RiderOnTheStorm said:

It's all about human behavior. Nice guys don't get laid because they make themselves available to the woman they're after. Women, much like men, usually want what they cannot have, this is why they go after the player, alpha, whatever. If they could just get him tonight, maybe they could keep him, change him, and establish massive social value.

A study was done with a pidgeon.

The pidgeon would peck at a metal bar and receive a piece of food, but in different variations of the experiment the pidgeon would get the food at different rates.

When the pidgeon got the piece of food 100% of the time it pecked the bar, the pidgeon took the bar for granted and only returned to it when it needed food.

When the pidgeon never received food it gave up interest in the bar after only pressing it a few times.

When the pidgeon got the food 70% of the time and nothing 30%, it pecked the bar like it's life depended on it. It became a slave to the metal bar.

That is why your Friendzone Fiona sits there and bitches about her man but will never leave him. He makes her peck. You are the metal bar that is taken for granted.

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I enjoyed that. Good read.

Poor Boy said:

theres a code...

when you first meet a chick you must follow this.

ass hole... nice... ass hole... ass hole... ass hole... nice... nice... ass hole... nice...

from then on its your choice.

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And you should always fallow this formula because their is no variance in humans or situation.

Mr. Material said:

This is why I think that most people's social skills stop developing after high school.

This whole "nice guy" vs "alpha-male" idea is just as stupid as the "skater" vs "jock" stereotype; it's a high school mentality.

It's not real.

People live out roles that they create for themselves.

What's interesting, is that there seems to be a belief that whatever "role" you played in high school will stick with you for the rest of your life.

This is why you see 55 year old men wearing Letterman's jackets at high school football games.

It's fucking pathetic.

Real life is nothing like "The Breakfast Club".

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Best post in the thread by far.

Mr. Material said:

This is why I think that most people's social skills stop developing after high school.

This whole "nice guy" vs "alpha-male" idea is just as stupid as the "skater" vs "jock" stereotype; it's a high school mentality.

It's not real.

People live out roles that they create for themselves.

What's interesting, is that there seems to be a belief that whatever "role" you played in high school will stick with you for the rest of your life.

This is why you see 55 year old men wearing Letterman's jackets at high school football games.

It's fucking pathetic.

Real life is nothing like "The Breakfast Club".

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RiderOnTheStorm said:

It's all about human behavior. Nice guys don't get laid because they make themselves available to the woman they're after. Women, much like men, usually want what they cannot have, this is why they go after the player, alpha, whatever. If they could just get him tonight, maybe they could keep him, change him, and establish massive social value.

A study was done with a pidgeon.

The pidgeon would peck at a metal bar and receive a piece of food, but in different variations of the experiment the pidgeon would get the food at different rates.

When the pidgeon got the piece of food 100% of the time it pecked the bar, the pidgeon took the bar for granted and only returned to it when it needed food.

When the pidgeon never received food it gave up interest in the bar after only pressing it a few times.

When the pidgeon got the food 70% of the time and nothing 30%, it pecked the bar like it's life depended on it. It became a slave to the metal bar.

That is why your Friendzone Fiona sits there and bitches about her man but will never leave him. He makes her peck. You are the metal bar that is taken for granted.

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closed veil said:

Poor Boy said:

theres a code...

when you first meet a chick you must follow this.

ass hole... nice... ass hole... ass hole... ass hole... nice... nice... ass hole... nice...

from then on its your choice.

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And you should always fallow this formula because their is no variance in humans or situation.

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This is why I think a lot of people fail at relationships because they are stuck in a rut "playing games" - and don't know how to do much else.

I think this is why we see so many women who only respond to negativity, and so many guys who only know how to treat women like shit.

koraks said:

Because 'nice guys' are often not half as nice as they consider themselves to be. They are exactly the same as the bad boys, but more insecure and imbued with a false sense of moral superiority. There's nothing nice about that. The *really* nice guys do get laid, no problem.

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#6. The World Only Cares About What It Can Get from You

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Let's say that the person you love the most has just been shot. He or she is lying in the street, bleeding and screaming. A guy rushes up and says, "Step aside." He looks over your loved one's bullet wound and pulls out a pocket knife -- he's going to operate right there in the street.

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"OK, which one is the injured one?"

You ask, "Are you a doctor?"

The guy says, "No."

You say, "But you know what you're doing, right? You're an old Army medic, or ..."

At this point the guy becomes annoyed. He tells you that he is a nice guy, he is honest, he is always on time. He tells you that he is a great son to his mother and has a rich life full of fulfilling hobbies, and he boasts that he never uses foul language.

Confused, you say, "How does any of that fucking matter when my (wife/husband/best friend/parent) is lying here bleeding! I need somebody who knows how to operate on bullet wounds! Can you do that or not?!?"

Now the man becomes agitated -- why are you being shallow and selfish? Do you not care about any of his other good qualities? Didn't you just hear him say that he always remembers his girlfriend's birthday? In light of all of the good things he does, does it really matter if he knows how to perform surgery?

In that panicked moment, you will take your bloody hands and shake him by the shoulders, screaming, "Yes, I'm saying that none of that other shit matters, because in this specific situation, I just need somebody who can stop the bleeding, you crazy fucking asshole."

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"I don't get it. Would it help if I put on a lab jacket? Here, one sec, let me just ..."

So here is my terrible truth about the adult world: You are in that very situation every single day. Only you are the confused guy with the pocket knife. All of society is the bleeding gunshot victim.

If you want to know why society seems to shun you, or why you seem to get no respect, it's because society is full of people who need things. They need houses built, they need food to eat, they need entertainment, they need fulfilling sexual relationships. You arrived at the scene of that emergency, holding your pocket knife, by virtue of your birth -- the moment you came into the world, you became part of a system designed purely to see to people's needs.

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"Here's that shit you needed. Now fuck off."

Either you will go about the task of seeing to those needs by learning a unique set of skills, or the world will reject you, no matter how kind, giving and polite you are. You will be poor, you will be alone, you will be left out in the cold.

Does that seem mean, or crass, or materialistic? What about love and kindness -- don't those things matter? Of course. As long as they result in you doing things for people that they can't get elsewhere. For you see ...

Read more: http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person/#ixzz2jfOFHGNX

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koraks said:

Because 'nice guys' are often not half as nice as they consider themselves to be. They are exactly the same as the bad boys, but more insecure and imbued with a false sense of moral superiority. There's nothing nice about that. The *really* nice guys do get laid, no problem.

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