like sex and I'm very sexual, and can act very metro-sexual-ish, I don't give a shit. But but now I've started getting this confusing mindset, m I've started to feel inferior to other men, but I know I'm not gay. Wtf is going on?
I have trouble understanding and expressing my feeling and emotions, because I had a trumitizing childhood, which I'm currently working on to overcome. Emotional and physical abuse from my dad. And I feel that has a play in this, because I do not respect him and I'm very resentful towards him. This so confusing because I know I like women but why is this confusing mindset coming along?
Edited by Anonymous (12/08/16 12:05 PM)
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Anonymous #2
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If you feel inferior then maybe you are trying to gain acceptance, especially from your dad. People really strive for the connections and such they missed out on with parents. I didn't have much of a mom and I can say it really effects my relationships with the women in my life.
I don't know man, just be you. I think you overthink stuff too much. I'm straight as an arrow but I can admit that some dudes are attractive, mostly because in my mind it's a recognition that they are better than me in some way, even if I'm aware that I am an attractive dude. Maybe you're just lonely. I remember when I was single.. I definitely wondered, but partly because I was tired of being alone, and partly because I empathize with others with great ease. You cannot be a loving, compassionate person without knowing what it is to be atracted to that person. If you are good friends with anyone, like them in any form(save perhaps family) you have some kind of an attraction to them. I know this person, I like who they are. That can easily be translated in to more romantic aspects of our lives, especially in times of distress or confusion.
Don't take this as my trying to dissuade you from being who you are or whatever, you just seem confused and I'm trying to possibly help you with some insight. If you feel you may be happy with a man then maybe go do it? If you decide it's not your cup of tea, it's not like it's the end of the world.
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Anonymous #3
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What exactly is the problem??
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Anonymous #4
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That's what I'm saying. Give it a try. You never know if you like penis or not until you try some
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Anonymous #5
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sometimes you gotta just explore, see what you like and dont like.
i wanted to find out if i was gay, so i let a guy give me a mustache ride.
turns out no, im not gay after all
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Anonymous #6
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Yep, explore. Try kissing first. If you hate it, bail on that shit.
I thought, well this is weird, I hate kissing this dude, then it went a bit further and I thought, this is really boring how do I get this guy off me.
Porn and imagination also can be really deceptive. You can also be frustrated by no success with women and a build up of sexual tension and find men attractive for that reason.
You say there is no emotional/love attraction and I would say that's 99.9% sign that you're not gay. Sexual attraction, you know, you can get turned on by a 2D poster of a woman or even a loud noise or a moan someone makes, so why not men, if you're really sexually tense and unsatisfied?
Do you fall really hard for girls? Sometimes really deep, in your chest/heart/whatever? Does it drive you crazy if they smile at you?
Problem with thinking you are gay is to a degree you will self-fulfill the prophecy, in that your body will start to have a passive posture, you'll think things are cute, you'll get the whole feminine mindset going, and people will pick up on it, and might make gestures, comments, which will start to convince you even more. So watch out for that.
I've had a huge struggle with sexuality, because I've been mentally ill and no way was I getting into a successful relationship like that. The tension builds you start just imagining and watching the weirdest shit. You don't care where it goes after a while.
If you're having trouble with finding a girl get your life together man. Hygiene, routine, interests, aspirations. Make yourself interesting and worthy in your own eyes, then add a girl to it all.
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Anonymous #7
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Realizing certain men are attractive doesn't mean you're attracted to them. I mean like realizing Christian Bale is a good looking man is very different from being aroused by him in a sexual/relational way.
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Anonymous #7
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I can't believe no one has told you something along those lines. Or that they're recommending you have sex with another man without first establishing if there is even anything there to experiment with.
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Anonymous #6
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Well it depends if he meant that. I can vaguely tell when a man is handsome, though apparently I get it wrong sometimes. But he says he "feels inferior to men" at least at times. That's something to explore, and root out as either some frustration or projection or a real orientation thing. But like I say if you have no emotional feelings for men, never fallen in love with a man in your life, I find it very hard to believe you are gay or bi. You should at least relax on that point, if it's bothering you.
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Anonymous #6
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Really, really good run-down of sexuality here.
http://www.calmdownmind.com/understanding-your-sexual-energy-and-sexuality/
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There is very common tendency to mis-understand sexual preferences with “relationship orientation”. For example, being gay/homosexual is not just a sexual preference it’s a relationship-orientation in a human. It’s very common for people to mis-understand homo-sexuality with bi-sexuality mostly because both the terms contain the word “sexuality” it’s assumed that both have to do purely with sexual preference, which is not really the case. Being gay is not just about sex, it’s also about emotions, it involves your “heart” – a gay person has the make-up to fall in “love” with another person of the same sex wanting expressions like emotional bonding, marriage, family, etc, just like regular couples (“Lesbian” in the true sense is a woman who is gay). A gay man/woman would feel the same tingling emotions of love, in his/her heart, towards a person of the same-sex, just as a straight man/woman would feel towards a person of opposite sex. Bi-sexuality, on the other hand, is simply an expression of sexual exploration based on curiosity, or need for an adventure or entertainment, as a preference. Just because you have a bi-sexual encounter doesn’t make you gay.
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Even if you have a high degree of inclination towards bi-sexuality it still doesn’t make you gay because you are relating purely from the aspect of sex and you don’t feel emotional love, or desire for an emotional relationship, with your sex partner – just to give an example, some men who explore bi-sexuality often state that they get grossed about cuddling (or even french kissing) with another man and they are only interested in the act of “raw sex” without the romance.
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Anonymous #8
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Anonymous #1 said: Am I bisexual?
I'm 22, im confused all my life I've been into girl, liked girl been with them. But lately I've been getting confused. It's not that I like guys or sexually attracted to them but it's just I know when some guys are attractive or not. Then I get confused at what I am, and anxious.
How do I accept I'm attracted to guys? But not sexually or love attracted. I take good of myself I go gym, dress good. And I attract girls, I've got a pretty flirty, friendly personality, I'm just very friendly and love everyone but obviously not sexual just happy and sometimes gay people take this as me being gay which I'm not interested at the clubs like wtf maybe I need to accept I'm good looking because I have self esteem issues, I like sex and I'm very sexual, and can act very metro-sexual-ish, I don't give a shit. But but now I've started getting this confusing mindset, m I've started to feel inferior to other men, but I know I'm not gay. Wtf is going on?
I have trouble understanding and expressing my feeling and emotions, because I had a trumitizing childhood, which I'm currently working on to overcome. Emotional and physical abuse from my dad. And I feel that has a play in this, because I do not respect him and I'm very resentful towards him. This so confusing because I know I like women but why is this confusing mindset coming along?
Are you a boy or girl? Seems like a stupid question, I know.
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Anonymous #9
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Were do you want to put your penis in?
a)Boy b)Girl d)Woman c)Man e)Boy and Girl f)Boy and Man g)Boy and Woman h)Girl and Boy i)Girl and Man j)Girl and Woman k)Man and Boy l)Man and Girl m)Man and Woman n)Woman and Boy o)Woman and Girl p)Woman and Man
Straight: (b), (d), (j) or (o) Gay and/or Bisexual and/or pediphile: anything other than (b), (d), (j) or (o)
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Anonymous #10
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youre down, youre down
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Anonymous #11
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Seek Jesus op, don't fall victim to the eugenics and believe that its ok to become a filthy sodomite. This normalization of homosexuality is simply paving the way for open pedophilia. It is a perversion in the eyes of God, and part of the satanic kingdom of the antichrist
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Anonymous #12
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Your comment made me laugh so hard this isn't 1800s lol no body thinks like that anymore
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Anonymous #4
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Fondle the anus like it was a burrito
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Anonymous #13
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I think most guys are at least bicurious at some point in their life.
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Anonymous #11
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Anonymous #12 said: Your comment made me laugh so hard this isn't 1800s lol no body thinks like that anymore
I feel sorry for you, you have probably been raised since a child to see homosexual peversion as normalized or even fashionable.
This is part of a satanic agenda to normalize pizzagate style kidfucking.
Read the UN childrens rights, where they openly proclaim that they wantto do away with consent laws for children.
http://themillenniumreport.com/2016/12/pedophilia-is-central-to-illuminati-agenda/
Have you not noticed how they are pushing hella incest porn all over the web now that didn't exist a few years ago?
Have you noticed how homosexuality and transgender perversion has been mainstreamed and heavily pushed as fashionable in all major media formats, especially in the last 10 years?
Being a gay has never been cool,or desirable. It has always been a fringe perversion of sexual deviance, pedophilia, and astronomical rates of spreading stds.
Homosexuals are truly sad individuals who are mentally ill and need counseling and rehabilitation.
If no one thinks like this anymore, it shows exactly how far satanic philosophy has proliferated and been normalized. Sodomy is an abomination to God.
Laugh all you want butif ypu pursue homosexuality as a lifestyle you will end up depressed, depraved and diseased, and spiritually empty inside.
Remember most transgenders regret having the surgery, and they have an astoundingly high rateof suicide because of this.
I pray all of you that think it is open minded and "modern" to embrace faggotry, are blessed with spiritual discernment to open your eyes to the evil of living like a perverted, wicked and godless sodomite.
Remember the porn industry is run by the khazarian synogogue of satan, and they are working to destroy you.
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Anonymous #12
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Bodhi you have an unhealthy obsession
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Anonymous #14
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Anonymous #11 said: Seek Jesus op, don't fall victim to the eugenics and believe that its ok to become a filthy sodomite. This normalization of homosexuality is simply paving the way for open pedophilia. It is a perversion in the eyes of God, and part of the satanic kingdom of the antichrist
How does homosexuality and pedophilia even relate? lol
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