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Anonymous #1
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online dating pros and cons...
#22169273 - 08/31/15 01:52 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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What are the pros and cons? And is it worth the stigma / being laughed at, if Co workers / friends found out?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22169653 - 08/31/15 03:15 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Define "online dating"
if you mean a dating site that puts singles together in a local area IRL then that is fine.
If you mean having a girlfriend that only exists on the internet that is not.
I met my gf on facebook through some mutual friends actually in a music group. We have been together for a few years now and have a great relationship. If somebody wants to laugh at me they are more than welcome to, but my relationship kicks ass so I don't give a shit.
Why waste time worrying about what others think about you? Online dating is nice because you can find out what a girl is interested in without having to go through all the bullshit. You also can easily find sluts that will fuck you for no good reason other than to boost their self esteem, so thats a plus as well.
All in all the internet is a solid place for meeting people IME
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Anonymous #1
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22169678 - 08/31/15 03:21 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Meaning pof, tinder etc, I have this perception that online dating is for losers... and that I would get made fun of..
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Anonymous #1
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22169686 - 08/31/15 03:22 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Actually just pof lol sinse I wouldn't even be able to use tinder cuz I don't have Facebook
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Anonymous #2
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22169697 - 08/31/15 03:25 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said: Meaning pof, tinder etc, I have this perception that online dating is for losers... and that I would get made fun of..
Who cares
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Anonymous #1
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #2]
#22169704 - 08/31/15 03:29 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't why I care but I do... I also feel it's not as genuine if that makes sense
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Anonymous #3
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22169712 - 08/31/15 03:31 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sounds like your subconscious telling you to go out and meet ppl
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Anonymous #1
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #3]
#22169727 - 08/31/15 03:35 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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True. It's just hard sinse I work full time and don't go to/ like bars, and after high school I somewhat alienated myself working full time and no Facebook, so I've lost contact with alot of people, and don't get out as much as I should.. Which why somewhat gave using pof or something a thought, but I feel like a pathetic loser, stooping to using the Internet to meet someone... Like how could you tell your parents /friends "Oh BTW we met on pof"
Edited by Anonymous (08/31/15 03:37 PM)
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Anonymous #1
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22169839 - 08/31/15 04:06 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Am I the only one that feels that way about online dating lol? Oh another bias I have towards online dating is "there is probably something wrong with a woman who is on there because if she is good looking how could she not have a boyfriend "...
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Anonymous #4
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#22169915 - 08/31/15 04:25 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lots of obese with kids and baggage etc.
Probably better to just go out and dance when you get the chance.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #4]
#22170154 - 08/31/15 05:23 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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So the only cons so far are lots of obese / lots if baggage, obese can easily be weeded out, and the baggage m ight take a while to surface, possibly in too deep by the time it comes out lol
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Anonymous #5
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22171018 - 08/31/15 08:11 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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My biggest problem with the internet in general and meeting a girl is that it seems like there's a 10:1 male:female ratio. I've taken a peak at pof and badoo and that's the conclusion I came to. Seems like there are a lot more males than females online in general? Shroomery is an example.
Also, it seems like people online are nuttier than in real life. This goes for both sexes.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #5]
#22172171 - 09/01/15 12:41 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Online is only a bridge to meeting other people.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #5]
#22172197 - 09/01/15 12:49 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Guy above nailed it. You'll get ignored by ugly chicks you wouldnt give a second look at real life because they get bombarded with messages from guys and inflates their ego until they think they are gods gift to men. The girls cherry pick, you better be good looking or cool or you'll have no chance with anything but fatties.
Also, girls are crazier/more desperate online. I think it's because all normal chicks don't need to use online dating to find men. You'll find alot of chicks who want to marry you after two weeks, and alot of downright crazies.
Also alot of single moms that don't get out much to date anymore so they get online with their spare time. They can be fun, but alot of them are looking for daddies.
Also, alot of girls will talk to you up until the point where you ask them out then ignore you. I've come to the conclusion they want attention, and want to feel wanted by getting asked out and showered with compliments, but aren't serious about dating.
That being said, there are also freaky sluts on there that are a blast, and even downright cool girls that might even be girlfriend material. I've lucked out with both, they just are far and few between.
It's a numbers game. Unless you are a super model you'll get ignored by 99 girls, but its all good because #100 will be down, and all it takes is one. Wash, rinse, and repeat. I killed it when I lived in a big town with unlimited amounts of woman; however, now that I'm in a small mountain town I don't have nearly as many woman to choose from which means I don't do as well.
This covers the basic, if you have any more questions feel free to PM, not sure why this was made anon =]
-danielx
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Anonymous #8
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #7]
#22174423 - 09/01/15 03:17 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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ime online "dating" sites got me laid but i never cultivated any serious relationships from them. it can still be fun though.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #7]
#22176598 - 09/02/15 12:05 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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That is a spot on reply thanks
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Anonymous #7
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22177540 - 09/02/15 10:03 AM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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No problem, report back with your results.
Most people use tinder nowdays but because I never wanted to attach a facebook or mobile number, I stick to pof and okcupid.
Dont underestimate how important your profile and pictures are. Especially if you arent a super model with six pack abs, you have to set yourself apart by making yourself seem like a fun, approachable person. Shirtless selfies probably wont work for you, so I suggest pictures of you doing fun stuff. Maybe a picture of you playing a guitar, picture of you rock climbing, basically doing whatever it is that makes you a rad person. Smiling helps, makes you look fun, approachable. What you write in your profile should reflect this as well. Don't just list off shit you like to do, make your profile unique and funny. These girls are showered with generic tools, make yourself stand apart.
Also, don't be afraid to kick it with a few heavier chicks you could never see yourself serious with. Just going out is good practice for when you get a better looking woman.
The "im going to take you out approach" is also quite successful. Some really hot girls get swamped with "lets fuck" messages, be that one guy who shows interest in her and wants to take her out and she may go out with you even though she has hotter options because shes sick of being used by scumbags. All you need is your foot in the door, even if it takes two dates to sleep with them its worth it. Espcially when you can date on the cheap like going for a walk around the lake with a beer or two. Avoid going out to eat, movies, etc the cliche bullshit. You just want a cheap, non committed place you both can talk. Fuck getting stuck with a bill somewhere if she ends up never talking to you again.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #7]
#22185075 - 09/03/15 09:03 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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The biggest con for me is that the girls will never agree to meet up.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #7]
#22185108 - 09/03/15 09:08 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well I'm.still on the fence I don't know if I.actually want to do it or not... I just have a problem feeling like I would get teased / made fun of by friends and Co workers if they were to find out..
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Anonymous #7
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Re: online dating pros and cons... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#22185312 - 09/03/15 09:33 PM (8 years, 4 months ago) |
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With that pussy attitude, you'll never do well with woman. Fuck what people think,you are the man. Don't forget that.
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