Wiccan_Seeker said:

My major point is that you should strive for self-acceptance with all things sucky and great. And once you accept yourself you can work at self-improvement.

If you continuously whip the horse it can't nearly run as well as when you let it do it's thing with the occasional correction.
I think you're too harsh on yourself and that you jam yourself shut by this inner conflict. If you demand too much nothing will happen.

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