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Women????
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All right guys I need some anwsers as Im getting more and more pissed of by the minute so heres the question:

why are women always attracted to the asshole, the dick that doesn't give a damn about them?

The backround: My wife whom I love works for a company were another indivdual works who is a army reservist so he goes off to war to kill some ppl for some oil and now shes all concerned becuase lil boy blue is over there and might die, I dunno guys maybe Im a parinoid asshole but this threw up some red flags for me as she talks about "bringing the boys home soon" and checks the army times web site pretty regualrly and I dont get the feeling that she wants to bring the boys home soon becuase she feels that the war is all about greed ect. I get the fact that we cant control one another or each others feelings and that you just kind of have to go with the flow but I just dont understand what makes that kind of moron so attractive to a woman. Emotonally I guess I feel a lil betrayed which to be honest hurts alot, more so than physical betryal anyways rant off if you got any good insights please post them as I could use some perstpective.


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‘Our government is the potent, the omnipresent teacher. For good or ill, it teaches the whole people by its example.’"

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Re: Women???? [Re: oppression]
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im sorry to hear that.... While it is not un heard of for a married woman to have male friends.... you can never be too certain if it is more than that...

often times it has pained me to see women in my life go after the biggest assholes, always getting hurt and claiming not to understand... it dosent make sense to me either... but it still happens...

As for your wife, i would say that you should openly confront her on the subject, tell her how her attnetion to this man makes you feel, and ask her directly if there is anything going on between them...

honesty is usually the best polocy


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PEACE

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"in times of widespread chaos and confusion, it has been the duty of more advanced human beings - artists, scientists, clowns, and philosophers - to create order. In such times as ours however, when there is too much order, too much m management, too much programming and control, it becomes the duty of superior men and women and women to fling their favorite monkey wrenches into the machinery. To relieve the repression of the human spirit, they must sow doubt and disruption"

"People do it every day, they talk to themselves ... they see themselves as they'd like to be, they don't have the courage you have, to just run with it."

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Re: Women???? [Re: ZippoZ]
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Capatalistc nomad said:
im sorry to hear that.... While it is not un heard of for a married woman to have male friends.... you can never be too certain if it is more than that...

often times it has pained me to see women in my life go after the biggest assholes, always getting hurt and claiming not to understand... it dosent make sense to me either... but it still happens...

As for your wife, i would say that you should openly confront her on the subject, tell her how her attnetion to this man makes you feel, and ask her directly if there is anything going on between them...

honesty is usually the best polocy



Thanks for understanding and the advice sometimes its hard to see the path when your mind is clouded with frustration, Ill set down with her tonight and explain to her the way this stuff makes me feel. I never will understand how someone could care for someone that doesnt care about them or have any respect for human life for that matter.


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Re: Women???? [Re: oppression]
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First I'd like to point out that it isn't "women", it's this woman in particular. It's like of you have a Volvo you see Volvo's everywhere. There are lots of other cars on the road.

If your intuition is correct then I would say get really for some shit in the fan. Take a good look at yourself too and see how you treat and relate to this woman you love. It's almost never just one sided in these things. And, I would confront her with my thoughts but if you want any results from this you will have to find a way to be focused on your love for her rather than your anger and disappointment.

Maybe it's the end of your relationship. It happens all the time. See if it's fixable and if you really want to fix it. You will have to accept her the way she is and just work on your own shit. My advice is be ready to go it alone if need be. The position of strength here would be enough self love to let go if need be. That alone can open all the doors. Good luck dude.:thumbup:


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"Don't believe everything you think". -Anom.

" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

With much wisdom comes much sorrow,
The more knowledge, the more grief.
Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC

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Re: Women???? [Re: Icelander]
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Avoid when possible. If necessary, rent, don't buy. No matter how hot Girl X is, someone else dumped her because he was tired of her shit.


Now if you'll excuse me, I need to call my ex girlfriend. We just got back together.


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Re: Women???? [Re: Icelander]
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Icelander said:
First I'd like to point out that it isn't "women", it's this woman in particular. It's like of you have a Volvo you see Volvo's everywhere. There are lots of other cars on the road.

If your intuition is correct then I would say get really for some shit in the fan. Take a good look at yourself too and see how you treat and relate to this woman you love. It's almost never just one sided in these things. And, I would confront her with my thoughts but if you want any results from this you will have to find a way to be focused on your love for her rather than your anger and disappointment.

Maybe it's the end of your relationship. It happens all the time. See if it's fixable and if you really want to fix it. You will have to accept her the way she is and just work on your own shit. My advice is be ready to go it alone if need be. The position of strength here would be enough self love to let go if need be. That alone can open all the doors. Good luck dude.:thumbup:



Sorry man didn't mean to make generalizations lord knows I hate stereotypes myself.  This cat is the exact opposite of me in every way thats part of what makes me real nervous hes a company/military man, I help my folks run a small business, hes conservative, Im more lib-real in my views, hes college educated, highschool is as far as I went.  The other part is the going it alone, Ive never really been alone so in all honesty thats got me scared shitless, oh well guess I gotta learn sometime, if lady luck aint smiling shes taking a shit.


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Re: Women???? [Re: oppression]
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Well now if she's really in need of his type then it's all for the best.

Good for you for being honest about being scared of being alone. I'm thinking she's doing you a big favor. If you can't handle life alone then you can't handle being in your own skin. It's the most valuable thing you can learn. It's hard at first but you can come to love it and yourself in a way that makes you very attractive to really great women.:thumbup: I mean really great women and I speak from experience here.:D


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"Don't believe everything you think". -Anom.

" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

With much wisdom comes much sorrow,
The more knowledge, the more grief.
Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC

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Re: Women???? [Re: oppression]
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Women who dig the stereotype asshole dig them because he's an asshole to everyone. But if somehow the asshole gets the girl to think he's being nice to her and only her, well then she feels mighty special and most girls will do ANYTHING if they feel they are singled-out to be made to feel special.

Army guy played up his Army man/knight in shining armor role pretty well it sounds like.

And like CapNomad said, honesty is the correct action to take.


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Re: Women???? [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
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I mean first off understand men and women are different. to balance out one another and the world. people just try to balance out the world. i think everyone is trying to do whats 'right' to their own conscious and if your going to be around someone you have to let them embrace even the things u might not. Maybe your wife feels guilty in some way about this guy or the army or something... maybe shes bored? I dont support the army in anyway
You know also, with men or women when you make a problem out of them doing something, they are bound to do it more, because it is out of balance. You gotta let people be free, and be patient so you can understand them and see the good in them. If something bothers you just chill out for a little and youll see the good in it after a little while.
You said she was attracted to him.. I mean maybe she just cares. It doesnt seem likes shes attracted to him in a relationship sense?
I dont know everything i say could be tottally wrong.
just be positive, focus on the good and you can do so much for yourself and yo wifey too.
wives.... scary thought anyways
peace


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God says dance with your heart
And shake free of you desire

Where theres a will theres always a way
When you get confused listen to the music play


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Re: Women???? [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
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Penguarky Tunguin said:
Women who dig the stereotype asshole dig them because he's an asshole to everyone. But if somehow the asshole gets the girl to think he's being nice to her and only her, well then she feels mighty special and most girls will do ANYTHING if they feel they are singled-out to be made to feel special.

Army guy played up his Army man/knight in shining armor role pretty well it sounds like.

And like CapNomad said, honesty is the correct action to take.



That actually makes a hell of alot of sense thanks man! She is attracted to him, as Ive asked her in the past about it and shes been honest with me then, so its more than just caring about another human being. We sat down tonight and I explained how the whole thing made me feel and she admitted that there was more to it than just keeping up on current events. That did hurt a little bit in that when I asked her about it last nite (since I had noticed the web addy in the browser history again)she tried her best to lie her way outta of it saying she was reading some articles of interest, but I guess its good that she came clean and apologized for lying but it does make me wonder if there are any other little lies. All I can do is just roll with the punches, I guess, as theres not much I can do about it except for keep the lines of communication open and see where it takes me, Ill share that observation with her tomorrow Tunguin hell I dont even think she knows why shes attracted to these assholes. You know what the more I think about it there is some stuff I can do fuck it maybe Ill stop in and get her some flowers tommorw on my way home and do some good ol fashion cuddling and show her these ass`s aint worth shit I guess competition isnt always a bad thing or you know what fuck that IM on my way to do it NOW.


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Re: Women???? [Re: oppression]
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If you're married, you shouldn't have to do that.

But like you said, just roll with the punches...


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