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Anonymous #10 |
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Quote: From #1's last post, i thought she was the girl ![]() I touched the hand of god and crushed in his fucking teeth
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Anonymous #11 |
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I'm a girl - I have best luck with OKCupid. The guys on POF that I was meeting on POF gave bad vibes, I met about 30 in person and every single one of them was down to fuck that instant and wanted to just hook up. Absolutely none of them wanted to be a guy who shared dates with their girl and had fun learning about each other and so on as dating and relationships go. They just wanted to fuck and be out. So I honestly fucking quit that site and give it bad ratings anytime it comes up. I also got raped by one of the guys - I was trying to leave his apartment and he grabs me and throws me on the couch and pulls up my skirt and tries to shove it in but his dick was too small so he only got it in my ass crack but fuck him. Fuck everyone on POF that I met.
I hate being treated like a single mom too. I am a working class professional business woman. I do not date men with kids. And I do not date smokers. It's hard to find someone but online dating gives options to meeting people who don't enjoy the bar scene.
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Anonymous #11 |
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Also I do not fuck on first, second or third dates. I'll wait til the 15th or 30th date if I feel I want to, I mean at that point we probably are because sexual compatibility is part of why I continue dating someone but this is about sharing relationships, which sex is only a part of. Btw by the 15th or 30th date it wouldn't just have been dates at that point, I mostly look for guys who fall easily in line with my life as a friend I can spend time with outside of specifically dating. I want to hang out in the afternoon and play video games and spend the night making homemade pasta and sauce or something, not going out on dates all the time.
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Anonymous #10 |
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You don't date smokers?
![]() Does it depend on what they smoke? or are you only talking about tobacco? You sound like a fat bitch to be honest
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Anonymous #11 |
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I'm talking about tobacco mostly but I won't date someone who lives in a cloud of pot smoke either. They have to be a professional get up and go physically active and fit type guy.
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Anonymous #10 |
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plenty of people are that type of guy, yet they smoke as well.
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Anonymous #12 |
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Yep - a picky controlling ugly bitch princess-type not worth a guy's time from the sounds of it.
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Anonymous #7 |
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Quote: Guys, let anon #11 be proof as to what I was saying my first post in here. Online dating makes these woman ultra picky, and think they deserve nothing but the best. Theres a reason why anon #11 went on dozens of dates. I wouldn't be surprised if most of those you were just to 'good for.' And if what you are saying is true, that they all just wanted to fuck you and bail, that means you are terrible and picking men, and likely pick the most attractive/cool/rich men instead of the more suitable type. More proof online dating makes woman impossibly shallow. Also, let her be an example of the woman who think she wants to be taken out and not just fucked. Use this to your advantage gentlemen. Pretend like your into her for a date or two, she will spread her legs after a week or so. It's the long con. It's totally worth it sometimes if you want to put in the effort, and who knows you might actually end up enjoying her company. This is all a game, you have to learn to play it even if your personality type doesn't normally play games. Most of the woman you meet will be completely insufferable (see anon11), but please don't let that scare you away from all woman. The woman on these sites are such awful people they can't meet men in real life, this makes them the lowest common denominator in dating. There are exceptions and gems, but realize what you are working with and don't let it discourage you.
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Anonymous #13 |
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OP, how old are you? What are you doing worrying about what other people think of where you find people to date? (Or even just to fuck?) That tells me one of two things: either you need to find new friends that aren't assholes about what you do with your time, or you need to man up and get over your fears of what anyone else thinks.
I dated on OKCupid for a while. As the name implies, it was okay. Not bad, not great. It's what you make of it. Let me detail you my experience as a girl. Being honest with myself, I'm probably a 7/10. I don't consider myself unattractive, but I'm not a prize catch either. Quite honestly, my appeal is my interests and expectations from a relationship. Regardless of this, my inbox would fill up pretty quickly with messages from guys. Almost all of them were something like this: "hey how's it going? you're very pretty and I think it's cool that you do [x]" Now, if you send a message like that, you are NOT going to get a response. That's what literally four out of five messages look like, and responding to that over and over again is exhausting, particularly when it doesn't seem like there's any sort of compatibility between the people. Now imagine how many messages a girl more attractive than myself gets. Other things to know about OKC: There are about equal numbers of guys and girls, but guys do most of the messaging. This is caused by a couple of things. Guys have long been expected to make the first move to open a relationship-seeking dialogue. The other thing keeping girls from messaging guys is that a LOT of guys find it a turn off when a girl makes that first move. Personally, I messaged quite a few guys who seemed really compatible. I got two replies. Answer questions on the site's matchmaking questionnaires. They really do help filter out the chaff. It also helps when some rando messages you; when your Friend/Enemy rating is 24%/68% or something like that, there's a good chance you're not getting along. FILL OUT YOUR PROFILE, and do it with something more interesting that just a basic listing of interests. That's great that you like hiking, cooking, and video games; so does everyone else here. Obviously they're not bad things to list, but try expanding on that. How often do you do outdoorsy shit? What kind of food do you like, or not like? (My last boyfriend didn't like Italian food, which happens to be my favorite; it was kind of an issue.) What kind of video games do you play? I love the shit out of some Skyrim or Fallout, even sitting down and watching someone else play. But do I want to listen to you pwning n00bs all day on CoD? Fuck no. Those are the kind of details that keep the obnoxious princesses away. Also, put pictures up! Do you have animals? Dogs? Post that shit. Bitches love bitches. Don't be afraid to go on dates you're not all that interested in. Think of them like practice dates. Every date you do on with someone who doesn't quite fit your standards will make it that much easier to talk to the kind of person who does. Don't be afraid to tell them that you had fun, but aren't interested in a second date. For one thing, dating around is the point. For another thing, you're never going to see them again. Finally, a final consolation on people finding out that you met your girl on OKC, or PoF or whatever: ![]() I was nervous too when I had to tell people I met my boyfriend on OKC. You know what their reaction was? Surprised interest. Like, every time. Usually, that led to a conversation about what it was like to date people online. More and more people are starting to do it, it's not a weird thing. My parents met on Match, as did my old boss and his now-fiancee. I got a couple of coworkers to try it out. It's really not as stigmatized as it once was. We live in a new age; embrace it. EDIT: Also, Anon #7?
Edited by Anonymous (09/06/15 03:48 PM)
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Anonymous #7 |
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Thanks for the valuable tidbits anon13. Not sure why you are flipping me off for keeping it real, as a woman, I doubt you understand the struggles men go through on these websites. Everything I said is 100% true.
There are cool girls on there, maybe youre one of them, but people should realize what to realistically expect. I also find it funny that you claim certain messages won't get a response, but don't give alternatives to messages that you feel will get a response. I'd be interested to hear a womans take on this. -danielx
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Anonymous #14 |
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Quote: AKA "Rick Rape".
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Anonymous #13 |
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Quote: The struggle? THE STRUGGLE! I genuinely lol'd, thank you for that. #7, I feel like part of the reason you struggle on these dating sites is because you've written off most of their female users as unattractive, demented garbage. You cannot go onto a dating website with those expectations and see results. So instead, you resort to "playing the system" and leading a girl to believe you're interested in order to have sex. First and foremost, what shitty behavior for a goddamned adult. Second of all, it's not that hard to find a casual sex partner without lying to them. Like, seriously, the long con you're talking about is such a huge investment of time for sex when there are plenty of girls DTF with NSA. There are a lot of girls on there that are unattractive. I'm not going to play like there aren't. The same goes for guys. There are people of all genders who will not appeal to you for a lot of different reasons, and odds are very good that there will be overwhelmingly more of them than there are good-looking, non-psycho, sexually-expressive ladies. The thing is, real life is the same way. But IRL, you're not focusing on each of them as a potential romantic partner. These girls seem so much worse to you than they do in person, but they're the same people. Not everyone who ends up on OKCupid goes there because they're continually turned down in face-to-face interactions. Some go because they don't like bars and clubs. Some go because they're trying to find someone to go to bars and clubs with. I would say most of them are there because you will meet people online that you might never have met otherwise, and the expectations are pretty clear upfront: "I'm messaging you because I think you're attractive and interesting and I'd like to pursue a relationship." Quote: A woman's take, eh? ![]() If you wanna catch a girl's eye on OKCupid, your message needs to stand out from all the rest. Don't even bother commenting on her appearance. It's unnecessary. If she gets upset that you didn't start off telling her how beautiful she is, well, stay the hell away from that. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. Non-crazy girls are aware that you messaged them for one of two reasons: nudes or pursuing a relationship. (In both of those cases, we're aware that you think we're pretty.) You'll get fewer responses when you don't use correct grammar and punctuation to a reasonable degree. After you establish a conversation, it's not as important, but first impressions are everything. We pay more attention if you start with something other than 'hi' or 'hey'. If you start with 'Hola!' or something unique, it shows us that you not only have a personality, but that you express it. Read our profiles. First off, do we even sound like a person you'd get along with? You can bet we'll read yours after we get the message, so it's helpful if we actually have things in common. If we do, then mention one or two, but don't stop at 'I see you do [x]; what a coincidence as I also do [x].' Try an approach that leads to more conversation. It's hard to reply to an objective statement. Ask questions. Example: "Hello there! My name's Robert; I was wondering if you'd be interested in chatting a bit? I saw that picture of your kayaking trip to Horse Tooth; I was just there last weekend! Do you go often?" Let's break this example down. Hello there! Non-standard greeting. My name's Robert; I was wondering if you'd be interested in chatting a bit? Quick introduction, you don't need to start with a life story. We can talk about jobs, schooling, etc. later. Asking if she wants to chat gives her the option to continue or not; by nailing the rest of it and giving her power in the conversation, you ingratiate yourself. I saw that picture of your kayaking trip to Horse Tooth; I was just there last weekend! Do you go often? The statement starts with a detail indicating you read her profile. Then you mention yourself, bringing you into the circle with her interest. (It doesn't matter if you were actually there last weekend, just that you share that interest.) Finally, ending with a question invites her to continue the conversation. Is this a better example of how to get a girl's attention online? We don't want to feel like we're being treated like every other girl, and if you just wanna bang, be straightforward with it. Lots of us are cool with that. If you guys need tips for dating sites, Google it, but click on the links aimed towards women. They'll tell you more about how to be successful because they're written by the people who want to hear them.
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Anonymous #7 |
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Quote: I didn't go onto these dating websites immediately writing off woman. Infact, I went into it with an open mind. My opinion came from years of dating and meeting woman. This isn't just my opinion. Talk to almost any guy who has extensively used these websites, they'll report the same kinds of behavior. Ive seen results from online dating. Ive had sex with handfuls of woman, and even dated a few for awhile because they were cool people. But it would be disingenuous to not give the whole truth to men looking to use it- they will have to weed through some serious bullshit and alot of really shitty people. I don't expect you to understand anything I say, because online dating for men and woman is a totally different experience for obvious reasons. I read this article before using POF, and after using these websites for years, I laugh about how right on this article seems to be. The part I bolded I found to be especially true. Ive had alot more success with beautiful woman just talking to them in real life. Online dating has made so ridiculously shallow. Even obese woman think they are gods gift to men. This guy hits the nail on the online dating head: Quote: PS- Thanks for your tips on openers. Edited by Anonymous (09/06/15 10:24 PM)
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Anonymous #13 |
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I'm sorry your experience with it has been so shitty. I can appreciate the frustration of what this guy has to say; I especially am glad he can see the issue from both sides. Girls wouldn't act the way they do on those sites without the encouragement of others. I haven't personally used PoF, but I spent a couple of years on OKC. I even met a few girls on there as friends; we went out for drinks a couple of times and talked about the site, in fact. If they're acting as abysmally different towards men than they are towards the females messaging them, well, fuck. That sucks and there's nothing to be done for it but to write them off. There's a small, niggling thought at the back of my mind that wonders what the demographics are like when you compare the two sites. It always seemed to me as though PoF attracted more conservative users, whereas OKC saw more liberal traffic. I don't know whether or not you used the latter, but I'd be interested to hear what the difference in reactions and standards was (if any) from the women on either site.
My initial reaction to you was, admittedly, vitriolic. It's a hard response to suppress when you spend several posts putting down my entire gender, describing them either as crazed, entitled, and ugly or as prizes to be won; it's pick-up artist behavior. I will certainly empathize with you and try to understand the difficulty you've had with the process if you can do the same and try to understand how much it sucks to be discounted as an entire demographic. As for the openers, I'm always happy to help when it's requested. I do want to add that the one thing he is wrong about is the ratio of men to women. It's not so exaggerated, though it may feel that way sometimes. While I was using the site, it definitely didn't feel like there were very many men using it, which wouldn't have surprised me given the stupid stigma that started this entire thread. From Quantcast (Nov. 2014) -OkCupid - 53m/47w -PlentyOfFish - 55m/45w -eHarmony - 47m/53w -match.com - 49m/51w
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Anonymous #7 |
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I wouldnt be surprised if those numbers were bullshitted by the websites to make themselves look better. Also, its a known fact atleast some of the paid websites were caught making fake female profiles to lure men in.
Sorry if you thought I was putting down your whole gender. I was just describing my experience. I did mention there are cool gems in the mix, some of which I've met and had a great time with. But for the most part men should realize they will have to seed through the above described stereotypes before meeting anyone cool, and I feel it's important for men to not get their hopes up and be let down. I've met people who had shit luck, and it severely affected their self confidence and self worth.
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Anonymous #9 |
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I been lead on a whole lot from girls online and then they never ended up meeting me in person, so all that time was wasted.
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Anonymous #14 |
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I find that I have the most issues with english-speaking north American women.
Women in Croatia, Ukraine, Russia, Brazil, Venezuela, even Mexico are always so polite compared to those in the USA and even Canada. So, is life. :-)
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Anonymous #15 |
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Women suck of course they're goin to flake out or have second thoughts
Unless you're freaking brad pitt and you make 40,000 dollars a year stay away, it's not worth your time. Which is why shitty apps like tinder are so succesful, the person on the other end doesn't want to marry you after the first month
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Anonymous #13 |
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I think it's adorable that #15 thinks that fear of commitment is a trait attributed solely to women, and also that $40,000/year is worth marrying someone just for their money.
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Anonymous #7 |
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Yeah I didnt quite get that 40k figure he threw out either, you must live in a poor ass place.
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