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delta9
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: ToTheSummit]
#3702411 - 01/30/05 01:51 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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Aye, old habits die hard. When you two are happily dating after she drops this man... You will have to be comfortable with her extracurriculars just as this one... Only you get to know the outcome
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PsillyNilly
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: delta9]
#3702458 - 01/30/05 02:06 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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Ive been in the same situation and believe me.....this is a rat trap if I have ever heard one. I didnt fuck her because I respected the relationship she was currently in, but, we remianed friends until one day she broke up with her BF and we had a nice run.
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Moonshoe
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Moonshoe]
#3702573 - 01/30/05 02:31 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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"I'd go for it, you and her both seem open-minded about it"
thanks for being the only one to tell me what i wanted to hear!
"you could have a connection with someone elses gonorrhea...
were you aware that there is about 5 different new strains of drug resistant gonorrhea? "
were you aware that ANY time you have a sexual encounter, you are risking some kind of sexually transmitted infection? Does that mean you choose a life of celibacy? not me dude. Were you aware that i was planning to wear a condom?
"you are a fucking turd"
um. im sorry, did you just call me a fucking turd for asking for relationship advice?
"Think of it like this. Say you and this wonderful girl that you speak of are in a serious committed relationship and she tells you that she has these sexual feelings for another guy. She tells you that she wants him but does not want to break up with you. Will you sit in the room as she gets off with some dude. How would that make you feel? "
ok... i was trying to censor this story a bit so that i could get more on topic, helpfull responses instead of turning this into an entirely different discussion, but now i realize i need to come clean. THe story isnt exactly how i originally painted it.
BAsically, all three of us in this little triangle are bisexual, and all 3 of us have fooled around a little bit. The girl is really atracted to me, but what i didnt mention is so is her boyfriend. If i was to take this opportunity to get with the girl, her boyfriend wouldnt just be watchin, it would in fact be more like a threesome, which is why hes quite ok with the whole thing. The added complication here is that although i like the guy, i dont share anywhere near the attraction to him that i do with his girl... so its wierd.
um. yeah. its confusing, i dont actually want the kind of commited relationship this girl and her boyfriend have at this point, and even tho i feel so strongly for her, i dont want to see there relationship fall apart. However, even tho i know how strongly this girl is attracted to me, i dont think that she would ever dump her boyfriend for me, cuz they are pretty into each other. So, in that sense i think that doing the threesome thing COULD be really incredibly fun, let me get this girl out of my system a bit, and allow us all to remain friends and possibly do it again once or many more times in the future.
On the other hand, it could backlash and either make her boyfriend jealous of me if he senses the connection, or it could make me even more obsessed with this girl and drive me nuts not to have her.
On the OTHER hand, a sexual chemistry like this doesnt come along to often, and fuck... i feel really really good when im with her.
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Moonshoe]
#3702696 - 01/30/05 02:58 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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OK, bisexuality could change things a bit. Being heterosexual I guess I would have no sound advice on this since I can't relate to the feelings involved. But somehow I still think there may be problems when emotions get tanlged up amongst 3 people, even if the sex is good all the way around.
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: ToTheSummit]
#3702791 - 01/30/05 03:31 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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I can kinda relate with you here
I've been secretly going out with this girl for 3 months, because she has a boyfriend with whom she's been going out with for over 2years, and this guy is actually a good friend of mine.
Before i started going out with her, i thought that their couple was perfect as well, until she told me one day that it actually wasn't going so well, and i told her i was attracted to her, and she said the same thing, so we started making out. Now she realizes she really has no feeling for her official boyfriend, and she tells me she is going to break up some time this week.
I also had that staring contest thing with her as well, but she sucks at it, she can't stop herself from blinking.
The big difference between you and i though is that her boyfriend would kill me if he knew what was going on, and surprisingly enough the boyfriend of your girl doesn't care that much if you have sex.
So my advice is, if you dig it, go on and have a threesome, you won't have many other opportunities to do so. Ask the girl's opinion also, cuz maybe if she really loves you she will want to keep you for herself as well. I think through discussions with the girl you'll be able to get through this whole story just fine. Find out if their couple really is as perfect as you think it is. Find out what she thinks and wants. Be curious
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Moonshoe]
#3702809 - 01/30/05 03:39 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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Well, as most other people in this thread are into the typical monogamous relationship, they're going to view that situation as a trainwreck waiting to happen. However, if you are more open-minded about it, and so is she, I really don't see any problem other than your emotional situation, which only you can really know. Will you be OK with her after you do this? Will it strengthen your relationship?
Only you have the answers man
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Ravus]
#3702862 - 01/30/05 03:55 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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Good point, Ravus. I do lean towards monogamy. However, I have also been in very similar situations and they are a mindfuck, for the most part, but they can be good if all involved parties are really cool and understanding people.
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Ravus]
#3702879 - 01/30/05 03:58 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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If you got a little love triange goin on then that puts whole different spin in things. If it wiill really satisfy your lust to have sex with this woman then I say go along ith it...but beware of the consequeces. When you cross the line into sex, things can get really weird, you can lose this girl and guy as friends alltogether.....overtime of course, but I have seen it happen. I dont know your personalities, but in my edge of the woods, people only conduct orgies with hookers and swagglers.
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Moonshoe]
#3703531 - 01/30/05 06:22 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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okay... im sorry i overeacted a bit, but ive been in stranger situations... well, maybe not, but ive been in wierd siuations anyways...
the fucking turd comment was me being funny haha i know, really funny, but im coming clean. not unlike you.
your bisexuality doesnt change this situation a bit though...
if your cool with having your woman sleep with other people then by all means, do this. if your not, then dont do it.
seriously... someones gonna get hurt, and because i know you best from any of these people, i really dont want it to be you...
i really think this is a bad idea...
also, about the comment :
"thanks for telling me what i wanted to hear!"
why the hell did you ask advice when you were only gonna listen to what you wanted to hear in the first place?
i wish you the best of luck in this situation honestly, and i hope you dont get a sexually transmitted disease... theres those jokes again... but i still really hope you dont.
Casil
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Todcasil]
#3703661 - 01/30/05 06:40 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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ixnay on that one
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: exclusive58]
#3703673 - 01/30/05 06:42 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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Quote:
I've been secretly going out with this girl for 3 months, because she has a boyfriend with whom she's been going out with for over 2years, and this guy is actually a good friend of mine.
 No matter how much she dislikes him.....
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Moonshoe]
#3704001 - 01/30/05 07:37 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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Go for it. You'll definiately be taking a risk, and there're alot of good reasons not to. Go for it anyway.
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: phi1618]
#3704023 - 01/30/05 07:42 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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Exactly my sentiments. I would probably go for it if I were you Moon, but I don't exactly care about monogamous relationships or traditional boundaries. After you do it with two girls at once and such, it becomes rather hypocritical to preach against something like this.
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Moonshoe]
#3704046 - 01/30/05 07:49 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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If you really like her, don't screw her with her boyfriend in the room or whatever. Wait until she gets rid of him, and if she doesnt, you'll find someone else that will be equally as cool/beautiful one day.
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Re: in love with someone i can fuck but not have... [Re: Supernova]
#3704124 - 01/30/05 08:10 PM (19 years, 20 days ago) |
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Or just stick to handjobs...
Hey, it's better than nothing!
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