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InvisiblePyroBurns
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I need a little life coaching help, please.
    #7707985 - 12/02/07 07:02 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

The problem being:

I do not know what to do with the next 9 months/2 years of my life. All I know is that I need to finish my degree, but that can be done anywhere.

After finding out what a shithole Columbus is, my plans of finishing school here at OSU are blown out of the water. I thought it was going to be a good life in a good city but that just didn't happen. I fucking HATE Columbus. OSU doesn't please me much either, but it definitely could be tolerated if it wasn't here.

After going through half of this quarter I decided to go back to my community college in my hometown, but I also hate Ohio in general. This place just sucks. Though, I might be able to tolerate it if I made some good friends and found some nice connects. But then I still don't know where I'd go after finishing my gen eds. and I'd still feel like there's nothing but garbage miles around me.

THEN I had this crazy idea about finishing my gen eds. in Portland Oregon (where I already applied/got accepted to a community college there) but I have no idea how that would be or if that would be a good idea. At least here I'd get to see my family every now and then even if things were going sour. But if I ended up not liking it over there I'd be dicked for another quarter just like over here. Then again, it would be a huge adventure and step in maturity for me.

I just don't know what to do. I'd like to visit there first but that might be too expensive to run all the way out there, then run all the way back, then run out again.

Any advice?


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7708055 - 12/02/07 07:17 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

What would you be doing with your life if you had no friends or family?



*Hopefully this gives you some ideas. You shouldn't let anyone tell you what to do, you will be unhappy. I promise.


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7708072 - 12/02/07 07:20 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Yeah, get out of Ohio now and don't waste another day. I flip-flopped on that one forever, and the only thing delaying me was my family. In retrospect, I wasted some good years just sticking around for my family.

Don't fret over the small details, in the end they screw you and don't mean anything. What you can't possibly predict are all the good parts, like how much you will grow taking on something new and huge like a big move.

And degrees, well they are blah. Just get one in something, the fastest route to a 2 year or 4 year ticket. Unless you want to go for engineering, etc.

But the only way to go is to wing it, and don't worry about things. I wish I took this advice instead of hanging out in Ohio all those years.


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InvisiblePyroBurns
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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: mushroomplume]
    #7708073 - 12/02/07 07:20 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

My friends all disbanded. I don't have any now.

I would miss my family, but if I stayed home I'd still be wondering what was out there and loating Ohio.


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7708113 - 12/02/07 07:30 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Well, let's see: you're not exactly comfortable with the place you are right now. his is a reason to leave.
BUT also: you weren't happy with the place you were before moving back home, so then the entire situation gets more complicated. Maybe there's nothing wrong with those place, but with your state of mind.
Which means that you can keep moving on & on and still feel shitty.
And that's because you need to change your attitude.
Do you feel lonely?
Because I hear you arguing about the fact that you don't have any friends. Is it only because you're supposed to have friends, because everybody has friends? Is it because maybe you find it difficult to spend time on your own? If the answer is yes, to any or both of these questions, then the problem is again with you.
Until we feel good with ourselves and only with ourselves, we're unable to enjoy life in any other form presented.


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7708138 - 12/02/07 07:37 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

You would love Oregon. No need to visit first, just go.


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InvisiblePyroBurns
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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #7708150 - 12/02/07 07:42 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

"Which means that you can keep moving on & on and still feel shitty.
And that's because you need to change your attitude.
Do you feel lonely?
Because I hear you arguing about the fact that you don't have any friends. Is it only because you're supposed to have friends, because everybody has friends? Is it because maybe you find it difficult to spend time on your own? If the answer is yes, to any or both of these questions, then the problem is again with you.
Until we feel good with ourselves and only with ourselves, we're unable to enjoy life in any other form presented.
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This is what I've been contemplating a lot recently. And I mean a LOT.

Maybe it's in my head? Maybe I wouldn't be happy anywhere?

But a few weeks ago I had it all figured out. I was really happy and doing great, but still knew I hated Ohio. I hate the fact that people here are mainly depressed drugged out teens, or old people living on farms or in middle class housing or in fake high class housing with a stick up their ass. There really isn't much to do here, and I've been driving around a lot. The only thing that's nice is the greater cleveland area, but there's really nothing there but some nice shopping. Canton is okay too, but again it's like a little bubble surrounded by farms. And I'd have to find a school there.

Then I got depressed again, probably due to either finals or my disease. Now I'm getting cold feet about moving, and feel like I don't know myself again.


As for the friend thing, I was just responding to the first post. I'm pretty much fine without them, but it'd be nice to have a good friend to hang out with time to time, again.


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7710000 - 12/03/07 09:13 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Go just plan a new life when you get their.


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: ChiefGreenLeaf]
    #7710943 - 12/03/07 01:11 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

great one is right, you'd love oregon. i've lived here all my life and don't plan on leaving anytime soon.. portland is great, so is eugene.

i've never been to ohio before but from the sound of it there's not a whole lot there. what do you like to do for fun? biking is great in portland, also there's a good music scene, tons of restaurants, culture, etc. far from just drugged out teens and old hillbillies, although you are sure to meet some of those too.


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7711494 - 12/03/07 03:38 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Well then what are you waiting for? :smile:
Change your life the way you want, the way that it suits you best, any time that you feel that it's necessary, no matter how absurd or weird would seem to those around you.


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InvisiblePyroBurns
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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #7712302 - 12/03/07 06:28 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Yeah, I'm probably still going to go. This short bout of depression is lifting, and I just can't see why I'd want to hold back.


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7715270 - 12/04/07 12:46 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Go!


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7717372 - 12/04/07 08:41 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

what is calling you?


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InvisiblePyroBurns
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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: machination]
    #7718811 - 12/05/07 08:44 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I don't even know. I really don't understand why I wanted to go to Portland in the first place.

It just came into my mind when I was thinking of a nicer place to live and stuck. Which is stange, considering I really knew nothing about it.


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7718890 - 12/05/07 09:15 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

well until you learn to walk, you can order call of the wild from the internets. even when you go blind, you can still see. much love man g


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: machination]
    #7719304 - 12/05/07 11:37 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Portland is a great city, and even if things still aren't perfect (which they won't be) at least you aren't in Ohio anymore, and you can feel good about yourself for stepping up to the challenge of changing your life and trying something new. It's better to explore and be disappointed than stay in a tiny bubble that is unsatisfying and always wonder what could have been if you just went for it.


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: NiamhNyx]
    #7719335 - 12/05/07 11:45 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I fucking love Portland, I would give my left nut to be living there right now. It is such an ecological, beautiful, and hip city. Everyone seems to be doing something there, you can see mountains in the distance, forests everywhere, the perfect temperature all year round.

Oh my god, I'm seriously getting kind of sad writing this. I live in shitty south florida where cabana boys, margaritas, and car wrecks related to old age seem to be the norm.

i envy you man.

My Backyard:



Your Backyard:



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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: PyroBurns]
    #7719536 - 12/05/07 12:36 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Here is a cool website: www.oregon.com


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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: mushroomplume]
    #7719596 - 12/05/07 01:00 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Quote:

oliveplume said:
I fucking love Portland, I would give my left nut to be living there right now. It is such an ecological, beautiful, and hip city. Everyone seems to be doing something there, you can see mountains in the distance, forests everywhere, the perfect temperature all year round.



Well, I don't know about perfect temperature, and it can get kind of depressing not seeing the sun for weeks at a time, but it definitely rocks living here.  The culture here is so amazing, and yes, the view of the mountains in the distance is awesome.

Quote:

Oh my god, I'm seriously getting kind of sad writing this. I live in shitty south florida where cabana boys, margaritas, and car wrecks related to old age seem to be the norm.



:frown: That sucks, man.  Florida has got to be my least favorite state, with the possible exception of Alabama. 

Quote:

Your Backyard:





*sigh* It is beautiful, isn't it?


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InvisiblePyroBurns
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Re: I need a little life coaching help, please. [Re: Silversoul]
    #7728163 - 12/07/07 10:38 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Wow... Well that really fucking sucks. I'm having trouble with my loan money because they don't do community colleges. So I'm pretty fucked.

Don't really know what to do now.


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