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vandago


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My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it......
#7613698 - 11/09/07 03:19 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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So nov 8th....my b-day.....will never be celebrated the same again.
My friend calls me, real close friend, one of my damn near closest friends. He wants to hang out but I told him I didn't feel like driving to his house, and told him to drive over...I DON"T FEEL LIKE DRIVING OVER....I DON"T FEEL LIKE DRIVING OVER.......I keep fucking repeating this in my head now....I can't quit I hate myself.....I was too fucking lazy, to fucking lazy to save someones life.
He leaves to come to my house, with his 3 year old daughter.....he could've told me he had his kid, I would've came, I would've goddfucking dammit drove there.
I called to tell him to pick up a gallon of milk,I didn't need it that bad, it would've put him in a better place at a better time, none of this tragic shit.....
So he drives onto the highway, in the passing lane. I car beside him swerves to hit a deer, the car swerves right into him. He's forced to pull to the left, pushing him into the grass. He's thrown across the median, into another lane, slamming head on into a semi. Him and his daughter were projected from the car, she died on impact, he's in a coma, but they are 90% sure he's brain dead, and they are going to pull the plug on him.
I'm devasted. I need something to fucking turn to, and to just scream at. I can't believe this.
I'm sorry for this my fellow shroomerites, peoples sorrows are not your joys. I'm in a rough state, send your vibes for a miracle A loving child R.I.P 2004-2007 A loving father 2004 - 2007
Update.....
He passed away around 11:30 on nov 9th. A loving father, A great son, A brother, A friend, An all around awesome person........
Edited by vandago (11/10/07 01:28 AM)
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613701 - 11/09/07 03:21 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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The bad thing is I was expecting a bel air joke. Sorry for your loss man.
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: TurntableJunky]
#7613706 - 11/09/07 03:25 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
The bad thing is I was expecting a bel air jokequote]
Like the prince of freshness?
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613708 - 11/09/07 03:26 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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dude i dont even know what to say...
except that you shouldnt blame yourself for this. you didnt know that was gonna happen...
im so sorry man
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Edited by yageman (04/20/06 4:20 PM)
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613709 - 11/09/07 03:26 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: wrestler_az]
#7613710 - 11/09/07 03:28 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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wrestler_az said: except that you shouldnt blame yourself for this. you didnt know that was gonna happen...
exactly !
this is in NO WAY your fault, live is strange but you didnt do anything wrong.
sorry for your loss
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613712 - 11/09/07 03:30 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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/me hugs vandango
i hope he pulls through, even so it's going to be tough for him if he does.
this is terribly sad, my condolences go out to his family and loved ones. please don't be too hard on yourself considering that this sounds like a complete freak accident. i'm sure he wouldn't want you placing all the blame on yourself. sending positive thoughts his way and yours.
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613716 - 11/09/07 03:34 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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So sorry. It's just a random accident, don't blame yourself.
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: wrestler_az]
#7613717 - 11/09/07 03:34 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Thanks for the upbeat vibes, I certainly need them right now, I want to try and stay strong to help his family ( his brother is pretty much my closest friend ), and I feel so responsible I could'nt make it up to them if i tried.
That was the sweetest little girl I ever knew, and he was my extremely close friend, he had my back over any petty shit that ever happened, helped me out countless times and never asked for anything in return. He was awesome friend, and great dad, and full of just what I consider a truly honest person.
I'm gonna be flakey on these boards for a few I'm sure, so if anyone sees any whacked out, rants on what I'm plowing through at a million miles a minute I apologize. I love all you guys, even the ones I don't talk to I just read their posts. We are all so fucking fragile, I want so much more from life....
Edited by vandago (11/10/07 01:19 AM)
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: Acidic_Sloth]
#7613718 - 11/09/07 03:37 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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That's pretty horrible man. Don't blame yourself though you didn't do anything wrong.
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613720 - 11/09/07 03:38 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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aw man now im all sad. can we make a filter that filters sadness. anything with the word died, death, coma, gets ignored?
Edited by sleepy (11/09/07 03:41 AM)
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613722 - 11/09/07 03:39 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
vandago said: I'm gonna be flakey on these boards for a few I'm sure, so if anyone sees any whacked out, rants on what I'm plowing through at a million miles a minute I apologize. I ove all you guys, even theones I don't talk to I just read their posts. We are all so fucking fragile, I want so much more from life....
it's understandable that you might not be around for a few, you've got a lot on your plate right now and it's something that's going to be extremely difficult to digest. don't hate yourself over this, it was in no way your fault, and i cannot stress that enough. stay strong, my friend. i wish the best for you and his family and friends.
we'll be here if you need us.
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613724 - 11/09/07 03:40 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Him and his daughter were projected from the car, she died on impact
Why the fuck wasn't she in a properly strapped in car seat?
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: TheFakeSunRa]
#7613733 - 11/09/07 03:47 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Car seats dont hold up to a car going 60 hitting a semi going 60 head on. He was driving a saturn.
ANd really we don't know the whole story on the accident itself, thats just what we've peiced together through cops and the doctors. We've heard a few different verions, so til tomorrow there won't be much solid info except what I've been told.
I stayed at the hospital all night with their family, I did my best to help.
I don't feel like I am responsible.....shit, yes i do.....jsut because of so many simple little things. I couldve just fucking drove....goddamit, if he said I got my kid, I'd have gone......i couldve just fucking said NO, NO milk man.
I'm going to miss this guy, I'm going to miss his adorable daughter, my best friend is devastated by the loss of his niece. I have to put my petty worries behind me for right now, and focusing on their family, they need help, I canhate myself later.
Edited by vandago (11/10/07 01:21 AM)
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613736 - 11/09/07 03:49 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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you shouldn't hate yourself at all, but i guess that would be one of the normal emotional reactions to a situation like this.
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: Acidic_Sloth]
#7613739 - 11/09/07 03:53 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Edit: Some of what I've been including in this thread is a little too in depth and revealing, I'm changing this post ( plus a few others ) due to that.
Edited by vandago (11/10/07 01:23 AM)
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613742 - 11/09/07 03:57 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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i know it's hard and i could see me blaming myself as well if i were in your shoes, but it really isn't your fault. counseling is probably a good idea and would help you cope and deal with this.
be well. don't be too hard on yourself.
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: Acidic_Sloth]
#7613745 - 11/09/07 04:03 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Thank you so much, I know that if ican maintain support for his family, it'd help me cope, and remember waht a fuking awesome individual was riped away from me.
I love the shroomery, I know I can post her, and people actaually post back and put that emphasis and emoition just into the words.
I love ou guys, I'm goin to try and crash. Thanks for the vibes, I'll be abck tomorrow I 'm thinking the shock will wear off into pure hysteria by then.
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#7613764 - 11/09/07 04:36 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Re: My close friend and his daughter died today, I could've prevented it...... [Re: vandago]
#7613768 - 11/09/07 04:43 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I know what you mean when you blame yourself for the death, but you shouldn't. I know it's common to feel like that after someone dies, because in reality, anyone that interacted with this person in the last few weeks, or even in their entire life, could have changed what happened and not one person caused it.
I mean, if he would have not had his kid, he would have been their faster not having to put the kid in the car. If the sun was bright and when he stepped outside he has to wait a second to adjust to the brightness, it would have changed it. If the other driver had spent an extra second digging for pennies in their pocket while getting their morning coffee. Or if years ago the guy hadn't had a kid.
Really, anything that ever happened to this guy or any other drivers on the road, even something that happened in the deer's life, they all contributed. They all contributed to him staying alive to that day and then being in the accident. Absolutely everyone in his life could have changed the outcome of that day, but none of those people were to blame.
It is absolutely not your fault. It just happened to be that you interacted with him that day.
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