Fixer said:

MIC,
I'm a little older, and I see the wisdom in your words as I have been there too.

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I too see where you are coming from. Especially #3. Most people don't realize that any issues they may have stem from their parents mistakes.

Most people here are under 30 and don't have the life experience to fully understand what you were trying to say.

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i think some self-help works.
but not by books. that's not really self help. that's the author trying to get you to think these things..

but also, another human being can be help. someone on your level. or someone who has been where you have been before.

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What do you think that the authors of these so called "self help' books are doing.

They are merely humans who have been through tough times and are trying........through a book, to give advice to other people who have had similar issues.

I see books of this nature, to be very helpful for some people, maybe not so helpful for others.

But they do help.....I have seen it work.

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One reason I wrote this post was b/c of (Finally!) a good session with a counselor, and on an equally important but more serious note: the fact that so many young people are posting disturbing private information about hating family, alcohol and or drug overuse, not caring about anything certainly not improving etc. I brushed it away as exaggerations and attention getting till I got a few pm's from some honest individuals who seem to need encouragement to get things together in their lives. I pm-ed them back but felt it was appropriate to give a general wake-up call b/f more of us mess ourselves up with negative choices or escaping from pain in an unhealthy way.

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niteowl said:

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One reason I wrote this post was b/c of (Finally!) a good session with a counselor, and on an equally important but more serious note: the fact that so many young people are posting disturbing private information about hating family, alcohol and or drug overuse, not caring about anything certainly not improving etc. I brushed it away as exaggerations and attention getting till I got a few pm's from some honest individuals who seem to need encouragement to get things together in their lives. I pm-ed them back but felt it was appropriate to give a general wake-up call b/f more of us mess ourselves up with negative choices or escaping from pain in an unhealthy way.

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I think the kids of today are being allowed to raise themselves.
Parents "Don't have the time" excuse going on.

Every parent should be ACTIVELY involved in their kids life.

Sadly this is an ongoing problem in America today.

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