You probably want gay people as your friends but are paranoid they will think you are into them sexually. If you are always concerned people will think you are gay, then there is some underlying insecurity there. It doesn't mean you're gay, just insecure. The psychedelics probably make you tune in to the underlying sexuality in male bonding, and you are intimidated by that sexuality and feel the need to assert your heterosexuality.
My advice to you is twofold. One, do psychedelics a bit less. Or two, do some soul searching on this issue. Human relations take place on many levels, and psychedelics help you to see things you wouldn't otherwise see. When your male friend hands you a drink, or a joint, there could be a moment your hands touch, your eyes lock. And there is an underlying sexuality in that moment. It doesn't mean you two are going to fuck, just as if someone stares angrily at you it doesn't mean they're going to kill you. Thoughts, momentary feelings, are far from actions. But there is a strong sexuality in male bonding, particularly when it includes drugs. And when you are on psychedelics, you are tuning into that sexuality like a radio tunes a channel. You see things you wouldn't normally see, and it scares you.
So the question is, why does it scare you? Were you molested as a child? Are you afraid of getting anally raped? Are you intimidated by your friends? Are they bigger and stronger than you?
What you need to do is give in and accept this sexuality, understanding that exists in a sphere of thought not action, and that it is ok. It is ok to feel close to your friends, to love them even. And to allow them to love you. It is ok to get high with them and discuss your deepest feelings, or just talk about random stuff, and feel that intense closeness and bonding with them. And it is ok to touch them incidentally, and not hate it, and not pull away in fear.
It might actually help you to do something sexual with a guy, even just once. Not because I think you're gay. But because if you did something overtly sexual with one of your friends, it would teach you not to fear it. And that might help you overcome this.
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