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PyroBurns
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Training my mind to kill the fear?
#8046791 - 02/20/08 11:14 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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This summer I really really hope to be strong enough to do some long term travelling without much money in the bank. I'm preparing physically and mentally at the moment, and as soon as spring begins to show its face I'll practice my outdoor skills. I really believe that if I can combine the best of touristy backpacking and outdoorsy backpacking I CAN make it. The problem with touristy backpacking is having to rely on your wallet to feed and shelter you, and the problem with outdoorsy backing is not being to meet very many people. If I can do a bit of both, I think that I will have a really beautiful experience.
If I fail... well I can always go back home and get a job. But I definitely am going to give it a shot.
The problem is giving up the fear. Of course my journey is going to be many months away, but truly thinking about it makes me so scared. I'll be giving up everything. Walking out with the stuff on my back and completey going against what I've learned my whole life. Which is security. It will just be me and what the world has to offer.
Of course I'll keep a few hundred dollars in the bank for an emergency fund, but I really need to prepare myself mentally so I don't freak out the first week and run back home to my security.
How can I train myself to alleviate this fear?
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Jackenobi
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Re: Training my mind to kill the fear? [Re: PyroBurns]
#8046807 - 02/20/08 11:16 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I have no idea but i think its awesome
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Re: Training my mind to kill the fear? [Re: PyroBurns]
#8046826 - 02/20/08 11:20 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Your fear is not separate from who you are. You can ask yourself questions like, "Why am I afraid? What am I afraid of? Why should I not be afraid?" and think deeply on these. Or practice meditation every time you feel any kind of fear or anxiety arise - gently following every exhalation, go beyond your thoughts ("I'm so afraid", "What was I thinking?", "Why is this happening to me?") into the pure feeling of the anxiety. This can help transmute that fearful energy, to recognize it as nothing more than conditioned patterns of energy, coming from within and having little to do with the reality of the present moment; this practice will train you to be with your fear without trying to distract yourself from it like we all do most all of the time.
If you're going on an adventure like the one you're planning, chances are you will have to meet your fear and integrate it. Instead of running from it, you'll have to use it to grow more aware, more present, and more compassionate towards yourself. Best of luck.
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Jackenobi
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Re: Training my mind to kill the fear? [Re: Lion]
#8046938 - 02/20/08 11:45 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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...mmm fear integration
i had some positive experience of that in amsterdam on a summer trip with a buddy
trial by ganja
was pretty trippy walking down a daylit street and realising my basic perception had the blinkers on for some reason... so i opened it up! that was fun
then on some occasions i felt the fear so slipped into meditation sitting in my hostel/many other bars
ps. dear OP, sorry to be so unhelpful!
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PyroBurns
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Re: Training my mind to kill the fear? [Re: Jackenobi]
#8046942 - 02/20/08 11:46 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Oh don't worry about it. I think that any discussion can help.
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Re: Training my mind to kill the fear? [Re: Jackenobi]
#8046949 - 02/20/08 11:47 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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The fear can't be killed, it can be nuetralised through acceptance (non judgement). check out EFT (emofree.org or .com)
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Jackenobi
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Re: Training my mind to kill the fear? [Re: PyroBurns]
#8046955 - 02/20/08 11:48 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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cool well my honest advice would be go for it and jump in
fulfil your potential everyday
thats what its gotta be about
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Re: Training my mind to kill the fear? [Re: PyroBurns]
#8046975 - 02/20/08 11:55 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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PyroBurns said: Walking out with the stuff on my back and completey going against what I've learned my whole life. Which is security. It will just be me and what the world has to offer.
Hehe... security is always an illusion. Comfort is what you are really leaving behind. GOOD! Attachment to comfort is a life-sucking scourge. Just prepare for your trip, think it out, but don't try to have every contingency accounted for. If it doesn't give you butterflies it's not worth doing.
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How can I train myself to alleviate this fear?
As far as I know you can't reliably alleviate fear, but you can diminish its influence by acting in spite of it. Do things that scare you as often as possible. Don't wait for fear to dissolve before you act, or you'll die in your computer chair.
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Re: Training my mind to kill the fear? [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#8049896 - 02/20/08 11:01 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Cold showers!!! Noticing that you are scared and going in because nothing is actually going to harm you, and actually make you feel good.
Sitting in a dark room all lights off, no one in the house.
For 10-20-1 hour. Watching the mind make up scary things and knowing that it is alright.
Go into a dark forest that you know is safe at night and walk through a part of it.????
All these are methods to bring out the fact that the mind is there to help you, but because it is set on survival it can limit you to only what it deems secure, when all along these things a hurtful.
The nature of fear is like this. It can help you, it is a challenege when you see it only hurts.
Meet the challenge daily.
with love and ease.
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Re: Training my mind to kill the fear? [Re: JoseLibrado]
#8096598 - 03/03/08 08:06 AM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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Facing emotions without being consumed by the feelings of them. If you are in tune with your chakras you can really feel certain emotions stem from different chakra points in your body. And if you can find the source you can work on making it feel better. Let the emotion flow no matter how painful, let it take its course and study it without being attached too it.then let it move on. You just have to be honest with yourself. hope this helps
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