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KingOftheThing
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hey women, here is a problem i have with you
#5898367 - 07/25/06 02:05 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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why does it seem like with every chick i date i have to initiate sexual encounters? I guess Im ovrexaggerating a bit, my exs initiated sex a few times, just not nearly enough, the ratio was one sided. Ive dated a few aggressive females, and let me tell you ladies, this is a HUGE turn on for men. It makes us really believe you want it. We need a self esteem boost every once and awhile too, you starting things makes us feel wanted. Us guys were just sitting around all complaining about this at work. So I know I'm not the only one who has this problem. SOmetimes it even drives guys to cheat, find a chick who is more agressive. If a guy isnt getting it at home he has to find that. I cant tell you how awesome it is to feel a chick pulling at my belt buckle before I even start disrobing her. Even if you have been with your guy for awhile and you've had sex 1000 times, it doesnt matter. For a guy sex is as important to us as "spending time together" is important to you girls. So come on, attack us once in awhile, tackle us onto the couch, suprise us with a bj, make it exciting. If your not doing it, we might just have to go find someone who will.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: KingOftheThing]
#5898394 - 07/25/06 02:11 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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i agree, my present ratio for initiating is like 60:1 or something like that 
hahaha, i just remebered something Kott. when i first started playing poker online i played for several days straight and completely ignored my girlfriend... that seemed to work... not the no sex, the ignoring...
edit: this reminded me i wanted to plot out some sort of NLP jedi mind trick or something. figure out some way to get my girlfriend to relate initiating to something else positive she wants often...
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Edited by truekimbo2 (07/25/06 02:13 PM)
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KingOftheThing
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: truekimbo2]
#5898458 - 07/25/06 02:27 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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yeah 60 to 1 sounds about right...its so fucking frustrating and its not like she's not enjoying it... they enjoy it usually after you start it, its just the point we always have to. i mean unless you are so clueless and you cant get your chick off ever, they really have no excuse
Edited by KingOftheThing (07/25/06 02:38 PM)
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: KingOftheThing]
#5899355 - 07/25/06 07:38 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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IMO, this issue is 50% socialization and 50% hormonal.
The aggressive sex drive in both sexes is dependent upon the level of free testosterone in the bloodstream. Most women have very low levels of this hormone, and most men have high levels.
Additionally, women are socialized to believe that sexual aggression is a masculine behavior, and therefore inappropriate for females.
Think about it...how many negative words are there describing a sexually active/aggressive female? How many describing a sexually active/aggressive male? Is there a word in English which positively describes a sexually active female??
As a woman with an unusually aggressive sex drive, I can tell you that most men do not enjoy it as much as you would think. It is a novelty to them at first, and then they seem to find it emasculating.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Veritas]
#5899424 - 07/25/06 07:56 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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You can emasculate me allllllll night long.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: RandalFlagg]
#5899434 - 07/25/06 07:59 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Sure, that's what you say now! 
My pet peeve is how guys all say they want a woman with a strong sex drive, but once they have one, all they do is say things like "I'm tired...let me sleep." "For God's sake, please stop touching me!" or "Enough!!"
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Veritas]
#5899452 - 07/25/06 08:04 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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meh i dont think i ever waved off a chance to get freaky with a girl im with. i doubt it would get old...but ive never had a super agressive broad so i wouldnt know
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Veritas]
#5899456 - 07/25/06 08:05 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Veritas said: .
Additionally, women are socialized to believe that sexual aggression is a masculine behavior, and therefore inappropriate for females.
Think about it...how many negative words are there describing a sexually active/aggressive female? How many describing a sexually active/aggressive male? Is there a word in English which positively describes a sexually active female??
As a woman with an unusually aggressive sex drive, I can tell you that most men do not enjoy it as much as you would think. It is a novelty to them at first, and then they seem to find it emasculating.
This is very true.
I've been in long-term relationships with men and yes they do love it when I initiate sex/bj but as a whole the relationship does suffer when the man lacks the sexual power .
I have been in a relationship with a girl for 2 years and our relationship suffers the same problems as in the original post. I find the solution is to initiate desire not sex/aggression. That way she looks at me sometimes and can't resist
Edited by onicko721 (07/26/06 02:08 AM)
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: onicko721]
#5899598 - 07/25/06 08:32 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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they keep trying to touch my pee-pee.then,when i say no.they try to give me money
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Veritas]
#5899747 - 07/25/06 09:19 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Generally, I have a bad habit of disrespecting people who act submissively. Because of this, I also usually end up losing respect for ladies who are pegged. Respecting someone and dominating them does not seem compatible.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Veritas]
#5901906 - 07/26/06 01:15 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Veritas said: Sure, that's what you say now! 
My pet peeve is how guys all say they want a woman with a strong sex drive, but once they have one, all they do is say things like "I'm tired...let me sleep." "For God's sake, please stop touching me!" or "Enough!!"
I don't want a woman with a strong sex drive. I want one with a sex drive that's exactly equal to mine.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: jungjedi]
#5902715 - 07/26/06 07:21 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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jungjedi said: they keep trying to touch my pee-pee.then,when i say no.they try to give me money
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: eligal]
#5904599 - 07/27/06 08:19 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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The farthest my gf goes to initiating is complaining that i dont initiate... And thats supposed to turn me on?????
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Veritas]
#5904645 - 07/27/06 08:48 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Veritas said: My pet peeve is how guys all say they want a woman with a strong sex drive, but once they have one, all they do is say things like "I'm tired...let me sleep." "For God's sake, please stop touching me!" or "Enough!!"
It is quite a normal physical/psychological reaction for a man to become tired after an orgasm. I wish this weren't true, but unfortunately it is. I find myself wanting to nod off several times a day as a secondary consequence of my libidinous behavior. This has led to an unhealthy level of coffee consumption as well as the need to buy Kleenex® tissues in bulk.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Trepiodos]
#5904678 - 07/27/06 09:09 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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in all fairness, another term for a sexually agressive woman would be "slut"
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: kotik]
#5904683 - 07/27/06 09:12 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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kotik said: in all fairness, another term for a sexually agressive woman would be "slut"
Not in my lexicon, "friend" is a much more appropriate term.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Trepiodos]
#5904734 - 07/27/06 09:33 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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who says the terms have to be mutually exclusive?
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: kotik]
#5904796 - 07/27/06 10:00 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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That is a very good point.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: KingOftheThing]
#5904891 - 07/27/06 10:35 AM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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KingOftheThing said: why does it seem like with every chick i date i have to initiate sexual encounters? I guess Im ovrexaggerating a bit, my exs initiated sex a few times, just not nearly enough, the ratio was one sided. Ive dated a few aggressive females, and let me tell you ladies, this is a HUGE turn on for men. It makes us really believe you want it. We need a self esteem boost every once and awhile too, you starting things makes us feel wanted. Us guys were just sitting around all complaining about this at work. So I know I'm not the only one who has this problem. SOmetimes it even drives guys to cheat, find a chick who is more agressive. If a guy isnt getting it at home he has to find that. I cant tell you how awesome it is to feel a chick pulling at my belt buckle before I even start disrobing her. Even if you have been with your guy for awhile and you've had sex 1000 times, it doesnt matter. For a guy sex is as important to us as "spending time together" is important to you girls. So come on, attack us once in awhile, tackle us onto the couch, suprise us with a bj, make it exciting. If your not doing it, we might just have to go find someone who will.
Well first of all not all women are like that and I in fact had a couple of boyfriends which after cumming lol were so tired and worn off that they couldn't have sex anymore. Second of all when a woman turns down a man could be because they don't have any idea about having good sex or suffer of premature ejaculation which for most women even if they say it or don't it's a big turn off. And I tell you this when two people are sexually compatible and know how to p;easure each other it doesn't take one of them to initiate and the other to accept or refuse cause they both want it and show it to each other. And yes, there are women that think sex should be initiated only by the male and that i they show they want to fuck they're misinterpreted but what I don't get about them is why did they started having sex anyways if they can't enjoy it whenever they want it or being afraid that they might seem sluts. Sex is something good and natural and nobody should be ashamed of their sexuality. And if they do so, well all I can say it's too bad for them cause they don't know what they're missing.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: KingOftheThing]
#5905517 - 07/27/06 02:21 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I love how all the women in this thread are like...NOT ME!
Its almost like they want to prove to you otherwise, kott... 
You really do have a point though, not all women are hypersexual like the ones who have posted in this thread so far. I tend to think a lot of it is just hormonal...I'm very attracted to my mate, love him dearly, but sometimes I just plain don't feel like getting it on. Maybe its a natural form of population control? Can you imagine if every woman in the world had the same level of sex drive as the males? Talk about overpopulation!!
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: adrug]
#5905652 - 07/27/06 02:55 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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I recently read an article that some women actually get off on the thought of being impregnated. They really don't want children, but the thought of getting pregnant get's them all hot and bothered. SCARY.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
#5906127 - 07/27/06 05:22 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Ewww.. Things like that make me want to get a vasectomy.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
#5906136 - 07/27/06 05:28 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Penguarky Tunguin said: I recently read an article that some women actually get off on the thought of being impregnated. They really don't want children, but the thought of getting pregnant get's them all hot and bothered. SCARY.
Hmm...I don't get it.
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: MOTH]
#5906292 - 07/27/06 06:31 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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What part?
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Re: hey women, here is a problem i have with you [Re: Trepiodos]
#5906483 - 07/27/06 07:35 PM (17 years, 6 months ago) |
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Trepiodos said: It is quite a normal physical/psychological reaction for a man to become tired after an orgasm. I wish this weren't true, but unfortunately it is. I find myself wanting to nod off several times a day as a secondary consequence of my libidinous behavior. This has led to an unhealthy level of coffee consumption as well as the need to buy Kleenex® tissues in bulk.

I know it is normal for men to become tired after an orgasm, but what about before an orgasm? Or hours afterward? Or the next morning?
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