adrug said:

Wonderful thread, man.  

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rtn said:

When you meet the one you love, you wish you were the first for him/her because you want to give your everything.

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I do admire your passion and desire for commitment rtn, but I have a feeling you may be complicating things for yourself.  You needn't be someone's first to give them your everything!  To look at it that way would be superficial and restricting.  To judge the quality of you or your partner's ability to give of themselves based upon their sexual history is only going to make your relationships more difficult I believe. 

We are animals and we have a biological drive toward sex.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with casual sex between two consenting adults and likewise there is nothing wrong with a committed and loving relationship (it is in fact how I prefer to go about it).  But we have to recognize that things don't always work out; people are different and we are always changing.  Compatibility is not a guarantee, but it can be found and nurtured.  It will however, require acceptance and varying degrees of sacrifice.

I wish you all the best in finding the love you seek.
And thank you for bringing back this wonderful discussion.