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Ok,

General tips:

Forget lines, forget game. Women are looking for men who are having fun and comfortable in their own skin. You may begin to find good ways of opening conversations, but they have to be natural to you first.

Nothing worked for me until I started just decided to make myself comfortable wherever I go. I see every venue as a playground now, not a proving ground. I stay positive, I don't try to get laid. I make a point of having fun and talking to strangers, everywhere.

I did this the other night. I just went out to have a few beers with no intention of getting laid, and a pair of hot foreign girls came and sat with me and after a night of crazy sex I'm now dating one of them. I am not a player, I have no 'game' either.

I dress consciously but I'm not overly concerned with how I look after I leave home, because I know I carry myself like I'm worth something.

Another tip: don't only talk to women you are attracted to. Learn to interact. Talk to men too. Actually listen to what they say and be genuinely interested. You can't fake it. You have to learn to like people in general.

The bottom line here is that you have to give something of value to others, rather than seek it from them. This means you should only concern yourself with being a fun person to party with, rather than finding a way to get something from women.

This is an important lesson in life. Give and don't be concerned about receiving. It will come.

Specific tips:

Don't get drunk or stoned. It makes you unattractive.

Your most important focus is what the other person has to say. Don't view talking to women as a means to an end.

Don't hover around a woman all night. Talk to her once, then go have fun with your friends. Then come back and talk to her again. Establishing that initial communication makes it so easy to just casually mention anything vaguely interesting if you pass by her.

If you don't know what to say, watch what other (more social) people do. Always be watching and learning from people who are at ease in social environments.

Make friends with GUYS too! They are not your enemies. Win over a girl's male friends and you'll look damn good.

Go to multiple places in a night if possible. Cities with lots of venues within walking distance are perfect. Have a drink or two at each. Also, this way you can always say "Hey we're heading to _______ after this, you should come by." If she shows up, you know why...

Don't be afraid to lose the attention of any particular woman. It's NEVER a big deal, there are ALWAYS others. This non-attachment is visible to others and is very attractive.

The bottom line is this: attention from women is NOT a result of trying to get attention from women. It is a side-effect of being open and genuinely having fun.

Talk to strangers, it's good for you.

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Anonymous said:

so everyone doesnt think im shy.. but im only shy trying to talk to a random girl i dont know.  so help me pick up some girls.  i just got out of a 3.5 year relationship and lost my game

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Anonymous said:

Anonymous said:

so everyone doesnt think im shy.. but im only shy trying to talk to a random girl i dont know.  so help me pick up some girls.  i just got out of a 3.5 year relationship and lost my game

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LIES

tangerines!

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Anonymous said:

Forget about game, and pickup lines.  Smile, be happy, joke around with everyone you see.  You'll start attracting women.

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Anonymous said:

Forget about game, and pickup lines. Smile, be happy, joke around with everyone you see. You'll start attracting women.

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Anonymous said:

so everyone doesnt think im shy.. but im only shy trying to talk to a random girl i dont know.  so help me pick up some girls.  i just got out of a 3.5 year relationship and lost my game

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Hey you didn't lose your game. If anything you got trained, just kidding

I think its absolutely cute when a guy is shy, but don't be to shy. Just get out there, smile back, and make sure to use eye contact, i donno I love smiles, and eyes. And just be you, and be HONEST, and sweet. Girls will love ya

Anonymous #3 said:

There a similar thread a few weeks ago.

Here's what I posted.  Take what you can get from it:

Quote:

Ok,

General tips:

Forget lines, forget game. Women are looking for men who are having fun and comfortable in their own skin. You may begin to find good ways of opening conversations, but they have to be natural to you first.

Nothing worked for me until I started just decided to make myself comfortable wherever I go. I see every venue as a playground now, not a proving ground. I stay positive, I don't try to get laid. I make a point of having fun and talking to strangers, everywhere.

I did this the other night. I just went out to have a few beers with no intention of getting laid, and a pair of hot foreign girls came and sat with me and after a night of crazy sex I'm now dating one of them. I am not a player, I have no 'game' either.

I dress consciously but I'm not overly concerned with how I look after I leave home, because I know I carry myself like I'm worth something.

Another tip: don't only talk to women you are attracted to. Learn to interact. Talk to men too. Actually listen to what they say and be genuinely interested. You can't fake it. You have to learn to like people in general.

The bottom line here is that you have to give something of value to others, rather than seek it from them. This means you should only concern yourself with being a fun person to party with, rather than finding a way to get something from women.

This is an important lesson in life. Give and don't be concerned about receiving. It will come.

Specific tips:

Don't get drunk or stoned. It makes you unattractive.

Your most important focus is what the other person has to say. Don't view talking to women as a means to an end.

Don't hover around a woman all night. Talk to her once, then go have fun with your friends. Then come back and talk to her again. Establishing that initial communication makes it so easy to just casually mention anything vaguely interesting if you pass by her.

If you don't know what to say, watch what other (more social) people do. Always be watching and learning from people who are at ease in social environments.

Make friends with GUYS too! They are not your enemies. Win over a girl's male friends and you'll look damn good.

Go to multiple places in a night if possible. Cities with lots of venues within walking distance are perfect. Have a drink or two at each. Also, this way you can always say "Hey we're heading to _______ after this, you should come by." If she shows up, you know why...

Don't be afraid to lose the attention of any particular woman. It's NEVER a big deal, there are ALWAYS others. This non-attachment is visible to others and is very attractive.

The bottom line is this: attention from women is NOT a result of trying to get attention from women. It is a side-effect of being open and genuinely having fun.

Talk to strangers, it's good for you.

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