Bro-- let me let you in on a secret-- if you're nervous, *and can't be yourself*, then you're not seeing this girl as just another human being-- albeit an attractive, desirable one. You're distracting yourself with a goal, and clouding the enjoyment of time spent with a beautiful girl.

As I've gotten older, and have seen all the girls around me do their thing (I work in proximity to dozens of girls your age) I've begun to understand what all those "old" people were talking about when they'd say things like "don't make such a big deal out of it-- just be yourself, and let things happen as they will-- you'll end up with more pussy than you can handle"

Your problem is twofold: "Social anxiety" is a bullshit excuse-- you need to lay that shit down and put a bullet in it.
It's an artificially medicalized way of saying you have no confidence in yourself,and are afraid of/obsessed with what other people think of you to the point that you STFU and piss yourself. You're using it as a crutch to make yourself feel like a victim of some affliction.

To you bitches that will pile in here and whine about "no, it's a real medical problem!!!!11!one!!!!":



Seriously bro-- ask yourself *why* you feel so nervous-- because that's what you need to address. You're new to girls-- it's NORMAL to be nervous.

This brings us to the second problem:

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I promised myself I would kiss her.

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just want my fear of intimacy to stop being this big obstacle in my life

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Anonymous #1 said:

I am an 18 year old. I have been having social anxiety problems for a about 2 years now, and recently I have been seeing a girl I like. She is 2 years younger than I am, and rather shallow, but beautiful and sweet , and I like her. I have however found myself very much unable to be myself around her, and have seen her about 4 times now without much progression. Tonight, we watched a movie at my place, and I promised myself I would kiss her. I kept making excuses; "she's smoking a cigarette now, I can't possibly kiss her", "now is not the moment", "the film we are watching is currently a little banal, it would be weird and unexpected to do it now", and other such excuses which seemed legitimate at the time, but now appear clearly to be just that; excuses. I just kept procrastinating, and then she had to go home. I feel horrible. I don't know what I want from you guys. Perhaps some of you have had similar experiences and can give me some advice?

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Anonymous #1 said:

I am an 18 year old.... She is 2 years younger than I am

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Anonymous #10 said:

social anxiety is a side effect from overuse of marijuana.

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Anonymous #9 said:

Fuck bro, be glad you're even where you're fucking at. My social anxiety combined with some past experiences has made me essentially write off ever being intimate with anybody. I currently plan to live and die romantically isolated.

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Anonymous #10 said:

so bitching about having crippling social anxiety and then smoking a shit load of weed is just like watching a pack a day smoker bitch about lung cancer.

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maybe so but i could deal with the anxiety if i just run with it... honestly its more worth to smoke then be sober all the time and a  little more social.    without an intimate partner i dont see enough good reason to not smoke weed, and if i had one id prob still keep smoking