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VirgilKane
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Last respects...
#4626394 - 09/06/05 04:56 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Does not attending the funeral of an elderly family member constitute some sort of betrayal? Given that you've come to terms with that person, in person a week before they died and actually feel relief that they are gone because of their suffering in this world and are at peace with their passing? Not to mention the fact that attending the funeral would require traveling to another state and cause considerable financial and logistical difficulties that you know they wouldn't want you to go through.
Is attending the ceremony nessessary to show respect or is it just a moral obligation imposed by society if you already feel at peace with the circumstances? Is it primarily for the survivor's comfort and detriment if you were not to attend?
-------------------- Absense of evidence is not evidence of absense... "Religion is a defense against a religious experience" Carl G. Jung "So really, ordinary reality is a kind of chemical habit, sanctioned by culture, which says it's okay to use certain drugs, eat certain foods, and have certain sexual behaviors. However, when you transcend all this pre-conditioning by returning to the original wisdom of the animal body, then you discover this immense dimension of opportunity. For some people, it is a frightening risk. To me, that's the psychedelic experience." Terence McKenna
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Re: Last respects... [Re: VirgilKane]
#4626416 - 09/06/05 05:03 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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I skipped my Moms funeral. I plan to do the same for mine.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
Edited by Icelander (09/06/05 05:03 PM)
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VirgilKane
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Re: Last respects... [Re: Icelander]
#4626421 - 09/06/05 05:05 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Out of peace or out of hard feelings. Was there nothing left to be communicated between you because everything had been taken care of in life?
Edit for edit: LOL!!
-------------------- Absense of evidence is not evidence of absense... "Religion is a defense against a religious experience" Carl G. Jung "So really, ordinary reality is a kind of chemical habit, sanctioned by culture, which says it's okay to use certain drugs, eat certain foods, and have certain sexual behaviors. However, when you transcend all this pre-conditioning by returning to the original wisdom of the animal body, then you discover this immense dimension of opportunity. For some people, it is a frightening risk. To me, that's the psychedelic experience." Terence McKenna
Edited by schapper (09/06/05 05:06 PM)
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Icelander
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Re: Last respects... [Re: VirgilKane]
#4626435 - 09/06/05 05:10 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Was there nothing left to be communicated between you because everything had been taken care of in life
Pretty close to that. She was a stranger to me. Besides, funerals are boring.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
Edited by Icelander (09/06/05 05:10 PM)
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Gomp
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Re: Last respects... [Re: VirgilKane]
#4626508 - 09/06/05 05:32 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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I believe, it was on my grave stone, it stands.. (?) :P
"I must be more alive than you, if you really do waste your time, hanging around with dead people, just reading this.."
"Go home, and find me with you, al(l)ways!" -Unknown :P
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VirgilKane
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Re: Last respects... [Re: Gomp]
#4626524 - 09/06/05 05:37 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Good point!
-------------------- Absense of evidence is not evidence of absense... "Religion is a defense against a religious experience" Carl G. Jung "So really, ordinary reality is a kind of chemical habit, sanctioned by culture, which says it's okay to use certain drugs, eat certain foods, and have certain sexual behaviors. However, when you transcend all this pre-conditioning by returning to the original wisdom of the animal body, then you discover this immense dimension of opportunity. For some people, it is a frightening risk. To me, that's the psychedelic experience." Terence McKenna
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Re: Last respects... [Re: VirgilKane]
#4629036 - 09/07/05 08:00 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Obligation imposed by society.
After the neurotransmitters stop firing, all that is left is a flesh husk.
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Rose
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Re: Last respects... [Re: VirgilKane]
#4633934 - 09/08/05 01:21 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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A funeral is for the living, and not the dead.
Most humans, and many mamals, do better with some closure.
-------------------- Fiddlesticks.
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Re: Last respects... [Re: Adden]
#4633950 - 09/08/05 01:28 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
S_2 said: Obligation imposed by society.
After the neurotransmitters stop firing, all that is left is a flesh husk.
I would like that latter quote on my headstone, to help put things into perspective for any weeping passerbys.
-------------------- So long as you are praised think only that you are not yet on your own path but on that of another.
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Re: Last respects... [Re: Ravus]
#4633983 - 09/08/05 01:43 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Here's my current favorite:
Once I wasn't Then I was Now I ain't again.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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VirgilKane
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Re: Last respects... [Re: Icelander]
#4634492 - 09/08/05 03:55 PM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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I used to think that Pink Floyd said it best:
Goodbye cruel world it's over...walk on by.
Now I'm not so sure...
-------------------- Absense of evidence is not evidence of absense... "Religion is a defense against a religious experience" Carl G. Jung "So really, ordinary reality is a kind of chemical habit, sanctioned by culture, which says it's okay to use certain drugs, eat certain foods, and have certain sexual behaviors. However, when you transcend all this pre-conditioning by returning to the original wisdom of the animal body, then you discover this immense dimension of opportunity. For some people, it is a frightening risk. To me, that's the psychedelic experience." Terence McKenna
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