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The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... ( updated, finished )
#1493382 - 04/25/03 01:36 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well.. here goes... i would have posted this in OTD.. but i know what kind of replies i would have gotten... so hopefully i get some real advise over here..!! Met this girl on Jan 25, after ending a relationship with my ex in late nov last year, we broke up for TRUST problems after i caught her eatin pussy behind my back ( many guys would just dream of this.... however the problem was more complex than that.. this is not why i'm posting here.. so i'll go on ).. This girl is a real " Momma's girl, " she's got a good job, looks real nice, intelligent, responsible, never in a bad mood, all around good . She's never been exposed to drugs other than her EX-boyfriend who hid his smoking habbit from her, also was on depression meds, was posessive, cheated on her, abusive, the whole works... Here lies the problem.. i smoke on a daily basis, well, nightly, i don't smoke at work, i'm not a slave to pot, i'll have a puff during the night while i do house chores,,, all my friends smoke, and most are real cool poeple, got their own house, jobs, GF's, , all that.. I really want to be honest with her, and tell her the WHOLE truth, but i'm not sure she can handle it.. and this is the problem... I'm buying a house soon, and have been thinking about picking up an old hobby *( cultivation.. ) wich i love. not for the money, but for personal pleasure, and not having to depend on " Dealers "... I don't think she'd be into that at all... Anyone had to deal with this kind of problem before.. how do you go about explaining it all?? in a common sense manner to somone who has never smoked before, and has a negative attitude towards it... I've told her i smoke on a regular basis ( i never miss a week ).. sorta deal, so she now knows that much. .. we have alot in common, and i reallly would like this to work out... i want it all.. damnit.. HELP!
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Edited by PooPs (05/29/03 05:19 PM)
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1493731 - 04/25/03 03:23 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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i lost many girls to the pot or drugs....it seems like it will never work...
your best way to go though....tell her the truth in the best way possible and if she can deal with it you know its true....becuase if she cant then you know it wasnt meant to be. and if you lie and she finds out...no good. so hope for the best and be honest. honesty gets you brownie points
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: phishytrip]
#1494280 - 04/25/03 07:58 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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be honest and make sure that she knows that she is way more important than the drugs. ask her if she has any questions about weed or why you smoke and answer honestly, but iwouldn't offer her any or anything like that b/c you don't want her to feel like you are going to pressure her to do it with you. she can probably handle more than you think, and if she can't then do you best to reassure her and that you are lightyears different than her last guy. wait until she is comfortable with you smoking to bring up that you want to grow again.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: AbFab]
#1494549 - 04/25/03 10:45 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Hmmm... yes.. that sond like the only option..
She just left form a great date.. we went to see " Anger Management " great movie btw..
The topic of pot did not come up tonight. we spoke about it over the phone yesterday, so i'll give her time to digest..
This girl is great.. just very green.. she's 22, soon to be 23 and i THINK. i have not confirmed this yet *( will very soon!! ) but i think she's a virgin!!
She wants to fuck, but won't get nekid!!!!!!! yet.
But i don't want to push it. i respect that in her. it will happen in due time.. oh man am i ever going to corrupt this girl or what!!!
thanks for the words peeps... !
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1495981 - 04/26/03 01:31 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Maybe it's time to finish with regressive, self-soothing behavior (oral needs resulting in blissful, tensionless state of consciousness [stoned] - camoflaged infantile orality; surrogate mother's breast), and engage a woman on an adult level. This is the psychoanalytic take on pot smoking, which is accurate as far as this therapist is concerned. Why do you think women are so put off by pot smoking men? They may not know the theory, but they intuitively know that it is infantile, self-centered soothing behavior that prevents any kind of growth through adult interactions. A person is not going to develop past a certain point unless and until his needs are met through mature psychodynamic processes - through verbal discourse with one's partner, and emotional honesty. Women have no patience, if they're healthy, with camoflaged 'bottle-babies.' So, perhaps it's time to let go of the 'introjected internal mother's breast,' and start approaching your girlfriend in an adult manner, without hiding this fixation for sucking on a pipe or joint. Clearly, she should prefer that you seek HER out for your oral and emotional needs, thereby placing your regressive tendencies in the service of adult sexual love. No fee...this time
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simply make a choice what means more to you ........... smoking and staying "who you are" if so then you will sind someone that will go along with that. or adapting who you might be for a girl that means more to you then smoking ect. the main thing is to do what is wright for you, but dont lye, if you do and she finds out later it will be bad. i went throught a simmilar expearence with my current GF (of almost 4 yrs.) i cleand up for her with the excption of alcohol. (that was ok with her) i liked drugs but i do love her. after a while of talking about drugs and expearences and why i "used" she is now comprimising with me and excpting my use of weed mushrooms and opium in the "right situation" and that was all i asked for my promis on the flip side is not to let it interfear with ..."us", work, future.
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First off, I'm with him ^^^^
Mark,
While I think that you're analysis fits very well for some smokers, I would think it rather ignorant if you were to apply that to all.
Interesting, nonetheless.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Skikid16]
#1500117 - 04/28/03 07:52 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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That " Momma's tit " post was a heavy read.... English please!!!! ( but i got the just of it!! ).
Well, i agree with the honesty bit... Every situation is different, i understand her point of view as she has never smoked, and just like her, before i went to college i had never done any drugs other than tylonol.. ...... and i had a very NEGATIVE attitude towards them..
Having done them pretty much all except injectables, i now know that the drug propaganda is highly overrated... People have this thought that once you try drugs you will be hooked for life and become a braind dead zombie!!..
I would not somke when i'm alone with her, i would not enjoy my buzz, but i know that if we spend any major amount of time together that at one point, when hanging out with my friends, joints will get lit, and i'd like to have a puff without having to freak her out....
I think this can be done,, but it will take some time to clear the years of anti-drug programing she's gone thru!!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1504934 - 04/29/03 03:18 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Mind you now, that my take is not merely academic. I used cannabis products from 1969 to the early 1980's. Also, I am not strictly Freudian, but I pretty much know how to use the right tool for the right job. This kind of analytic description (which you handled better than some on-lookers - congrats ), applies to ALL of us, and most people are going to be heavily defended against it. Seeing pot-smoking in a pathological light is just not gonna be popular at the Shroomery. A psychologically mature (which goes along with chronologically mature) individual will tend to somewhat shamefacedly agree, even if [s]he continues to use. That is his/her choice. I am not averse to medicinal use of herbs, but I know that chronic use of 'chronic' is not medicinal - it is self-medicating, addictive behavior. It is done, if not for pleasure alone (a Freudian principle), then for escapist motivations: lack of self-knowledge, boredom, intrapsychic conflicts, the quelling of sexual desire, the intensification of [jaded] sexual desire, as anti-intellectualism, as surrogate spirituality, for sedation, etc., etc., etc.
Your own attachment to this has gotten you to think in a manipulative manner toward your girlfriend. Ultimately, health is on the side of non-use, if health is one's goal or value. Values are the most important aspect of mature relationships, and your attitude basically shows no respect to her values, IF healthiness is important to her. Aside from mere propaganda, the cumulative effect of THC does not belong to people who must cultivate clear-mindedness. I'm thinking, pilots, surgeons, the lab techs checking your biopsy for cancer cells, therapists who ought to be at least a step above in mental health themselves, etc. So, I don't know what her values are, or what her goals are in life, but I do know that control issues do not result in a happy, or sucessful relationship.
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Hmmm i agree with what you are saying, her values are just as important as mine, and i respect this as much as possible.
But i'm not going to lie to myself and quit pot smoking cold-turkey to be with a girl who will dump me on the spot if she finds out i had a puff.
I've been smoking for over 6 years now , i like it, i have no plans to quit, i don't smoke for medical reasons ie: cancer, glaucoma... whatever. but i do find it relaxing and good for stress. and most of my friends smoke as well, yes , you could call it " Childish " . but i look at it as more of a social drug.
We all have different tastes in women, ME.. i want one who respects me and whom i can trust, and i offer the same in return. I won't tell her wha to do or who to see, or put any restrictions on her.... and i expect no less. to me this is a healthy relationship in the making....
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1507311 - 04/30/03 10:49 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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OH, and i also agree that too much " Chronic " prevents or slows mental and maturity development.. i see this in many people, and i also see it in myself, as i'm not as sharp as i used to be..
But as a tradeoff i beleive i've grown in many aspects from my drug use, and have gone thry a journey that many will never know or understand because of this " Habit "...
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1512421 - 05/01/03 06:44 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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You're completely right, it is a tradeoff. What one's values are is the first piece of information needed. Pleasure, sex, love, achievement, knowledge, and security( either physical, mentally, or money-wise) are all valid things to value. I've seen people ruin their lives with pot, but I've seen more ruin their lives with choosing a bad partner. I couldn't be with a woman who was against weed, and I don't even smoke it. To me it would be a sign of weakness or ignorance. If she were to be confronted with the truth about drug use and still be closeminded then she would be weak and illogical, and ignorance would no longer be an excuse. Good luck, you're playing with fire when you mention drugs to a person not in the know.
As far as pot being used for self indulgence, of course it is. People do many things to calm themselves or make themselves feel complete. Pot is one of those things, but so are careers. If one values a great enhancement of momentary pleasure versus a slight decrease in overall, longterm health it does not mean they haven't looked at the full picture.( although some people misjudge such values) In fact the person who eats their greens and makes sure to exercise may just as well die in a car accident or live a long boring life compared to the person who goes all out. I'm somewhere in between, and I'd bet most of us are.
oooh, almost forgot, quoting gmf "Freud=overrated moron"
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Absolut_B]
#1515309 - 05/02/03 03:20 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Had a chat on the phone last night, the " Topic " came up again, we were talking about family and what not, and she started talking about her junkie uncle, who her whole mother's side of the family will not even talk to anymore.....
I took it upon myself to remind her that i smoke, and we talked about it some more.
she's definately against drugs, and i told her that i respect that , but that i'd be lying to her if i'd say that i'm going to quit drugs, and that i know a few of my friends who hide it from their GF/wife .. ... ... and that i thought that it was totaly wrong to have to lie and hide.
Oh.. and i also confirmed.. she is a virgin!! . ..
We have a date tomorrow, i told her i'd make her supper, BBQ as long as it's not raining.
I plan to come clean and ask her what her expectations are.. i asked her how she would feel if we visited some of my friends and a joint was lit in her presence. she explained that she does not like the smell, so i assured her that we'd do it in another room. ( wich is no big deal, as long as she's ok with this. ).
Drugs are a big deal when you have never been exposed to them, but once you get to be around alot of it, it's not as much of a big deal after a while... so hopefully things will work out.. i'll be back with updates!
wish me luck!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1518069 - 05/03/03 06:22 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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my suggestion, my friend, tell her everything. in the words of Wayne "i say barf. if you blow chunks and she bails, it was never meant to be...if you hurl and she hangs, you've found the one." (hurl in this case being you telling her everything)
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: NapkinOfDoom]
#1518953 - 05/04/03 04:35 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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A 22 year old virgin? Well, she is either extremely distrustful(not good) or has great moral character.(very good) For a good time, show her this board with the intimate details of your relationship, i'm SURE that wouldn't cause problems.
Good luck, nothing turns a woman on like a good BBQ....shurg?
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1518998 - 05/04/03 05:42 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, I guess it would be best to quote a german hiphop song here called "Weisser Rauch" (Transl: White smoke) One passage of the rap goes as follows: "Soll ich?s einfach machen, rauch ich die Blunts, oder h?r ich auf meinen Schwanz und lass es lieber ganz?!" Translated this would be: "Should I just smoke the blunt, or listen to what my dick?s saying and not do it?!" This is always the question! As far as I am concerned my experience is , that Female (despite what age) mostly don?t like drugs other than the "pussy" drugs (see the relation ?! ) Alcohol and Nicotin. Other than that they usually always show the same reaction: At first , you ask them if they smoke up, or if they?ve got a problem with smoking up. They usually say "Ive tried it, and havn?t got a problem with it". At this point however they cannot imagine , that smoking on a daily basis can be something normal, and only expect you to smoke up once in a month or so. After they?ve noticed , that you toke a lot, they often try to talk it out of you. With harder drugs, I am not really experienced, other than with Shrooms. As I am 18 and still at school, I am concidered "druggy" of the class, cause I cultivate and take shrooms. Most people think I will fall into life of Crack and Cocaine, or similar. In a nutshell: Drugs, and girls, usually dont mix for me. But, I just wanted to ask you, how you expect it to work out, if you see her after work, and your always blunted?? Imagine: Your mouth really dry, and therefore your breath bad. Your whole rooms smells of lovely sweet skunk, and your Eyes are red as rubbies, and small. Everything she says is all of a sudden VERY funny, and you keep laughing at what she says. - Nope, not gonna work! So: If you want the cunt, leavealone the Blunt!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1519685 - 05/04/03 03:00 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Baby Hitler sez: Corrupt da bitch, yo!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1521347 - 05/05/03 07:27 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, came back here... Waiting for updates... Guess i have to wait a bit more....
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1521357 - 05/05/03 07:45 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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yup . workign on it!! be right up!!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1521374 - 05/05/03 08:00 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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0-Kay!! update.
Had a date on saturday, had fun, i cooked up a good BBQ, we went for a drive, and watched " Toxedo " with jackie chan!!.. had fun. ( no sex.. but that's ok! )
This morning, i'm woken up at 8:30am with my phone ringing, i put it on the charger last night, so i had to get up and go downstairs to get it. i missed the first call, but it rang again right after... so by this time i'm out of bed, half asleep, and i pick up.
Who is it but her MOM!!!! All in a panic...
So, here's the scoop, i smoke , and so do many of my friends, Somehow one of my friends is her aunts cousin's brother's uncle... whatever, and somehow( still unclear ) but my girls parents heard that my friends smokes pot and since i hang out with him, bla bla bla.. I told my friend that my girl had mentioned something abou it...
Welllllll.... he went and talked to his aunt/mother/cousin.. whatever the relation is... and this all came back to my girl and her parents, and i get a call from her mom this moning because of this..
So, i talked to her mom for over a 1/2 hour, i explained that i smoke, that i told her daughter this, and was quite up front with all of everything.. Her mom used to be a social studies teacher, so she's seen and taught courses on drugs, and knows a bit more than her daughter who she's convinced over the years that drugs are a BAD thing... but with no reason why!!!
So, as said above, honesty is the best policy, as it all comes out in the open eventually, now her parents know, her aunts will soon know as her mother will tell them i'm sure,,, this is all fine with me but will still project a bad image upon me.. and my friends...
oh what a mess... but at least now it's all out in the open and we get to find out what happens.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1521380 - 05/05/03 08:07 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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oh another piece of the puzzle...
Her mom's brother is a junkie/thief, crook, and is all involved in heavy drugs, and all her life she's had to see her family curse her uncle, and imbude in her that Drugs are EVIL and all people who do them are all bad people ...... .... ........
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1521395 - 05/05/03 08:23 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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That sucks.. I guess you just better sit it out, if it doesn't work. It would have never worked.
I hope she is not as simple minded as her family...
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1521412 - 05/05/03 08:32 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Yeah.. i hope so too..
She's really a nice girl, i just feel that she deserves better than me. or someone who has the same beleifs..
No matter what, i think it won't work anyway, i'll have to make the move and break it up. because i don't think she will, and i don't want to waste my time and her's...
oh man this sucks.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1523690 - 05/06/03 01:28 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Why quit now? Maybe this is the time she turns around in a radical way! I would just wait for a few more weeks, just to see how things work out. As long as you make your wants and needs clear (and she can settle with it), things are fine.
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She's really a nice girl, i just feel that she deserves better than me.
Wow way wrong dude, what the hell are you saying man? There is only one you, and there is nothing wrong with you. You are a great person to know, and i know she is good enough for you. She's with you on her own free will remember? Its not like you have to shave daily and kiss her ass to be with her, is it? So get the evil thought right out off your head NOW!!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1523802 - 05/06/03 03:39 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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I?m soo glaad that my G/f also smokes weed............
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: mobyd]
#1523804 - 05/06/03 03:44 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Beware, women sometimes change they're minds. And turn over to the darkside (anti-drug), because they quit. And they will want you to quit also...
SO BEWARE!!!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1523807 - 05/06/03 03:47 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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I hope my g/f doesn?t........ But if smoking weed would be a Problem I would stop it for her. Men do everything to have good sex
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: mobyd]
#1523817 - 05/06/03 04:04 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Okay... Well lets see how it would go.. You would have quit smoking the weed..
Then one day she will come along again... Hey "put real name here" i wish we could spend more time together.
Then slowly you will start losing contact with the outside world... But you will still be having the great sex...
And so on, till you have lost all you like. Just to please her... How far must you go? If i would get a next time, i would do things very differend.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
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I'm with U on this one..
You can't change who you are, but only what you do. . and change too much, you are no longer you!!! = BAD..
We spoke last night some more, talk talk talk talk talk,,,, wich is cool, i did not bring any breakup topics up at all, I'm going to go with what Fliquid said, i'm going to ride it out for a while and see how it goes.
Why do relationships have to be so damn complicated!!! arghhhh...
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
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Wrong question...
Its:
Who make relationships so damn complicated!!! arghhhh...
Women...
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1524386 - 05/06/03 11:40 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Can't live with'em and can't fuck without'em!
BUT!!
There's always masturbation!!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: seti]
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Sex is a double edged sword. It can be so good, but at times I almost(I said almost!) wish I didn't have a sex drive. The way it can screw with a normal man's head is just uncanny.
Sexual pleasure can be so much more than just the physical act. I'm not talking about love and ugliness here though. What I mean is I have found some women extremely attractive, only to talk to them upon which I discover they're idiots with no real redeeming value. I have also talked to women who seemed only mildly attractive, but upon speaking with them I found them more sexually stimulating. I think this can only be achieved when you have clearly defined to yourself what values you look for in a woman. Hopefully all of us single fellows will find that at some point.
If it's just sex that's holding you in this relationship I'd seriously consider ending it, or at least letting her know more about your intentions. You've obviously landed one woman, and if you are just in it for the sex you could land another less "moral" one. Something in your story suggests you have a deeper desire with her. Is this true or am I totally off base?
Oh yea, knock that "she's too good for me" crap off. That's either an easy out or a serious self-esteem problem, either one isn't good.
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Don't worry about the "She's really a nice girl, i just feel that she deserves better than me." thing man. We already talked about it so...
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
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oh there is much more to it than just sex!!!
I'm in it for a relationship !! .. i really am. i don't want to waste my time on dating.... ( not that it's a waste of time, but i'm not after numbers of women, i just want one that i can bond with and be happy with! )
This girl is relationship material, no doubt, the concern here is that she won't understand my wanting to grow, comsume, and *cough. sell.
But sex is the the deciding factor in the whole thing. hell.. do you think i'd still be around since jan 25 if i only wanted sex???? nope. This would just be a bonus!
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You fucked up man. If you really like this girl you should have NEVER told her fucking mom that you smoke. Chicks care more about what their moms think than anyone. Sorry bro, but I would put money on that this relationship won't work.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
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Quote:
Beware, women sometimes change they're minds. And turn over to the darkside (anti-drug), because they quit. And they will want you to quit also...
SO BEWARE!!!
Man, aint that the truth. One minute they are awesome, fun loving girls. The next minute, they have quit everything, and want you to quit EVERYTHING as well. Whats up with that?
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: BlowMiNose]
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ha... i've just been told the exact same thing from a friend 10 minutes ago..
He's married to this chick who knew he smoked when they got together, last year of so got on his case about having to quit.... then he got a panic attack, and was diagnosed with bi=polar disorder. .. now she wants him to quit or leave!
I hate having mixed feelings... why can't i just make up my fucking mind. .. i get all ready to call it off, then we talk on the ph and she's all in a good mood and shit. and i put it off.....
I gotta get Moe Howard to write me up a breakup letter!!! .. haha j/k.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1529942 - 05/08/03 03:37 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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A good friend of mine came out with it all when he met his girlfriend. And now everytime she wants to limit him. He fights back because he already made his wants/needs/do's and don't perfectly clear from the beginning. (I wish i did that).
I know it can be hard, because telling her things you know she won't like might kill the relationship. But if that is the result, then it's better to kill it now then later. Because later it will be even harder, and it will hurt much more.
Maybe it is a good idea to have such a conversation. Girls like it when you are honest and clear. So first sum everything up that might become a problem later on. And just confront her (and your fear).
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1530658 - 05/08/03 12:05 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Yup. i agree.
Here is the plan.
I'm going for surgery tomorrow ( sinus thing ). so we won't see each other this weekend. ( unless she drops in to say hi and make me soup!! )
But next time we meet, " I want to say this to her face to face and not on the ph for obvious reasons. i don't like talking on the phone about these matters.. drugs"
it will go like this:
" I'm really starting to care about you, and i need to tell you something i've been holding off on. I would have told you this before, however, i wanted to make sure that i wanted to be with you and have a relationship. Otherwise there would be no need for you to know.
We've known each other for over 3 months now, and i've gotten to know you quite well , and you are everything i'm looking for in a girl. Wich is why i feel i need to open up to you and tell you that i have a few hobbies that i feel you might not agree with.
As you know, i'm a bit ambitious, i brew my own wine, i make my own jerky, i love to build things and put things together, and at one point a few years ago, i grew my own pot.
While at work, bored, i fell open a website that talked about mushroom cultivation, and after reading on it, i found that you can grow magic mushrooms at home, so i've been playing with this as well.
that's it. I know you don't like drugs, i understand, i don't mean to make you change, but i feel that you should know this about me, if you'd rather not see me anymore, that's ok too, but if this is not a big deal for you, and i hope it's not, then we could have a really good thing going together.
what do you think? "...
how would that sound?
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good luck man, your going to need it!
ooh yeah, good luck with the surgery too.
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#1533396 - 05/09/03 02:01 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Perfect, just remember to remain neutral during the conversation. And make sure you make it perfectly clear why you tell her this. Just say you had to tell her all this so it will not become a problem in the future. And that she will have to accept it because you enjoy it and you will not bother her with it in any way.
Face to face is the best for this, go to a cafe or somewhere else. A neutral place where you both are on neutral grounds. Your place will make it harder for her, her place will make it harder for you.
Now go tiger and do your thing. I hope she will understand, if not... Its her problem for not excepting you, not yours. Remember this, love blinds you and makes you weak..
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1535000 - 05/09/03 02:54 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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oh man this reads better than a good book im so nervous and anxious
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: CultyVader]
#1541429 - 05/12/03 10:22 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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sorry for the lack of updates lately,
Went for surgery on friday and have been dazed and confused. and in PAIN!
Been talking with her on the phone ( every day as usual ). Things have not changed.
Will be back with more info as it becomes available!!
stay tuned folks!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1544178 - 05/13/03 02:16 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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But did you do what you were going to do yet?
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1545596 - 05/13/03 03:15 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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no because we have not met as of yet.
I'd do this over the phone, but i think it's better face to face. this way i can see the reaction no her face..
I sometimes think i'm making too much of this.. it might be nothing at all.. but i could be very wrong... we shall see tho!
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#1547226 - 05/14/03 01:24 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Don't think its not a big issue! Because it really is. It will bite you up the ass if you don't handle it.. It sounds like i'm more anxious about her reaction then you are.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1547577 - 05/14/03 07:31 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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oh.. i'm anxious, worried, freaked, uncertain, scared, itching, etc.......
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#1547634 - 05/14/03 08:25 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Be happy you?re not gnomed..
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1550670 - 05/15/03 10:34 AM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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ok..
This weekend i've got too many things that i could do.. below is an e-mail i just sent her: ps: This is after a few i sent earlier. back and forth.. -------------------------- -------------------------- oh.. i see.
now i have a dilema!!...
1- i miss you, and want to spend time with you this weekend.
2- Yearly tradition camping trip
3- A dog to take care of somehow ???
4- a very sore freakin.. nose. hihi..
What do i do???? ahhhhhhhh...
Do you know when the propane guy will show up? early. late? If we get together later i can leave sandy at home.. if i go early i need to take her with me ...
If i go camping she's comming along with me. ( wow.. just like having a kid!! haha.. )
What do you think.. HEEEELLLLLLP !!!
luv - U.
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She has a camper ( nice one too!! pretty big! ) wich she has setup yesterday for the summer at a beach resort close by, baught new propane tanks and has to have them installed.
Soooooo.. this translates to
1- Get together with her and hang out at the camper, get to talk with her about all in this thread...
2- Go with my friends and party, do shrooms, the great outdoors for 2 days.
What do you all think???
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1554082 - 05/16/03 12:53 PM (20 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, last night plans were made,
I"m leaving early tomorrow AM to go camping with the friends, we will be back fairly early sunday AM, so i will go hang with her on sunday, and maybe monday. depends on how it all goes..
Life is well..... I'll be back on monday with results!
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#1562540 - 05/20/03 08:33 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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ok.. i'm back.
Had a real nice weekend. went camping. got drunk, partied .. ..
on Sunday and Monday hung out with chickie... and for fuck sakes. i just could not start the conversation going and tell her the speal.. WHYWHYWHY.....?????
Things were going well, we had fun, went for a few walks, assembled her new BBQ..
Wow.. i suck.
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#1563152 - 05/20/03 02:07 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Then just don't use words, next time your taking a walk, pull a J out of your pocket and spark it up! then see what she says.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Sombie]
#1578043 - 05/26/03 09:40 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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ok.. here's an update.
This weekend, i went over to her trailer with some of my friends ( and my dog ) and we made a fire, cooked some hot-dogs and some burgers.
My friends left around 11:30 or so, and i stayed over for the night.
Now, it don't get much more romantic than this, nice quiet secluded camping, just me and her. ( and my dog .. !! ) and still no sex.
I'm not even going to bother going into the drug story, it's not going to be needed, i'm just going to break it off now, and get it over with.
She's not into sex at all, and she's not a dog person, wich are 2 things that i need in a relationship, and the drug thing as important as it is, will just add to the problems later in life.
so. that's it! log completed!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1580391 - 05/27/03 01:13 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Man thats such a chickenshit thing to do.. I thought you were one of the brave people.. If your that strong to kill the relationship, you might as well tell her the thing first.. You could always end it if she freaks out after that.
Am i right or am i right.
If you don't do it now, it will come back one day..
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1580891 - 05/27/03 08:14 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Well , the thing is that i've come to the conclusion that we are not very compatible...
I'm a dog person, she's not. I love sex, she thinks it'd gross. I do drugs, she's against all it represents. I'm not pig, but i always have projects on the go with mean a certain amount of mess, she's a neat freak!!!
on the flip side.
we both find each other attractive both beleive in being faithful to eachother both low key ( ie: not the raging party-go'ers ) both want someone to be close to similar eating habbits
so basically we are both looking for the same thing, but are not compatible.
I don't want to tell her too much about the drug thing ( for legal reasons) once i break up with her, women tend to go hateful on you, and i feat she would start telling everyone that we broke up because i'm a drug fiend.... wich i don't want.!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1582366 - 05/27/03 06:29 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Not a dog person and doesn't like sex, run man, run.
What kinda dog do you have?
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Skikid16]
#1582444 - 05/27/03 07:12 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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a 36 lb samoyed x golden retreiver.. mostly samoyed ( white husky looking dog)
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#1582454 - 05/27/03 07:16 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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lotsa energy... i love her to no end... she's very smart and loyal.... and keeps me in shape..
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1584127 - 05/28/03 05:03 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Oh well, fuck it then.. I hope you are happy alone as well. And remember there is always someone out there who wishes he/she was in your situation.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Fliquid]
#1588480 - 05/29/03 10:47 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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anyone who wishes to be in my situation would regret so within an hour.
I just don't want to hurt her feelings any more than i need to...
It's better that i break it off now, otherwise we will get closer to eachother and it will hurt even more when we break up later.
or
It will hurt more for me cuz at that point we would end up breaking it off because of the drugs..
I don't want this to happen. and i can see it in the future...
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1588606 - 05/29/03 11:57 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Thats the way it was heading when first met my g/f. I was always open about it, and when she started compaining more and more i told her to, accept it as part of who i am....or break up with me. Didn't matter much to me at the time, but we're still together five years later. We trip together and she smoke every day now with me, but i was 17 when we met, and am 22 now....shes two years younger than me.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Azmodeus]
#1588746 - 05/29/03 12:50 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Did she smoke before you met her?
I really don't want to have her smoke up... i'd feel real guilty if she did.
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#1589259 - 05/29/03 03:24 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Did she smoke before you met her? I really don't want to have her smoke up... i'd feel real guilty if she did.
She said she would never smoke. Rarely drank. Never tripped. I dont feel guilty one bit, she is very confident with who she is, and exploring altered states of consciousness has only made her more open minded. This is only one aspect of our relationship however, and we love each other very much. Basically what im trying to say is, if she feels the same way about you as you do her, she should accept you, as it really is only one aspect of your life.....llike religion, that should not change for anyone, unless its willingly. edit: i first got her to smoke by exhaling my smoke into her mouth.....only a few tokes at a time, then when she wanted to explore further i let her experiment with more bit by bit. She used to have a problem with us having sex while i was high too.....so i stopped telling her, and it wasn't an issue. I told her later and she laughed....
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Azmodeus]
#1589841 - 05/29/03 05:14 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Well.
It's oficial.. it's OVER!!!
I just called her up, and i could tell just by the tone of her voice, she had something on her mind, kinda weird...... as if we both knew...????
She was in her car, was picking up her mother from the doctor's ( apointment.. not serious! ) and i was going to hang up and call her back later..... but she like,
" Well i've got a few minutes, i have to wait.. , i need to talk to you about drugs. "
Me: ok, sure, actually i'm glad you asked! Her: It's that i've been thinking about it alot for the past few weeks... and it's really holding me back... ... ... Me: hmm...could you tell me what it is about drugs that troubles you? i'm curious.. Her: It's that if affects your life financially, healthwise, your kids suffer from drugs... Me : oh!. ( now both of us are basically talking on the same level, no freakin out, just plain conversation neutral tone... i'm high right now and am feeling a bit descriptive.... sorry !! ) Me: You know.. you're right. . . i can understand what you're saying..
And the conversation continued to explain that we're not so compatible and that we'd do better off as friends...
I'll come back here tomorrow and edit this to explain things better.. . but for now..
UPDATE. fin.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1592757 - 05/30/03 11:13 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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At least you know you two just weren't compatible. It is for the best, sadly, but you will meet other more accepting females in teh future...happy hunting.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1596166 - 05/31/03 11:56 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: ]
#1603824 - 06/03/03 07:01 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Thanks guys..
Well, being single is not that bad.. actually i had a great weekend by my single self.. i got to smoke at my will, without stressing over her calling while i'm high. .
my god i enjoy smoking when i'm relaxed..
I spent time with my pooch. went for lunch with friends. came and went as i pleased... freedome rocks!!!! I don't regret my move at all..
over and out! poops.
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#1604215 - 06/03/03 10:34 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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#1604480 - 06/03/03 12:08 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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thank you.
thank you very much!
i really should have done this a month ago.... love is blind i guess!! haha
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1608589 - 06/04/03 04:24 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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She/he's a cuttie. I love my dogs, and I couldn't be with anyone who didn't love them like I do. Funk that.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Skikid16]
#1609008 - 06/04/03 06:44 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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I know.. ain't SHE cute!!.. " Sandy! "
We just got back from a 10k bikerun! she just loves it!!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1610975 - 06/05/03 10:07 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah, dogs r mans best friend. I love my dogs, they're just...cool.
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Azmodeus]
#1611026 - 06/05/03 10:29 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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nice pooches!!
intimidating dogs, but they seem very tame!!! that's cool!
fuck the 500ml jars.. get the quarts!!.. hahahaha
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1611042 - 06/05/03 10:36 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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fuck the 500ml jars.. get the quarts!!.. hahahaha
I did, but its kinda funny cus i can fit 5 pints in one batch or two quarts (not quite high enough), so i stick with the pints.
One of the dogs is smart the other dumb...bet you cant guess which? But they're really friendly...most of the time, and keep my house in a constant state of filth and disarray. We take em camping lots too in the summer. They will play, wrestle, fight, tug for hours on end, great entertainment...
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Azmodeus]
#1611140 - 06/05/03 11:24 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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yeah. camping rocks.
i went to my grand-parents camp a few weeks ago and the dog loved it.. she ran loose all day and night.. kept me awake, she wanted outside all night to go play!!!
i swear that dog does not need to sleep!!
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: PooPs]
#1611346 - 06/05/03 12:30 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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haha...totally! Its like they know they dont need a leash and go into energy/explore mode none stop until they're back in the city...the two of mine start to play real rough outside, and it gets pretty fierce
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Re: The Girl.. the Weed... the Problem... [Re: Azmodeus]
#1611463 - 06/05/03 12:50 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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i know.
mine plays with a lab twice her size and has the upper hand.. growls, ear biting. paws in the face.. gets pretty rough.. but the tails are going a mile a minute. so it's all good...
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