Social anxiety is not actually anything.
The reason anyone feels anxiety, nervousness, fear around other people is because of a belief about themselves and their relation to others..
This belief, is a complex neurological wave of energy that begins a whole other set of chemical reactions known as nervousness, emptiness, and fear.
The belief i think is that a person can have more or less worth than another. This belief being an outcome of the way we have been taught about life and ourselves, in reltion to the aspect of life, known as Other PEOPLE.
This idea is why we get so nervous when we are out in public. It creates the question; what is my worth as bobby or josh and what does it make me? This question lingers in our psyche causing alot of distress and breaks apart the foundation through which we do anything around others.
From this comes other questions that cause anxiety, like i want to know who i am now and i want to get out of this situation, but how?
The problem with this nervous feeling, is the belief that the feeling comes from being in a social situation.
Actually, the feeling comes from what you know that situation will offer you in terms of feelings.
Example/ you may be feeling more nervous and fearfull when you are doing a presentation in front of a bunch of people with opinions about people, than you do when you are with a few close friends. And although it seems like the first is what causes you to feel nervous because the other u dont feel nervous, it really is a matter of what potential things you know will be there for you to experience in that situation, during that situation. Example of this would be knowing that potentially you could piss someone off, offend somone, or even being nervous about being nervous in that situation.
This is why this label of social anxiety comes into play...ignorance that social situations cause anxiety and nervousness, scrath the thoughts in the mind.
Really then no one person can logically be "social Anxious" unless you are a corporation that stands to gain lots of cash from people who believe they are and who believe that this SA concept, is a natural occurence that can only be changed by some Xanax, crack-of-an as-ax hahahahah.
I personally suffer from being nervous about being nervous around people. Fearing that i will fear for my self worth. Fearing that i will have this question of what is my self worth? Pop up in my head.
In this i see that i am mistaken. I am mistaken because when i fear something will happen to me, like nervous feelings, i say to myself that i have no control over how i feel.
This is simply not so. Our thought directly correlate how we feel, as much as our experiences in the present and of the past and future do. Ie/ micheal jordan wont be nervous shooting a free throw in front of a bunch of people, because he is certain they will still think he is a good BALL player even if he missed and because he knows he prolly wont miss.
Just imagine, if you KNEW that you could please every single person you will ever meet to the point that they are satisfied, WOuld you ever feel any type of nervous feeling around the prospect of being around people?
Yet i tell you something you may find comforting...
If you could please everybody in the world - then you would never know what it is like to please a person...
Why this is contradictory tho jose. Your an idiot to think that if you always pleased every person, that your would not know what it was like to please someone...for fuck sakes, you pleased everyone!!!!
Good question buddy.
But lets take a look at logic for a sex...i mean,...k im a bit hungry for love right now. Anyways back to ti ti ti...TOPIC not TITS topic....yes. Back to topic.
So the reason the sentence " If you always pleased everyone in the world, you would never know and feel what it was like to please to cause good to someone" doesnt contradict itself, is because concepts that are good or bad, like angel and asshole, exist always simoultanously...ying and yang..
This is IFFY, but take another look at how you know what it is to please someone and ask "well, why is this 'pleasing someone' and this 'pissing someone off".
Really all you will be doing is relating experiences to others...ie/ when i did this for my mom it made her happy, when i did this she got mad.
Here its a matter of feelings and how they guide you.
What the moral of the STORY then?
You simply cant please everyone, if you would like to experience what it is to make someone happy! YOu have to make someone angry pissed off at you, if you are to experience the wonder of making someone smile.
In SHORT!!!
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The mind is a creative tool. It searches to protect you, through message sensations(feelings). It is no different than a computer, you need to make sure its anti-virus program is in check and that it doesnt have a script that limits your experience, because of to much precaution.
And remember the computer does not appear to respond to words of anger and frustration - just give it input, in the form of new meanings that you know to be true and its messages to you and the limits it lays out for you, will change.
Guilt is an outcome of believing you are the cause of the problems.
Yet, we are not a cause to something, we see is negative or bad - Unless you believe your intentions are directed towards a bad outcome....
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