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InvisibleAfroshroomerican
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Am I asocial or just odd?
    #5929487 - 08/03/06 07:10 PM (17 years, 5 months ago)

I'm usualy active during school; however since most of my friends live far away from me, I've spent most of the summer alone and fixing comptuers here and there for cash (I live in one of the most desolate areas of PA where there isn't another house for quite a long while).

However, even when I'm in my dorm I don't always want to hang with my friends. In fact, sometimes I avoid them.

For example, I can just chill with them for awhile and the next day I won't really want to be bothered. I'll act like I don't see them sometimes and play off like I honestly didn't when they inquire.

I often feel more comfortable alone than I do with friends, even though I hang out with them off and on.

Large social situations are also a bit of an issue. I am invited to parties (people tend to like my warped sense of humor and bluntness), yet I never go.

I've only been to one at school and I've been there for 2 years almost.

A lot of my friends are "stoners" and a part of the drug culture so to speak; however, a lot of my views don't coincide with theirs.

For example, I don't like to get fucked up as often as they do and they sometimes take this as an offense. 1) I'm a singer and can't smoke 2) I take school very seriously because I pride success and don't want to be some of the sterotypical black people I have met living off the system(I grew up with these at one time).

So I end up by myself by choice a lot. Is anyone else like this or is this extemely atypical?


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: Afroshroomerican]
    #5929880 - 08/03/06 09:55 PM (17 years, 5 months ago)

i dont think that there is anyhing wrong with it, but i would recomend that you go off and go to some of those parties, meet some people and so on :smile:

its always a good thing to do when you have the chance, college dosent last forever


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: ZippoZ]
    #5930003 - 08/03/06 10:51 PM (17 years, 5 months ago)

thankx for the response.

Yeah I kind of get too serious about school. If I get a B I'm ready to scream.

The sad thing is (not to brag) but it doesn't take much studying for me to do well.

So I have free time. I'll try to see what partying is about. I'm not gettin piss ass drunk tho.


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: Afroshroomerican]
    #5930369 - 08/04/06 01:50 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

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Afroshroomerican said:
However, even when I'm in my dorm I don't always want to hang with my friends. In fact, sometimes I avoid them.

For example, I can just chill with them for awhile and the next day I won't really want to be bothered. I'll act like I don't see them sometimes and play off like I honestly didn't when they inquire.

I often feel more comfortable alone than I do with friends, even though I hang out with them off and on.



Wanting to be alone is Ok. Avoiding your friends is not. That is dishonest. You should tell them to their face that you'd like some alone time.

I don't know whether your fear social interaction in general or simply dissapointing your friends (thereby incurring negative judgement from the people you care about) or whether it's something else altogether, but you definitely have a problem when you cannot accept reality and lie straight to your friends' faces.

It's natural to feel uncomfortable sometimes with friends. Everyone has bad days or bad periods in their life. The mark of a true friend is to know that they mean well for you. Even if you are down and out, they would try their best to be your friend. You may even feel uncomfortable with your friends on your best days. It's all good, though, when you look at the big picture and see that they love you and you love them.


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: The_Hobbit]
    #5930439 - 08/04/06 02:51 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

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You should tell them to their face that you'd like some alone time.




i think in doing this you would quickly find yourself without any friends...


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: bobjones]
    #5930451 - 08/04/06 03:14 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

I'm the same way when I'm at home, I live in MS. I just sit on the internet and do web development for cash or do something else on my computer usually. I went off to college quite a distance away,
I just finished my first year of school.

I didn't do too well the first semester because I was lazy and then second semester I partied wayyyy too much. So... this semester I'm going to go back (thankfully I got back in) and party still, just have to manage it with school O_O

So yeah like someone suggested up there you should def. go to some parties and have fun sometimes, eventhough I'm technically a bad example still can have a little fun and excel as well.


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: bobjones]
    #5930472 - 08/04/06 03:53 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

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bobjones said:
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You should tell them to their face that you'd like some alone time.




i think in doing this you would quickly find yourself without any friends...





agreed.


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: Afroshroomerican]
    #5930540 - 08/04/06 05:40 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

Most humans are scared of being "alone", when in reality we aer always alone. You need to decide if you are just happy and content being alone, which is a fantastic quality, or if you have something that might be a bit more pathological, such as "social anxiety disorder" (not that I believe in that, but it's symptoms are of a real disorder). If you are introspective and honest, you should be able to determine which of the two it is. Most people just seem so pathetically afraid of being alone they'd rather hang out with anyone, which is how some people end up with real dirtball friends.


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: xDuckYouSuckerx]
    #5930546 - 08/04/06 05:49 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

I think if you're happy hanging out by yourself, then do it.  There's absolutely nothing wrong with spending time by yourself and avoiding crowds of people that you don't know.  As long as you aren't living a life of hermitude :wink:

And hobbitcg, I think you're going a little overboard on your answer.  He's not being dishonest or lying to his friends, and while I don't know him personally, I don't see anything in his post that suggests he has a "problem."


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: Lily_Morgan]
    #5930574 - 08/04/06 06:11 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

I think that the compulsion to always be with someone, mainly so that we can verbalize with them, is more indicative of a problem than the desire to be alone. However, since society seems to think that someone who values their aloneness has a problem and sets a standard of having hundreds of friends and always doing something with someone, I can see how someone can have some sort of mental ailment and try to shy away from this standard as symptomatic of having a problem.

It's really up to you to decide. If you feel happy when you are by youself, and you aren't just 'killing time', then you are heads above the average person in matters of consciousness. If you don't feel that way, then you might want to ask why.


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: xDuckYouSuckerx]
    #5931048 - 08/04/06 10:44 AM (17 years, 5 months ago)

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bobjones said:
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You should tell them to their face that you'd like some alone time.




i think in doing this you would quickly find yourself without any friends...



those kinds of people aren't your friends in the first place then.


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Re: Am I asocial or just odd? [Re: leery11]
    #5931540 - 08/04/06 01:54 PM (17 years, 5 months ago)

i know just where your coming from, my advice would be go to some parties and the next day spend some alone time. i used to be very antisocial, almost becoming paranoid when friends came over, but when they arrived we always had a great time, i grew out of that stage... sort of , I'm getting better. my advice to you would just take your time but push yourself to go out more with friends.


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