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Is my nephew staying with a pedophile?
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So I got a call from my brother today saying his Ex came home to find her 16yr old brother beating off in the living room with my 4yr old nephew like 10 feet away watching TV on the couch. She freaked, asked him WTF he thought he was doing. Aparently broke his computer screen and knocked him around, took her kid and left.

So my brother calls me asking what he should do. He knows his ex's brother more than likely was sexual abused in his childhood. But he also thinks it could just be a lazy 16 yr old beating off under his shirt at the computer. Im fuckin perplexed at this whole situation. Should I go slap the kid around a bit to get the point across to keep his dick in his pants around kids? Call the cops?

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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Ungawdly]
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None.
Just take him to a therapist and try to show understanding.
You never solve anything with force or by punishing.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Ungawdly]
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Getting caught masturbating is incredibly embarrassing at that age...it happened to me. I would masturbate EVERYWHERE, even in church, and I didn't care who was in the room. Maybe he didn't mean anything by it and is just a horny kid. I'm sure either way his sister smacked enough shit into him.

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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Ungawdly]
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yeah, I wouldn't look into it as much as you are. He's 16, does he need a reason to masturbate?


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Drewwyann]
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There's a big difference between if he was staring at the kid or the kid was just on the other side of the room and the 16 year old was at a computer across the room or something.

I'd say evaluate based on what you know, because you know more than we do.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Jadian]
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Yeah, if he was looking at the kid, I'd do something about it, your choice, but if you have reason to doubt that he was, I wouldn't take it too seriously.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Jadian]
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Jadian said:
There's a big difference between if he was staring at the kid or the kid was just on the other side of the room and the 16 year old was at a computer across the room or something.

I'd say evaluate based on what you know, because you know more than we do.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Ungawdly]
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probably just jerking off and the kid happened to be there...he was most likely just being irresponsible. If you talk to him, just tell him to not fucking jerk off around little kids and if he does it again you will cut out his balls. Violence does work.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: MushroomTrip]
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MushroomTrip said:
None.
Just take him to a therapist and try to show understanding.
You never solve anything with force or by punishing.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: memes]
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meams said:
Jadian said:
There's a big difference between if he was staring at the kid or the kid was just on the other side of the room and the 16 year old was at a computer across the room or something.

I'd say evaluate based on what you know, because you know more than we do.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: b0b gnarley]
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I'd find out what the kid was doing and what the brother was doing. Like - whether the guy had his penis exposed, and how close the kid was, if the kid was likely to be able to see, etc. Trust your feelings based on what you know about the brother too. If you have any doubts, I wouldn't be leaving him alone with a kid. I would also, if I had any doubts, be getting things investigated. Showing a kid pornography or masturbating or engaging in other sexual acts around them IS sexual abuse. And it is taken very seriously by child protection workers - can be quite psychologically damaging.
The other reason for reporting it is -if the guy is a pedophile - he probably has abused other kids. Once they are caught, pedophiles have abused on average 11 kids. And they are unlikely to be successful in treatment unless there are some big consequences hanging over them - like jail. Otherwise they are effectively being given the message that what they are doing is OK. They will have lots of bogus internal justifications for what they are doing being OK.

In this situation you need to think about the kid. Not the brother.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Ungawdly]
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id beat the fuck out him if it was my 4yr old with him but thats just me

whothefuck beats off with a kid in the same room?

theres sickness happening in OPs home that needs to be treated the old fashioned way without counseling or law involved


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: NiamhNyx]
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NiamhNyx said:
MushroomTrip said:
None.
Just take him to a therapist and try to show understanding.
You never solve anything with force or by punishing.


:thumbup:



That sounds really lame and expensive.  Not in this situation, as far as I can tell, but every now and then a slap or a threat to a kid is not bad.

This pussy parenting is ridiculous.  Wahh Johnny's self esteem will be hurt if he is picked last on the team at recess wahhh

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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Boom]
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The OP stated that the 16 year old experienced sexual abuse as a child. I would suspect he has little awareness of what appropriate sexual boundaries are because of that. He probably just thinks it's perfectly normal as he didn't learn the same boundaries the rest of us do. That doesn't make him a pedophile, but it would help him to recieve some counselling. Slapping him around isn't going to help considering he's probably already embarrassed enough at haing been caught. If not therapy, at least just having a calm conversation giving him the benefit of the doubt and not jumping to any conclusions about him being a pedophile would be a good place to start. He's 16 for christ sakes, he's probably really confused and really horny and probably wasn't thinking.

Edited by NiamhNyx (02/19/08 08:02 PM)

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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: Boom]
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Lame and expensive? :what:
And hitting or punishing a child is not lame. :rolleyes:
If the parents have enough mind, they will KNOW hot to REASON with their children. There's no such thing as a "bad kid", there are only incompetent parents.
And those parents who are unable to know who their kid is and how to build a healthy relationship with them, should at least have the decency to ask for professional help - a therapist.
It is not a matter of "being hurt", it's just that punishing never shows results, in the long run it does more harm than good. :shrug:


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: NiamhNyx]
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Let's see, 16 and sitting in front of a computer (obviously because the computer screen was broken) and jerking off. I wonder what he was doing?

4 yr old wasn't that close by and was watching tv.

Really doesn't sound like pedophilia. But like others said. With only a partial idea of what's going on it's hard to say.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: MushroomTrip]
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I have to say MT, based on what you said, you don't have kids do you?

There is such a thing as bad kids. It doesn't make their parents incompetent.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: mushbaby]
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mushbaby said:
I have to say MT, based on what you said, you don't have kids do you?

There is such a thing as bad kids.  It doesn't make their parents incompetent.


No, I don't have kids but this doesn't mean I wouldn't know HOW to raise one.
Does delivering a baby or conceiving it makes one competent? Far from being so!
I was a kid myself and I know exactly what worked on me and what didn't. I have the necessary awareness and lucidity to realize what's good in educating a kid and what's bad. I can discern why I was "bad" when I was and why I was "good" and because of what.
Also I have read a fuck ton of children's psychology books, education, motivation and the like. Yes, I think I am able to say without any shadow of doubt that I have a pretty good idea about growing a child. :hehehe:

Quote:
There is such a thing as bad kids.


Care to explain? :sherlock:


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: MushroomTrip]
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Some psychotics exhibited tendencies such as animal mutilation at an early age. Not all such children were abused or neglected. Now I'll admit it's rare. But to say "no child is bad, the parents were incompetent" is plain unfair.


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Re: Is my nephew staying with a pedophile? [Re: mushbaby]
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Yes and this situation is not one of those rare examples. I was making reference to situations like these, where if parents think that their child needs to be beaten is because they have no clue how to raise them.


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