So I transferred to a University this year. For the first time In my life I have a roommate, actually, I have 3 of them. I live in a suite with 2 bedrooms and one common room so the conditions are pretty nice. Seeing as this is my first time with a roommate, especially someone I don't know well, I need advice. Just a heads up, I'm extremely considerate and respectful but not afraid to voice my opinion which pisses some people off, but I sometimes find myself keeping my mouth shut to not piss off people, just because it has little effect besides pissing people off by confronting their denials out loud.
Anyway, one of my roommates is a former high school football player/wrestler (thank god we don't share a bedroom). I started going to the gym with him so we chill and talk. As soon as I got to school here people were telling me all sorts of things about him, he's the type of kid everybody fucks with because even though he is jacked, all he does is get pissed and insult people. His father owned a gym and just sold it and his mom was a former body builder (for a little more background).
Recently shit has been tense between us. He is not simple minded so much as he is close minded, absurdly close minded. Let me stop here to give you an idea of his perceptions by giving an approximate excerpt from an "argument" we had last night while drinking. (W is for me, D is for my roommate...earlier in the night I had said that our RA lives on a different floor while he said that he lives on our floor, we find out from a couple other people that Tommy does indeed live on our floor)
D: I told you so, you're fucking wrong, I'm right end of story.
W: I think it'd be better to say my thought was wrong, your thought was right
D: Don't try this hippy bullshit and try to circle around the issue
(we attempted to trade points for about 30 minutes, I gave him time to speak, when I attempted to talk he loudly interrupted me for getting off topic, finally someone else comes by and takes the role of a referee, this person attempts to give us each 2 minutes to talk, needless to say my 2 minutes were interrupted repeatedly...I realize arguing while drunk isn't too effective btw, the rest of the argument is under supervision of our buddy)
W: My point here is that you are far too attached to the idea that you are right and I am wrong, that is why I'm saying your thought was right and my idea was wrong, I've already conceded that.
D: NO! Don't tip toe around this bullshit, I'm right your wrong, stop trying to deny it.
(I really don't want to go on with this argument, but it was alot worse in person...I honestly remained extremely calm, I kept trying to get him to lower his voice so we could have a reasonable discourse instead of having a shouting contest)
Anyway, D insults everyone constantly. I realize this is a reflection of his insecurities but as I try to 'help' people (its in quotes because I view it as helping, you may not). One kid he especially insults is his friend named Gary. He constantly talks about Gary and his cockiness, referring to him as "The Gary." He talks about Gary all the time, but he's always making fun of him. I've told him before people like that thrive off of haters and he is just contributing to Gary's successful social life, while being detrimental to his own. He responded to that semi-maturely.
After a girl came to our room tonight looking for Gary's room, he said, "Wow how embarassing for us." I said, "Dude, I can't believe how much you are on Gary's dick, all you do is diss him but really you are dissing yourself because you consider him better than you." He flipped and said (he usually responds by recycling what I say), "Fuck you and your pussy hippy bullshit. I can't believe how much you are on my dick cause all you do is try to argue with me." I said, "Dude I'm not trying to argue with ya, don't take my opinion so strongly, you don't have to get defensive."
He constantly claims how I am always wrong, and he is always right (seriously.) In any argument he resorts to immature tactics such as labeling and insults. He constantly tells me how I'm a pussy hippy, and not that it gets to me, but I can't believe how immature he gets and it sucks to have to live with someone like this. My other roommates are "cool." I say "cool" because although they also are typical college students (drinking alot is badass, smoking weed and drugs are cool, can't talk to a girl unless she is hot, excessive use of swears, especially racial slurs, etc...its pretty easy to stereotype them compared to typical college kids and be accurate) we still get along (due to my patience and keeping my opinions to myself).
I realize people who constantly speak their mind are annoying but I really don't constantly speak my mind, I have to restrain myself in order to get along with these people who don't have the same morals as me. I'm sure I missed alot, there is so much wrong with this kid you have no clue...he says he can't wait to be on the side of the law so he can get away with shit...when I respond to that with "At least you realize how it works," he responds with, "Blah blah blah...fuck the government they don't do shit for us, fucking hippy bullshit."
How do I handle this? (aside from the fact that everyone I have met at this school is overly materialistic and shit like that)...sorry for the lack of proper articulation of my thoughts, I'm just very frustrated with my situation...
Sorry this is long, but I really do appreciate anyone who reads this and gives me advice, I realize most people on here are older and more experienced than I am.
Edited by NastyDHL (02/18/13 08:20 PM)
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