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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: AgingHippy]
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Yes I have felt that way lately.

I'm so tired man. Looks like I'll be waking up with the kids in the morning. See ya tomorrow!:mushroom2::sun:


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: Snypa187]
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im out too, time for some melatonin


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: AgingHippy]
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I don't know if you have tried this or not. But you need to talk to her and tell her exactly how you feel about her behavior.


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:drooling:GIVE ME OPIATES OR GIVE ME DEATH:drooling:

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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: Snypa187]
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Whatever happens with your wife, Snypa. Keep the kids a forefront in your mind. You two are suffering from problems that accompany a young marriage. You know how to handle your business and be a man and provider, which are great traits to have. Hold onto those, talk to her as much as possible, and get your ass back in school.

You can take online courses at most universities... look into it.


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: DrCamacho89]
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I've thought about taking online courses. I've still got the Hope Grant, I'm in the process of filing for FASFA and the Pell Grant. My plan is to take a student loan to help pay for bills and things. I need to go to the school to find out how much the two grants will help and an average out of pocket to expect.

I can't wait to go back to school! I dropped out of high school and got my GED. When I started college I looked at it as a second chance. I tried my best and actually acquired an apatite for knowledge. Everything I've been through has been kind of helpful in a way because I know that when I go back to school I'm not going to be one of the kids that just parties the whole time. I have business to take care of.:rockon:

If anyone is interested in hearing the latest news on last night:

She still hasn't seen her fucking cake and she didn't even come home last night.
As you already know, she got drunk and threw up at the bar. After that, they went back to Domino's at like 4:30 to get her car. She was too fucked up to drive and had to work at 10:00 this morning so she just slept there.
She finally called me at 8:30 to tell me she loves me. WTF?.
I told her,"Please start showing it.We have a big problem and we need to either go to marriage counseling or we need to go out separate ways. One day I'll be so happy and the next I'm actually questioning weather or not it was a good idea to marry you. A marriage isn't going to work it's self, we need to meet each other half way and I've been getting stood up. If you want to stay out at the bar all night with your boss, we need to go our own ways. We have kids and a marriage and your putting us second. I love you to death Nikki. I just wish you would be the loving, caring wife I always thought you would be".

I told her not to say anything. Just think about it and we'll talk this evening when she gets home.

I hope everything goes well...


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: Snypa187]
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You are the MAN!  I am impressed bro.  Handling this situation with ration and leadership. :headbanger: 

Please keep us posted!


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: Snypa187]
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Is her boss a male or a female? Because it sort of sounds like she could be fucking her boss if its a male. I say that because it sounds like she rather spend time with her boss then with you and the kids.

Seriously who works all day and still wants to hang out with their boss?


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:drooling:GIVE ME OPIATES OR GIVE ME DEATH:drooling:

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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: aDoS]
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aDoS said:
Is her boss a male or a female? Because it sort of sounds like she could be fucking her boss if its a male. I say that because it sounds like she rather spend time with her boss then with you and the kids.

Seriously who works all day and still wants to hang out with their boss?


21 year olds who like to party and have had children since they were 18.  :shrug:  I wouldn't jump to conclusions in such a way.  She is taking advantage of a comfort and stability that Snypa provides without acknowledging his feelings.  She needs a reality check.


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: aDoS]
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Her boss is a male. Yes, I've wondered if she's up to something like this. I've asked her but all she says is shit like, "What now you don't trust me?"
She just doesn't get it. The dude is rich as hell. He's married and he just told Nikki the other day that he is an alcoholic. Never could have guessed that one!

Every time they go out he pays for everything. Some of the other guys at her work are getting pissed at her because they used to be her boss's drinking buddies.

It has defiantly crossed my mind. It's driving me crazy! I stayed up till about 5:30 waiting for her. I was laying in bed turning the t.v. on and off every 5 minutes because I couldn't sleep. I kept getting up about ever 15 minutes to look out the window. It's a horrible feeling.

I just try my best to not think about the possibilities.


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: DrCamacho89]
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DrCamacho89 said:
aDoS said:
Is her boss a male or a female? Because it sort of sounds like she could be fucking her boss if its a male. I say that because it sounds like she rather spend time with her boss then with you and the kids.

Seriously who works all day and still wants to hang out with their boss?


21 year olds who like to party and have had children since they were 18.  :shrug:  I wouldn't jump to conclusions in such a way.  She is taking advantage of a comfort and stability that Snypa provides without acknowledging his feelings.  She needs a reality check.


I think you just about got it there. I seriously doubt that she's cheating.

Now if you ask me at 5 in the morning when my head has been going crazy all night I'll probably say something along the lines of, "Hell yeah she's cheatin'!:crankey:


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: Snypa187]
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I'm sorry


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:drooling:GIVE ME OPIATES OR GIVE ME DEATH:drooling:

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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: aDoS]
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In a way I'm hoping marriage counseling isn't going to be expensive. On the other hand, I could never put a price on our marriage.

I hope we can work this shit out.

We've been talking about getting married since she was 14 and I was 16. I always told her I wouldn't get married until I'm positive that she is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I don't want to be one of those people that get married 10 times.

I just never thought about the fact that just maybe the one who married me wasn't ready.

I guess theirs an exception to every rule.:shrug:


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: Snypa187]
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Before you try counseling, just try talking. But if your going to talk to her, its not going to work unless you tell her exactly how you feel about what shes doing. Tell her everything that you have brought up on this forum.


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"If we could sniff or swallow something that would, for five or six hours each day, abolish our solitude as individuals, atone us with our fellows in a glowing exaltation of affection and make life in all its aspects seem not only worth living, but divinely beautiful and significant, and if this heavenly, world-transfiguring drug were of such a kind that we could wake up next morning with a clear head and an undamaged constitution - then, it seems to me, all our problems (and not merely the one small problem of discovering a novel pleasure) would be wholly solved and earth would become paradise." - Aldous Huxley
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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: aDoS]
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Wow! Why should you trust her, though?
If you really want the kids, you need a spy.
There may be something to this cheating idea. People don't go out with their bosses unless their is major chemistry happening.
Get pictures and your day in court will go much smoother.
If she's not cheating, then you'll know she's just an alcoholic- putting alcohol above her own family. And you'll focus you're energy on drug intervention.
I don't get this shit whine about all the fun she's missed.
Life NEVER goes exactly as planned. You get over it and stop coveting the life someone else has. She should deal with the situation she has now, not the life she wish she could have had back then. You've given yourself a grown-up's life, now grow-the-fuck up.


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: SCleROTiUM_LICK]
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You're talking about a grown up's life right after you bring up the idea of hiring a spy. I doubt it needs to get that far. I am sure Snypa is a good BS detector. He should know just by talking to her. Hiring a spy is getting too wrapped up in the insanity than need be. Behavior like that is not good for the brain. Just flat out ask her what's up with this boss. The truth will come out, whatever that may be, and whether she tells it or not.


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: DrCamacho89]
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grievous scene man...
if she is interested in saving your relationship, try finding a counselor that your are both comfortable with & work at making it work (it is quite possible that her insurance will pay for it)...
& it she is not willing to "grow up" enough to share responibilities, well... move out, move on, maintain your relationship with your kids, get back into school, make your life what it should be...

good luck, bro...


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: gnrm23]
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Will the truth come out before or after she gives him an STD or he's developed an attachment to a second kid he didn't father but will have to raise alone? If you guys have been having relations without a condom, I hope you realize that you are well within your rights to insist that because she's started acting like a typical carefree 18 yr old, you're going to start fucking her like one.

I don't know. I think he's already been bullshitted.
Management bitches, who are maybe looking to climb even higher by kissing employer asses, don't usually even respect stay-at-home quasi-employed family types. Especially ones with self-doubts. In the rare case that they do have this respect, you'll find that it's not this difficult for the man to get the time of day from the bitch- especially when the man is raising Bitch's own kids!!!! Plenty of people out their will stay in relationships that they don't have their heart in as long as they can get something out of it- like free child care.

Anyone who thinks that a 21 year old just HAS to party, regardless of his/her circumstances, just isn't thinking. Even if this girl doesn't intend to screw around on her husband, she's obviously getting so fucked up that she could easily be taken advantage of. She can't think for herself about how a 21 year old (even with kids) should behave, why should she think for herself when he insists on spreading her legs apart?


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: SCleROTiUM_LICK]
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Like I said before, I highly doubt that she's cheating on me. Even through all the bull shit. I've known her for about 7 years. Hell, we lost our virginity's together. I know her better than anyone in the world.
Once you tune into someone's soul the way we have over the years, you can tell when she's lying. She is a very straight forward woman. If she feels the need to tell me something, she won't hesitate.

*Big plans tonight*

I cleaned every room in our entire house, gave the kids baths, and I'm about to cook tacos! :naughty:
After the unveiling of the cake, we're going to put the kids to bed and have a nice Long talk.


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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: Snypa187]
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Best of luck, mate. I hope you are right that she isn't cheating on you. Do your best to stay calm and collected, even if she starts to feel threatened and becomes upset. This isn't exactly a situation in which you want to have escalation or you want to get upset and say things you will regret.

I mean, it sounds like there is tremendous potential for moving past this and like living a life of ultimate love and happiness with her, but it will be her decision, and, I don't know, just do your best to present her with that option and let her know what you feel. I've got my fingers crossed for you, man. :heartpump:


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For I've never known completeness
Like being here
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Re: The fucked up life of a married 23 year old. (w/kids) [Re: fireworks_god]
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Truly...
Best of Luck!

I'm not liking your girl a lot right now, but
(SHOCKER) I don't even know her.


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