Anonymous #7 said:
Could you tell your wife to her face you are doing this? Would she be more upset that you were chatting or that you hid it from her?
I agree that it is your own separate life, but depending on what kind of trust and how open your wife expects you to be plays into this. If she is the type that doesn't care what you do on your free time and trusts you to make the right decisions on bigger things than just chatting and boob bouncing, than you should be fine.
About that sleep though... I think that is a good reason not to do it. As corny as it may sound, I would physically write a list of every hobby and/or life goals and rank them in the order that are a priority in your life. If that comes up towards the bottom, than you know it's truly just a living in the now pleasure that you could do without because ultimately you would be happier without it.
OR you could always do the, "I'll just do it for a month longer, and quit." I think you'd face the possibility of always extending that date the closer you get to the due date.
If your wife would let you, would you go outside of your marriage and not necessarily have full blown sex, but essentially do what you're doing online, only in real life? Even though that's a little different, but maybe for example chat them up and have them strip for you and that's it, just casual relationships.
I think when it comes down to differentiating what are willing to do online compared to real life is a make or break because what you want to do in real life is what you truly want and maybe chatting is a form saying you want to go out and meet other woman. That isn't unnatural because humans are naturally polygamists in the sense of having sex with others, not marriage. It's in our DNA and for a good reason too.
We have had 3 and 4somes, and she is fine with those. We go to strip clubs and such as well. We have a somewhat different relationship than the norm. And she HAS found out before. I used to tell her to her face. Why? Im normally a very honest guy, almost too honest. But, now that I have a kid, I dont want her or the kid upset. Sure, I want to have sex with strangers, its in our programming. I only stopped telling her not long ago. Now, I never said I keep the pics and such.
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