Psicomb said:

you’re awesome, Asante thank you.  I agree that the unfamiliarity and pure carnal nature of it all (which then added to the nerves a bit) played a significant role.  I had a minimal amount of Ativan (approx .33mg).  I wasn’t the only dude there with some dick issues going on, but it definitely seemed like all the regulars were on boner pills haha.  Apparently this struggle with getting hard is pretty damn normal for new time swingers, especially at their first big event.  I do want Viagra as a safety precaution, at least until I get more comfortable in the scene, but I don’t wanna rely on it and once I know my body and mind well enough in these situations I’m guessing I’ll have erections without any problems.  This was the first time in my life my dick didn’t work as expected and I wasn’t stoked for it to be at an orgy haha

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Happened to me with my first threesome. It was definitely the surprise of it all. My next go around I was much more comfortable with the atmosphere, knew the people well, and had no problems.

I suspect you probably wouldn’t need the pills, but then again, maybe if the purpose is to stay hard after 2-3 shags I get it. These days after one I’m ready for bed

Glad you two had fun

Psicomb said:

Yes, sex is intense and personal, but really is it as big of a risk emotionally than we think it is?  Not if you have an honest relationship with your spouse/partner.

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I think that last sentence is key. Most people don't even have an honest relationship with themselves, let alone their partners

There are plenty of people who would/have left their partners because another person made them feel better or more special/valued/loved etc outside of the bedroom.. When it comes to putting penises into holes those sort of feeling are definitely amplified. Most people aren't equipped to live with that kind of risk and uncertainty

My wife and I have a very trusting relationship, Molly and mushrooms have certainly contributed to that . I can't speak for her but I haven't had a single jealous feeling in over a decade, the trust is just the foundation of what we have. I have no doubt she'd be down to try something if we talked about it enough.

I just know myself too well. Im an addict, I chase pleasure and the next hit always needs to be bigger and stronger. Sex was my first addiction, now it's something special my wife and I share. If we opened that up I'd be losing the specialness of something I value and just be chasing pleasure again, which always just makes me feel more empty in the end

Now I feel like I'm knocking your choice or something , not at all...if anything I'm jealous. I had some group moments when I was younger, also found myself in poly thing when I lived at Loon Mtn in my early 20s... those were some incredibly fun times. If my brain worked normally I'd definitely be considering that sort of lifestyle. 

Different strokes for different folks

Psicomb said:

Niiiice!  Maybe it'll plant a lil seed in the bartender's head that "hey, this actually sounds kinda liberating and awesome!" and she will keep the sticker.  It makes me happy to see my transparency being reciprocated well.  The Shroomery is the realest spot on the internet and I owe so much to this forum.  It'd be disrespectful to you and other wonderful posters not be honest here. 

It trips me out a bit how much the free love approach to life has been suppressed in modern day society.  Everyone is fueled by insecurity due to media and porn - there's a lot of men who are too afraid of pursuing sex the way they truly want to.  Or being completely transparent with their partner.  Or admitting their dick is soft when it doesn't wanna be.  Life is all about rolling with the punches, but in the age of instant gratification we as humans (speaking mainly to Americans) are too afraid to be perceived poorly or to take a risk or to trust that we have no control over other's feelings and dreams.  I refuse to let a single night of erection issues dictate how I feel about the night.  It was fucking incredible!  I did everything a young-me would've ever wanted, and more! lol.  Fear is so irrational and will allow a moment like that to destroy a guy emotionally if they're insecure.  I prefer to turn it into something fun; a new boundary to work within.

My wife's nail lady was all sketched out when they were talking about the party.  The nail lady, who mind you I live in Seattle and she is "progressive", was all nervous like "what if you catch some feelings or something?"  and it's like, uuuuhhh that happens outside of sex, too, you know.  Yes, sex is intense and personal, but really is it as big of a risk emotionally than we think it is?  Not if you have an honest relationship with your spouse/partner.  I truly believe that.

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Psicomb said:

Thanks y’all just did an online consult at Walgreens for Viagra, it’s already sent to the pharmacy and should be ready later.  I had no idea some anxiety and unfamiliarity with the whole situation would lead to it being difficult to get hard with strangers.  But it is what it is, and it’s just some psychological stuff.  Nothing that 50mg of Viagra hopefully can’t fix

With that said, it was surprising how relaxed the whole party / experience was.  It felt very organic and natural, in a really intense way.

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Mickalopagus said:

It’s gotta be 70% or higher

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Mickalopagus said:

Psicomb said:

you’re awesome, Asante thank you.  I agree that the unfamiliarity and pure carnal nature of it all (which then added to the nerves a bit) played a significant role.  I had a minimal amount of Ativan (approx .33mg).  I wasn’t the only dude there with some dick issues going on, but it definitely seemed like all the regulars were on boner pills haha.  Apparently this struggle with getting hard is pretty damn normal for new time swingers, especially at their first big event.  I do want Viagra as a safety precaution, at least until I get more comfortable in the scene, but I don’t wanna rely on it and once I know my body and mind well enough in these situations I’m guessing I’ll have erections without any problems.  This was the first time in my life my dick didn’t work as expected and I wasn’t stoked for it to be at an orgy haha

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Happened to me with my first threesome. It was definitely the surprise of it all. My next go around I was much more comfortable with the atmosphere, knew the people well, and had no problems.

I suspect you probably wouldn’t need the pills, but then again, maybe if the purpose is to stay hard after 2-3 shags I get it. These days after one I’m ready for bed

Glad you two had fun

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Thank you for this puts my mind a bit at ease.  So glad you’ve had your share of wild experiences too.  This is pretty awesome..

feevers said:

Psicomb said:

Yes, sex is intense and personal, but really is it as big of a risk emotionally than we think it is?  Not if you have an honest relationship with your spouse/partner.

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I think that last sentence is key. Most people don't even have an honest relationship with themselves, let alone their partners

There are plenty of people who would/have left their partners because another person made them feel better or more special/valued/loved etc outside of the bedroom.. When it comes to putting penises into holes those sort of feeling are definitely amplified. Most people aren't equipped to live with that kind of risk and uncertainty

My wife and I have a very trusting relationship, Molly and mushrooms have certainly contributed to that . I can't speak for her but I haven't had a single jealous feeling in over a decade, the trust is just the foundation of what we have. I have no doubt she'd be down to try something if we talked about it enough.

I just know myself too well. Im an addict, I chase pleasure and the next hit always needs to be bigger and stronger. Sex was my first addiction, now it's something special my wife and I share. If we opened that up I'd be losing the specialness of something I value and just be chasing pleasure again, which always just makes me feel more empty in the end

Now I feel like I'm knocking your choice or something , not at all...if anything I'm jealous. I had some group moments when I was younger, also found myself in poly thing when I lived at Loon Mtn in my early 20s... those were some incredibly fun times. If my brain worked normally I'd definitely be considering that sort of lifestyle. 

Different strokes for different folks

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Trust and honesty are dying qualities these days.  It fills my heart that y’all share an unfiltered life with one another.  Being able to experience that with a partner has been one of the biggest blessings of my entire life.

Psicomb said:

So glad you’ve had your share of wild experiences too.  This is pretty awesome..

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By miracle of God brother!

Tried keeping the good luck going and asking my wife if she’d be interested. She responded with something along the lines of ‘Fuck off!’

Quote:

spirit_shadow said:My best friend is a gay version of quagmire and im not even joking

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Just got a date lined up with the other couple   They’ve been bringing up checking out a sex-positive club/center in our city so we got new member orientation on Wednesday and then we can attend parties and events and whatnot there.  Basically everyone we met at the party was a member at this spot. 

The rocker couple are exhibitionists so they seem to be especially interested in that side of things.  I will definitely need Sildenafil for that lol but sounds exciting.  The wife of the couple was saying how there’s one event at the center that allows single people to attend and her favorite thing is showing off to all the gooners, both solo and involving her husband / play partners.  Super freaks.  Fuckin love it.

It’s been interesting.  There’s been like truly zero jealousy or weird feelings about my wife and I sharing our bodies with other people since the big event.  Our sex life at home has gotten even freakier and the intimate connection we share is just as powerful as it ever has been.

Mickalopagus said:

Tried keeping the good luck going and asking my wife if she’d be interested. She responded with something along the lines of ‘Fuck off!’

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Lmao..!!  Worth trying .  nothing wrong with shooting for the stars