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InvisibleTinMan
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Women that just don't get it
    #2098400 - 11/12/03 06:14 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

I work with or know a lot of these kind of women. They will get beaten or cheated on by their boyfriends, but they are too stupid to break up. I feel sorry for them, but I think if they don't break up, they deserve all the suffering they get. Any opinions?

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TinMan]
    #2098585 - 11/12/03 07:00 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

i don't necessarily think that they deserve the suffering they get if they stay with their boyfriends who do such acts...a majority of women are quite insecure and clingy...women also tend to hope for the best and look for a change in their partner.


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: boO]
    #2098658 - 11/12/03 07:17 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

i don't feel sorry for them, they like getting treated like that.

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TinMan]
    #2098676 - 11/12/03 07:21 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

i dont think anyone "deserves" to be treated like that, but if they are not willing to leave such a situation, alot of their pain and suffering was self inflicted...i have grown tired of feeling sorry for these types of women


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TinMan]
    #2098725 - 11/12/03 07:34 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

(I have posted this in other threads so I apologize for the
redundancy).

Women love guys who treat them like shit and are turned off by guys
who treat them well. I think they like the challenge and the drama
of having a guy be "difficult". At least this is what I have
noticed in my short time on this earth.

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TinMan]
    #2098801 - 11/12/03 07:48 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

It's true. Women do like to think we can change someone.

It's in our nature to think that we can see the 'real' person underneath it all... and try to bring that person out.

Truth is, what you see is what you get; it's who they are. Only thing that will change someone is themselves.


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: RandalFlagg]
    #2099628 - 11/12/03 11:36 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

<-----is not at all turned off by nice guys

I hate people who don't tip well, though. I don't know what's up with chicks that like assholes. I understand the desire to "change" someone, but it's much better to find someone you can love for who they are.

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: SanityIsOvrRated]
    #2099643 - 11/12/03 11:44 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

hey, i have trouble tipping girls...
well not that i tip guys

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: SanityIsOvrRated]
    #2099654 - 11/12/03 11:49 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

You forgot to add women are ^^^hypocrits^^^ too..  :rolleyes: :lol:


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: EvilEwok]
    #2100279 - 11/13/03 03:54 AM (20 years, 4 months ago)

<3 women

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TinMan]
    #2100378 - 11/13/03 04:47 AM (20 years, 4 months ago)

DISCLAIMER: This is my opinion and what i believe to be the reason for this behavior.  It's controversal and as always, i'm up for a good debate. :smirk:

I've been dying for a post like this that i could comment on.  I hope you are all ready to read. :wink: Let me break it down for you what a woman (or an abused man) really thinks about this kind of behavior, speaking from my own experience and the experience i've heard from others in the same situation.

1. Firstly, Why are women turned off by nice guys?

It's not that we are turned off by nice guys.  But i think as we mature, we begin to grow out of the 'bad boy' phase.  Being with the 'bad boy' initially gives a sense of adventure, rebelling, etc.  But mostly, i believe that it is more about the chase.  Someone who isn't 'nice' to us all the time, keeps us wanting them more because they aren't so easy to catch.  Until we hit a certain age or mentality, girls will always be attracted to the bad boy persona.  As we get older, we realize that we dont want an asshole.. that we want a nice guy. But we dont want a guy who will give us the world, who will be there at our beck and call constantly.  It's all about the chase.  A good lasting relationship consists of that 'little extra' that we want from our significant other, but can't quite get it.  It keeps us from becoming 'bored'.  If there is something that is constantly out of our reach, we will always reach for it.  I'm not saying it's a single thing.  It's hard to give an explaination as to what i'm trying to say.  But i'm sure you can all agree when i say if you are dating someone .. or are interested in someone, but they are constantly 'there'.. constantly willing to do everything and anything for you, it gets rather tedious and boring.  There's nothing to keep us 'wanting'.  You know?  I'll leave it at that since i can't think of any other way to explain it further.

2. Why do women stay in abusive relationships?

For many reasons.  First thing that comes to mind is the classic BWS.  Or better known as Battered Women Syndrome.  BWS can occur even when someone is not in an abusive relationship.  I have BWS.  It's when you stay in a relationship, whether it be physically and/or mentally abusive or neither.. but you feel that if you show enough love in the relationship, that the person that you 'fell in love with' will emerge.  The sense that 'if i love him, he will change'.  We thrive on keeping that 'romantic stage' alive.  It's sad really and it sends you on a crash course of self mental abuse.  Women who get physically abused usually have such a low self esteem that they dont feel they DESERVE any better.. or that they can get any better.  They also get used to routine.  They feel lost without it.  That's why many cases of women who have been abused will end up returning to the same situation.  I was with an abusive guy 3 years ago.  He lived with me for 6 long months.  He had me convinced that i was every negative thing he told me i was.  That no one else wanted me.. that i was ugly, etc.  Usually it begins with mental abuse.  They attack your mind and your self esteem so that when they do begin with the physical abuse, you are so down on yourself that you feel there is no one out there to help you.. or that you aren't worthy of help.  It's a very hard cycle to break out of.  When my ex began hitting me, i fought back.  It got pretty bad sometimes, but what pushed me over the edge was when he hit me and drew blood on the bridge of my nose, close to my eye.  My contact had been knocked out of my eye so i couldn't see, and when i felt the blood, i lost it.  I thought it was from my eye and that i would be blind.  I kicked him out that day.

Anyways, what i'm trying to get at is that it's not as easy to get out of as some people may think.  Especially if the abuser starts with the mental abuse first.  That breaks you down, and once you are broken, it's hard to make the change and the choices you know you should make.  What really pisses me off is when people say "They deserve it if they are stupid enough to put up with it."  You have to understand the length at which it happens.  Sure, there might be someone who, in the beginning of the relationship, gets physically abused and stays with that person.  To everyone else, that would be a sure sign of stupidity.  But you have to take into account HOW MANY TIMES this has happened in that persons life in the past.. and how broken that person may be.

I could go on forever about this topic.  But i know how we all hate to read long posts so i'll end my thoughts on this now. :thumbup:       


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TinMan]
    #2101186 - 11/13/03 10:30 AM (20 years, 4 months ago)

Quote:

TinMan said:
I work with or know a lot of these kind of women. They will get beaten or cheated on by their boyfriends, but they are too stupid to break up. I feel sorry for them, but I think if they don't break up, they deserve all the suffering they get. Any opinions? 





4 words - FUCKING LOW SELF ESTEEM....


self-hatred can tend to do that to ya. You think you're shit....therefore you wholeheartedly believe you deserve to be treated like shit  :crazy:     


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: ruskifile]
    #2107061 - 11/14/03 04:35 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

^^^^

No other explaination. It's true.

And sometimes, that cheating/beating husband is all she has left. It's like if your house catches fire...the woman will stay in the house and be burned alive. She won't leave.

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: StrongBad]
    #2107106 - 11/14/03 04:45 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

:frown: I assume you guys didn't read my long ass post.  Someones gotta read it!! I put alot of time into that thing, and everything you two said is exactly what i covered.. only in more detail.


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: sykobish]
    #2107148 - 11/14/03 05:02 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

break it up into more paragraphs  :cool:

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: StrongBad]
    #2107153 - 11/14/03 05:05 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

heh I can't really.. every paragraph explains in detail what i talk about in each paragraph.. (i hope that didn't thoroughly confuse you) :smile:


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: sykobish]
    #2107300 - 11/14/03 05:52 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

I read it kid :smile:.

I agree with everything you said, but it doesn't change the fact that #1 still makes it hard for me to meet a chick.  I'm one of the nice guys that never gets a chance (i still haven't had a g/f if you dig).  I think this is because the nice guys never 'play the game', (I know I don't because I don't see the need for it).  I want a girl to like me and not the game we're supposed to play, not what she thinks she can change about me or whatever other aspects elude her. 

I'm nice because that's how I'd like other people to act towards me, its a sign of respect.  It just bothers me that I'm never given the chance to be more than that.  Oh well, I try not to stress about it too much.  Maybe I don't know what I'm missing, but then again, maybe it's just not for me  :confused:


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TheDude]
    #2109435 - 11/15/03 03:44 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

be a nice guy that plays the game without going overboard.

try not to remain in the "friends category"

when you feel it is right to make a move and you hesitate, you are shooting yourself in the leg. STOP SHOOTING YOURSELF ITS CRAZY!!!


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: LikwidDrawp]
    #2110471 - 11/15/03 11:56 PM (20 years, 4 months ago)

Being a raging feminist, I like guys that treat me well, and would kick my boyfriend in the balls if he ever hit me. (Then dump his ass of course.) Thankfully that's unlikely to happen, since the boy thinks women are amazing and is totally offended and dismayed at his sister who thinks women should buy into the role of housewife. Nice guys, feminist guys, are wonderful and any woman with any confidence realizes that.

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TheDude]
    #2111041 - 11/16/03 07:19 AM (20 years, 4 months ago)

Maybe the girls you are wanting to get in a relationship with are the kinds of girls that haven't gotten over the 'bad boy' stage yet. We all go thru that stage. And some of us never come out.


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: sykobish]
    #2111078 - 11/16/03 08:08 AM (20 years, 4 months ago)

Thanks for writing that!!! What you say is all so true.

I was in an abusive relationship for 2 years. Yes it took that long for me to get out of it. I felt that there would never be anyone else that would want me because I had nothing good to offer and that if this guy would stay with me, I could "deal" with what he was putting me through and I wouldn't have to have the fear of being alone. The guy began with emotional abuse like you said. He would tell me I was fat and ugly, that I was boring to be with. Anytime I made a simple mistake I would get yelled at and constantly told that I was stupid. He also had cheated several times, yet I was the "Slut." He would get mad if I wanted to go out with my friends, or even my sister because he thought we were just "whoring around." To this day I still don't have those friends because of how I betrayed them for him.

Then he started with the pushing and shoving. This broke me down to a complete low. My self-esteem has been ruined by this man. I still suffer from it today. It is hard to have a relationship after experiencing something like this and also makes it a little unfair for the new significant other because of the person that I have become. I used to be a fun, outgoing, worry-free person. Now I don't even go out, I have jealous tendencies, and worry about the littlest things. I am a strong person and know that someday I can return to who I used to be, but it takes time and healing. I just wish I would have taken the advice of my friends and family before I let this guy do this.

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: Elise]
    #2111102 - 11/16/03 08:43 AM (20 years, 4 months ago)

Your ex sounds exactly like my ex from 3 years ago.  He would always accuse me of cheating, when there wasn't even a second that i was out of his sight.. other then to go to work.  And even then, when my boss would call me in to work on my day off.. i had to put up with so much shit from him.  He thought that i had it all planned out: That my boss calling me to come in to work on my day off was all just a front and that i was really going to 'whore around'.  It got to be so horrible.. he would accuse me of sleeping with CUSTOMERS in the staff BATHROOM!!  Talk about pathetic.

He would also bitch at me for taking a glass from his hand 'wrong'.. I never knew there really was a right way to take a glass from someone who is passing it to you.. He would rant and rave and totally attack my self esteem for HOURS over such a stupid thing.

I lost my friends from back then as well, for the same reasons.  It got to the point that he took over my cellphone.  He always had it with him and i wasn't allowed to use it or answer it.  But while i'm buying him a pair of pants on his birthday for $100, he's waiting outside the store, on my cellphone, talking to his ex girlfriend that he was seeing behind my back.. (I found this all out later when i got my phone bill and was wondering about this one number that i didn't know but was called multiple times.  I ended up calling her and finding out the whole story.)

My self esteem is very low.. I'm slowly getting better tho.  I am surrounded by friends that i am very proud to have.  Very good people.  I consider myself privaleged(sp?) to know the people i know because most people will never find a friend like the ones i have in their entire lifetime.  I also have a VERY hard time trusting people.  And when i feel that someone is crossing the line of friendship and lets me know that they are interested in me, i get very nervous and put up my wall.  I distance myself from them until they aren't interested anymore.  Many people mistake my niceness as being 'flirty' or that i am interested in them.. which couldn't be further from the truth.

I just wish I would have taken the advice of my friends and family before I let this guy do this.

Blinded by 'love', my dear. :smile:  It sucks, but some things need to be learnt the hard way.. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes that is the ONLY way to learn things.  As long as you learn from your mistakes.. there is nothing wrong with making some.  If you don't learn, THEN you have a problem.

One good thing that you can take comfort in from that whole situation, is that you now know the signs of someone who is abusive, and when you begin to see those warning signs, you get the hell out before it goes further.


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: sykobish]
    #3832128 - 02/25/05 08:27 AM (19 years, 26 days ago)

The reasom some wo,en fancy bullies and tyhugs si simply because they ar evil wo,en. Evil wom,en fancy evil men. And some women have the derrnaged idea they can reagrd themlseve3s as good sepite fancying and supoporting abuse. The reality is that womne who fancy bullies are evil they support abuse get tubnrd on by bullies and decide to see good men as inferio sub humab beings.

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: sykobish]
    #3832135 - 02/25/05 08:30 AM (19 years, 26 days ago)

The reasom some wo,en fancy bullies and tyhugs si simply because they ar evil wo,en. Evil women fancy evil men. And some women have the derrnaged idea they can reagrd themselves as good depite fancying and supoporting abuse.
Listen would you reaghrd me as a good perosn if i suppoured innocent men being beaten up by saditic thugs, cause if you di that prooves what nasty piece of work you are. There is no mystery about why horroble psychpathic women think they are good despire supporting abuse. Even serial killers dont relaise they are horrible.
The reality is that womne who fancy bullies are evil they support abuse get turned on by bullies and decide to see good men as inferior sub human beings. Women who fancy bullies are just evil. There is no mystery they see abuse as sexy and manly.
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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: netwebresearch]
    #3832138 - 02/25/05 08:32 AM (19 years, 26 days ago)

The reasom some women fancy bullies and thugs is simply because they ar evil women. Evil women fancy evil men. And some women have the derrnaged idea they can reagrd themselves as good depite fancying and supoporting abuse.
Listen would you reaghrd me as a good perosn if i suppoured innocent men being beaten up by saditic thugs, cause if you di that prooves what nasty piece of work you are. There is no mystery about why horroble psychpathic women think they are good despire supporting abuse. Even serial killers dont relaise they are horrible.
The reality is that womne who fancy bullies are evil they support abuse get turned on by bullies and decide to see good men as inferior sub human beings. Women who fancy bullies are just evil. There is no mystery they see abuse as sexy and manly.
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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: netwebresearch]
    #3833963 - 02/25/05 05:07 PM (19 years, 26 days ago)

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There is no mystery they see abuse as sexy and manly.




I agree. Is it so hard to believe that many women actually enjoy being in such relationships? Many women love drama, they love a good argument, a good fight, and they like being taken control of. I think its funny how we all sit here and try to make excuses for them because we don't think its right.

Its hard for men to believe that a woman would rather be with someone who beats the shit out of her than be with them but its simply the truth. We don't like to think that we are actually so unattractive that a woman would rather be beaten than be in a relationship with us but sometimes you just need to accept the facts.

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: Catalysis]
    #3834086 - 02/25/05 05:38 PM (19 years, 26 days ago)

WTF?  Is the random person that bumped this 2 year old post a bot or something?  click on the link in its sig. :confused:

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: Boom]
    #3834131 - 02/25/05 05:47 PM (19 years, 26 days ago)

LOL, i didnt even catch that. It must be a bot that scours the web for threads on abusive men. Now i have officially seen everything.

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: Catalysis]
    #3836597 - 02/26/05 11:28 AM (19 years, 25 days ago)

Apparently it can register itself too...

It also can't spell very well...

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: Boom]
    #3838337 - 02/26/05 05:59 PM (19 years, 25 days ago)

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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: Legoulash]
    #3838401 - 02/26/05 06:13 PM (19 years, 25 days ago)

I'd just like to point out that child abuse is definitely a player in all this. At least most of the time. I've become fascinated over the past year with how physical or sexual abuse will alter a developing brain.

When young girls are abused, there tend to be some consistent symptoms when they mature. One is increased sex drive. One is bipolar disorder. One is predisposition to addiction. But the most common is a desire to be with abusive men as an adult.

I've seen studies where it was discovered that 95% of women who stayed with abusive men for over a year were in fact abused by a male figure during early childhood.


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TinMan]
    #3838898 - 02/26/05 08:38 PM (19 years, 25 days ago)

I've seen a few things in my relationship that reinforce all of this. But before I start... I have to say that I am neither abusive, nor do I cheat on my girlfriend. I don't do anything to hurt her intentionally...

However, it is true that all women want to change their man into the image they see fit. This can be a good or bad thing. Before I met my girl I did not do well in college... I never went to class, didn't pay attention when I did, and failed a good majority of my classes... which were all easy classes to begin with.

Whenever I didn't go to class, she'd get pissed off at me. Whenever I did bad on a test she'd be comforting but disapointed at the same time. Whenever I smoke (cigs) she gets upset... things along those lines. She is trying to change me... in some ways she has, I am doing better in school -- which is definately not a bad thing.

A girl doesn't necessary 'make' the guy change... they give them insight and show them a way to look at things from a different angle. I never thought about my life the way my girlfriend saw it, and it was nice to hear how she saw me, rather than how I saw myself. I don't know, maybe it's just me... but there's more to it than a girl just 'changing' the guy. It's more like the guy never really had his eyes all the way open until he met that right girl.

*shrug*
Just something to think about.

(Oh, and definately this is something that goes both ways...)


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Re: Women that just don't get it [Re: TinMan]
    #3841641 - 02/27/05 02:26 PM (19 years, 24 days ago)

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TinMan said:
I work with or know a lot of these kind of women. They will get beaten or cheated on by their boyfriends, but they are too stupid to break up. I feel sorry for them, but I think if they don't break up, they deserve all the suffering they get. Any opinions?




I think its just the way that a lot of women are wired. You treat them too well and they get bored, because the essence of an interesting life is conflict. Women, to me anyway, seem to enjoy drama a lot more than men. They get off on it or something. Personally, I don't play that bullshit. If I want drama, there's a whole video store full of that shit around the corner. But holding out for a chick that thinks the same way can definitely make a person lonely. But whatever. Once you find a girl that isn't like that, my advice is to hold onto her very tightly.

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