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PuZuZu
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hard to admit being a virgin
#2848154 - 07/01/04 04:45 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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yep. i'm a virgin. and can't relate to those who aren't bugged by being a virgin. why am i still a virgin? i don't know. i date alot but its never lead to sex.
but i'm going out with a guy right now whos sexually active and i'm interested in having sex with him. but i haven't told him i'm a virgin. i don't know if he'd dump me or not. he's had sex plenty of times, i've been in bed with a guy but i've never had sex. i know all about sex but i haven't done it.
i don't know why, its just that way. its not really a big problem TO ME that i'm a virgin except that i feel that i'm missing out. its just i'm scared of the reaction he'd give me. are virgins queers? around where i live its nerdy to be a virgin at this age. very nerdy. i've been going out with this guy for almost two weeks. but when the time comes, how am i going to tell him?
i need mental advice so this runs smoothly. plus i'm clumsy in bed still, is this bad? i need this area of my life uncloudy. go ahead and bash me for my viriginity, i don't care, but am still going to try and gain some stable information on this. thanks.
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Adom
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2848176 - 07/01/04 04:50 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'd be proud of it. Don't blow it on someone you don't really Love is all I can say.
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: Adom]
#2848189 - 07/01/04 04:52 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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adom speaks the truth.
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MOTH
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2848234 - 07/01/04 05:06 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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From one girl to another...
You're only a virgin once in your entire life. Be careful about who you give that gift of your body to.
I wish I had waited for my husband, who was a virgin when we first got together. It would have been nice to lose our virginity together, but I was too impatient. I was too worried, like you, that I was missing out by being a virgin. I had sex for the first time a week before my husband and I got together, with a complete stranger. It was meaningless. If I had just waited a week, I could have shared that part of myself with someone who I truly cared about. I do regret not saving myself for my husband.
As for being "clumsy" in bed, that changes quickly in time, especially if you have a loving and considerate partner. There is nothing in the world like making love to someone you care for more then the world itself!
I guess what I'm trying to say is don't be ashamed of your virginity. And don't settle for "just anyone" to give it to. Wait until you find someone special enough to deserve it.
good luck
*me*
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DieCommie
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2848353 - 07/01/04 05:43 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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Too many people have sex at a young age.
Dont be in any hurry, if the guy loves you he will wait, if he dosent he wont that simple i say.
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Phencyclidine
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2848942 - 07/01/04 09:36 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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I am male. I will just say that you should think about this. Don't do anything that you will think you regret. For some people, sex is cheap. For me it is not. I respect the two women that I've slept with and am good friends with both (one is currently my girlfriend).
There is nothing shameful about being a virgin.
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: Phencyclidine]
#2849548 - 07/01/04 11:46 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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actually, in this sic society, being a virgin really is laughed upon.... very sad
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2849729 - 07/02/04 12:25 AM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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Don't be in such a rush! There's nothing at all wrong with being a virgin...but there is plenty wrong in being a slut
I'm 23. I've only had sex with one woman in my life, my last girlfriend. We dated for well over a year and I was very commited to her. Commitment is a good thing. I haven't had sex with anyone since we broke up over 2 years ago...and now I like to joke about being re-virginized
Seriously...there isn't anything wrong with being a virgin!
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SillyWilly
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2849988 - 07/02/04 01:34 AM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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Well, being a virgin does not at all turn a guy off---if thats what your worried about. They, or atleast I, think a woman who has conserved her purity for the right partner is a wonderful thing. Dont lose it in the name of lust like so many people have.
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kotik
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2850110 - 07/02/04 02:37 AM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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good to know there are some actual morals still embedded in some people. I'm not a virgin, but I am shocked at how much everything in this world revolves around sex.
True, it is a fun thing to do, but moderation is key. Sex is an addiction in this country especially, and since it involves emotions, it has just become another "industry" so to speak.
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2850720 - 07/02/04 10:30 AM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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sex is fun, it can also not be fun. The key is to make sure you are enjoying the experience you have regardless of 'love' or not.
If it feels right to you then do it, enjoy it, go sloooooowwww..
lots of foreplay.. I mean lots.
If when he first penetrates it hurts, back off and do some more foreplay down 'there'. Most guys who are not macho idiots will know virgin = tender and usually painful and will do whatever they can to make it better.
Also make sure, if something starts to feel right on you, say some clit rubbing or whatever, and you two are going at it but its just not getting orgasmic, TELL HIM WHERE TO GO OR WHAT TO TOUCH AND HOW. Or, touch it your damn self.
The worst part I think about virginity is the lack of experience aka being clumsy. communication = key.
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2850944 - 07/02/04 11:30 AM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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yeah, no rush....
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2851866 - 07/02/04 03:07 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm 22. I figure if I've waited this long, there's not much point in just going out and having sex with some random person I don't know. Might as well wait until it really means something to me, you know? It doesn't bug me because I don't let it, I simply refuse to believe that being a virgin is something to be ashamed of. It's easy to confuse lust or infatuation with love, especially if you are inexperienced. No good can come of it. Please don't rush into anything "just to get it over with." If and when you decide to do this, do it for yourself.
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sublimesubmind
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: BigNerd]
#2852040 - 07/02/04 03:57 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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damn, i must live in whoreville, because everyone i know did it between 13-16 the first time....
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2852461 - 07/02/04 07:37 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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I'm a 21 year old virgin. I stopped caring years ago about whether I would lose it or not. I'm not embarrassed about it anymore. I have a phobia of sex and being naked in front of someone else. I'm not comfortable with my body at all and I'm very insecure. I won't even take my shirt off outside. I've never been close to someone before, mentally or physically. I've never even had a girlfriend. Not having sex bothered me more when I was a horny teen but now I don't even have a sex drive anymore thanks to anti-psychotics. It doesn't look like I'll ever have sex at this point but I don't really care.
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kotik
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: ]
#2853590 - 07/03/04 08:52 AM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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thats doesnt sound healthy, but if you are happy about it, keep going.
apathy doesn't make a good substitue for genuine happiness though.
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Barbi
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: kotik]
#2853827 - 07/03/04 11:32 AM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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Jon isn happy, hes just gay.
GET IT. GAY.. HAPPY.
oh you guys are a terrible audience..
<3 jon
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40oz
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: PuZuZu]
#2853879 - 07/03/04 12:01 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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<--pen0r for hire. p/m me.
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hairs
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: 40oz]
#2854761 - 07/03/04 07:16 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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you need a little more sensitivity
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40oz
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Re: hard to admit being a virgin [Re: hairs]
#2856749 - 07/04/04 04:16 PM (19 years, 8 months ago) |
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i suppose yer right, hairs... lemme see...
[clears throat] hey PaZuZu, life isnt going anywhere fast, take your time with something as sacred as your virginity. Everything will fall into place as it should. (no pun intended of course) just live, no rush, no worries.
..or if you really wanna rid yourself of that pesky cherry, the offer still stands.
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