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p4kSouL
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another girl problem
#3842938 - 02/27/05 06:33 PM (19 years, 7 days ago) |
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i like this girl alot! more then most girls that i have met. she is perfect. at first i wasn't that nervous to talk to her. I asked her for her number and she gladly gave it too me. I didn't have a piece of paper so i told her i would remember it and of course i did. Well after talking to her on the phone i am slowly getting more and more nervous around her. i have speech problems around her i can never say my words right. I slur and they always get mixed up with other words plus the studdering. I also am loosing my thoughts to what to say around her. I blank out.. now my answers are more like yeah, that's cool, and other shit like that. now i want to brake through this wall and i feel i have the power todo so. i just want to talk no matter how nervous i am. say what ever i want even if i think she will think I'm stupid. should i do that? would she think i was stupid if i said whatever was in my head? i am not that experienced with socializing with girls but i can socialize with dudes really well. do girls think alot different then guys. what should i watch out for?
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Grav


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Re: another girl problem [Re: p4kSouL]
#3843245 - 02/27/05 07:28 PM (19 years, 6 days ago) |
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show no fear.
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biglo
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Re: another girl problem [Re: Grav]
#3843288 - 02/27/05 07:38 PM (19 years, 6 days ago) |
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Also, take your time. If you're stuttering, just stop or slow down, take a deep breath, and plan out exactly what you want to say. Also, try to think of a topic or two you can talk about ahead of time so you can avoid moments of silence.
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Re: another girl problem [Re: biglo]
#3844192 - 02/27/05 09:34 PM (19 years, 6 days ago) |
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Depending on what kinda girl she is and how well you know her, it might be beneficial to just to tell her that being around her makes you nervous b/c you got the hots for her. She might react to that pretty well and in the end you might score you some points-which will reduce your anxiety in the end when you see her starting to dig you. You could even get a date out of it. Obviously don't be whiney and pathetic about it, just smooth and confident
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p4kSouL
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Re: another girl problem [Re: DirtMcgirt]
#3844352 - 02/27/05 10:06 PM (19 years, 6 days ago) |
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yeah i am aways chilled. i dont let ANYONE know that i am nervous. but i guess i could tell her. yet that is nerve wracking right there
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Fade_To_Black
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Re: another girl problem [Re: biglo]
#3845393 - 02/28/05 02:33 AM (19 years, 6 days ago) |
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biglo said: Also, try to think of a topic or two you can talk about ahead of time so you can avoid moments of silence.
oh god those awkward moments of silence are mad..
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just tell her you get a little nervous around a girl of her caliber
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Mushie_Man
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Re: another girl problem [Re: DirtMcgirt]
#3845867 - 02/28/05 09:06 AM (19 years, 6 days ago) |
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Quote:
DirtMcgirt said: Depending on what kinda girl she is and how well you know her, it might be beneficial to just to tell her that being around her makes you nervous b/c you got the hots for her. She might react to that pretty well and in the end you might score you some points-which will reduce your anxiety in the end when you see her starting to dig you. You could even get a date out of it. Obviously don't be whiney and pathetic about it, just smooth and confident
Very good point , telling her something that only you share with her is very good, its something only you 2 can relate too, You can act chilled and say "that's cool" and other shit like that around anyone, opening up to her is a good first step to break through the barrier
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Re: another girl problem [Re: p4kSouL]
#3846133 - 02/28/05 10:29 AM (19 years, 6 days ago) |
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would she think i was stupid if i said whatever was in my head?
No! That's perfect. If you just say whatever comes to mind (as long it's not really disgusting or incredibly inane), you'll come off as more laid back. When you're laid back and comfortable with yourself around the opposite sex, they'll be more attracted to you.
Try not to think about what to say, just let it flow.
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p4kSouL
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Re: another girl problem [Re: moog]
#3847218 - 02/28/05 02:47 PM (19 years, 6 days ago) |
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yeah i figured. today was pretty good socially around her yet i found out she had a boyfriend lol shit. more barriers.
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Re: another girl problem [Re: p4kSouL]
#3848474 - 02/28/05 06:39 PM (19 years, 6 days ago) |
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do NOT tell her u have the hots for her. That puts her in control. You've gotta be confident, and make it seem as though your really comfortable with yourself.
If you show too much interest, it will drive her away.
Trust me on this one
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