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Salvinorin
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This girl is killing me
#11226079 - 10/11/09 11:26 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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Alright, so here is some context: I'm 20 years old, and have been dating a smokin' hot girl for 7 months. I'm graduating from college this year.
Now, I really do think I love this girl. She's gorgeous, funny, and relatively open-minded.
However, she's also incredibly high-maintenance. She's the type of girl that if she's having a bad day (even if its due to lack of sleep or something) she will both blame me and take it out on me. All of her problems become my problems. Not only that, but when she is upset, all decency goes out the window. She'll tell me I'm a piece of shit, that she hates me, that she never wants to see me again, all for pretty much no reason. Recently, she was prescribed Zoloft, but she's not responsible enough to get it filled on time so there are multiple week gaps when she's not on it.
Secondly, she is wildly irresponsible with money. She blows her student loans on clothes and perfume, and then freaks out when she doesn't have money to by food (so I have to bail her out on a monthly basis).
Thirdly, she seriously encroaches on my ability to relax and have fun. I can make plans to go to a concert a month ahead of time (and tell her about this, even invite her...she of course refuses to go), and she'll flip out on me if I don't leave the concert early to come hang out with her. There have even been situations where I've been throwing a party at my house and she'll try to get me to tell the entire party (50+ people) to leave because she's not having fun.
Bottom-line, I know it's not a smart idea to get into a long-term relationship with this girl. I know that I can't rely on her to change - I've been waiting for it for 7 months with no luck.
But at the same time I can't bring myself to break up with her. She cares about me so much, it would absolutely devastate her. In her mind, she is hoping to move in together, get married, etc. I would feel like the most cruel person in the world if I broke up with her, and would most likely feel a lot of regret and miss her a lot.
I love her, but she's seriously putting a lot of strain on my life; I don't know what to do.
What do you think?
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Penguarky Tunguin
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: Salvinorin]
#11226097 - 10/11/09 11:29 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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you need to launch her ass to the curb and quickly
you're 20 years old, you will not marry this chick
get out, get out, get out
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Entropymancer
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: Salvinorin]
#11226103 - 10/11/09 11:30 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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C'mon man. You know what we think. You know what you need to do. Do it already (or delay so you can do it right after you DSHSB)
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ovechkin57
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: Salvinorin]
#11226106 - 10/11/09 11:30 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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I think your telling all of this to the wrong audience.
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Vibes
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: Salvinorin]
#11226108 - 10/11/09 11:31 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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If she doesn't change, only thing to do is break up. She needs to learn.
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visions
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too young for marriage either way stick it out with her and have fun let her go when you get tired of her bitchy qualities live the dream baby
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claraclairvoyant
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: Salvinorin]
#11226112 - 10/11/09 11:32 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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Sounds like a crazy, selfish bitch. Extremly selfish. Get rid of her.
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RationalEgo
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Quote:
Penguarky Tunguin said: you need to launch her ass to the curb and quickly
you're 20 years old, you will not marry this chick
get out, get out, get out
This!
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Penguarky Tunguin
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: visions]
#11226140 - 10/11/09 11:38 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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visions said: too young for marriage either way stick it out with her and have fun let her go when you get tired of her bitchy qualities live the dream baby
did you even read the first post?
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elementswrath
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: visions]
#11226147 - 10/11/09 11:40 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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get a new girlfriend ASAP, she sounds like a total leech an MANipulating bitch who either has serious mental problems or doesn't give a shit about you. either send her away from you or get away from her.
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claraclairvoyant
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: visions]
#11226150 - 10/11/09 11:41 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
visions said:
live the dream baby
how is staying with this girl "living the dream?" it sounds miserable to me.
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highdroponics
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I say ditch the bitch, but I think with my head before my heart or my penis.
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Red_Snapper
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I say cut the bitch loose, whats the saying, absence makes the heart grow fonder. If she's really worth her weight in bullshit she'll come crawling back. Either way you're in a strong position here.
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tiny_rabid_birds
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: Salvinorin]
#11226173 - 10/11/09 11:46 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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dude, if she "really cares about you" like you say, then she'd be a helluva a lot more understanding about your feelings and needs. make sure you communicate this to her. truth and trust are primary components to a working long-term relationship.
honestly, this doesn't sound like it's working to me, but it can't hurt to first communicate your feelings. let her know very clearly that you're giving more than she is. that she can't treat you like crap and expect you to take it. you said she's gorgeous, so she's probably used to being able to treat guys like crap. fuck that. lay all your cards on the table. let her take it or leave it.
also, make sure you DSHSB
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elementswrath
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highdroponics said: I say ditch the bitch, but I think with my head before my heart or my penis.
damn straight.
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Prisoner#1
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Quote:
Penguarky Tunguin said: you need to launch her ass to the curb and quickly
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Entropymancer said: right after you DSHSB)
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Salvinorin
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Alright, before we go on, what the hell is DSHSB?
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Entropymancer
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: Salvinorin]
#11226190 - 10/11/09 11:49 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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Put it in her pooper
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antiPock
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Re: This girl is killing me [Re: Salvinorin]
#11226193 - 10/11/09 11:50 AM (14 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Salvinorin said: Alright, before we go on, what the hell is DSHSB?
Dry Smash Her Shit Box
Oh and this girl sounds like my ex-wife. She is my ex for a reason . . .
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O_O is my girlfriend cheating on me with you?
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