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Passive/Agressive
#5254543 - 02/02/06 09:59 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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I think this is my least favorite human disease. People who have it come on all New Agey and Loving. They want you to think that they are evolved and love everybody. But when they think someone is down and out of favor etc. They pour forth their bile, jealousy and hatred.
I think every body does this to some degree on occasion, but there are some people you can count on to do it every time. They are dangerous to themselves and others more than any other social malady IMO, because they constantly claim they don't know what in heaven you are talking about, they are just being honest and loving. They are especially dangerous to their children and often cause conditions in them and then abdicate responsibility by claiming that their kids have a medical condition when in truth the kid is dealing with the parents passive/aggressive nature.
What do you all think causes this condition?
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Re: Passive/Agressive [Re: Icelander]
#5254591 - 02/02/06 10:19 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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this version of "passive aggressive" sounds defensive. how is the being threatened? maybe it is the echoes of long ago threats long since passed away. like something from childhood?
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Re: Passive/Agressive [Re: Icelander]
#5254600 - 02/02/06 10:23 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Man... one of my best friends in high school had p/a parents. It made him pretty damn anxious all the time. His parents eventually convinced him that I was out to get him so he couldn't be friends with me anymore. It was really weird. I've actually not seen a weirder parent/child relationship.
I've thought a lot about the possible causes of the condition. I think it is extreme emotional immaturity and insecurity.
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Re: Passive/Agressive [Re: Icelander]
#5254637 - 02/02/06 10:32 AM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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Some people that grow up in dysfunctional families never learn the constructive potential of anger but instead learn that anger always leads to escalation of conflict, violence and someone being hurt one way or another. Because of this they fear both the anger they feel in themselves and the anger that they can cause in others by showing their hostility openly. Because of this fear they then decide to suppress all of their anger. But since that?s not completely possible they express it by using passive aggressiveness. Something like that...
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Re: Passive/Agressive [Re: Icelander]
#5255028 - 02/02/06 12:30 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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If you were to trace such a behavior and mentality all the way down to its very roots, you will see that there is typically a fundamental evasion of reality and dishonesty involved. Hence, when one builds from such a foundation, one is doomed to volatility, fear and more denials of reality. They naturally turn to mysticism and new agey crap that perfectly caters to their ignorance and lack of reason, and decieve themselves even further. Like you said, they will come off all loving and peaceful - yet underneath all that fluff, they are quite possibly the worst hypocrites in the world, as evidenced by their actions under moments of truth.
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Any belief system caters to ignorance... not just New Agey stuff.
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Re: Passive/Agressive [Re: Sclorch]
#5255140 - 02/02/06 12:48 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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That was just an example that came to mind.
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Re: Passive/Agressive [Re: Icelander]
#5255939 - 02/02/06 04:01 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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"I think this is my least favorite human disease. People who have it come on all New Agey and Loving. They want you to think that they are evolved and love everybody. But when they think someone is down and out of favor etc. They pour forth their bile, jealousy and hatred. "

im confused... first of all, i didnt realize passive agressiveness was a disease... but its a disease that makes you "come on all new agey and loving, and makes you want to make people think your evolved?"
no offense man, but what are you talking about?
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Re: Passive/Agressive [Re: Moonshoe]
#5256175 - 02/02/06 04:59 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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You'll have to think about it.
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Re: Passive/Agressive [Re: Icelander]
#5256218 - 02/02/06 05:15 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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The "disease" you are talking about is not a disease it's more like a state. And anyways what you described here doesn't really sounds like p/a behaviour, it sounds more to some kind of superficial people which also try to behave and to give the impression they know more then they actually do. It's in a sort of way a cultural snobism. Considering that there are more dangerous persons out there which also have kids, this type of people are quite ok. So I see their kids in no potential danger - considering the kids have at least a personality of their own -. And anyways, what have these people done to you that you hate them so much?
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I don't hate anybody. That would not be wise at all. I often dislike peoples cultural personality structure though.
Under that structure I believe love is alive and in bloom.
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Re: Passive/Agressive [Re: Icelander] 1
#5256550 - 02/02/06 06:35 PM (17 years, 11 months ago) |
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You got that right. It's so sad to see people which are trying to be what they are not. And trey're not even trying to be better, that's the saddest part of all.
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