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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: jenns_hot]
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Sure, he should start with whomever he likes but if it doesn't go well there's no reason for him to put all his eggs in one basket, especially since these are very emotional eggs. Asking girls out is good practice.

dano, just remember you've got nothing to lose. Being rejected by a female is no worse than not trying at all. It leaves you in the exact same place, without a date. In short, you've got nothing to lose. When I was single, I actually enjoyed being rejected, at least, it was a form of interaction. I always tried to be cordial and good natured about hitting on chicks. Just take the process lightly. And remember this, a woman should be flattered by your attention. If a woman is rude about a friendly and polite old college try then she's an uptight bitch. But even the bitchiest rejection should only be met with the best manners.

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What really gets to me is not being able to get any female contact. i'm littereally shit scared of them. i have to make myself talk to them, i know i have too to try and break this loop im in. i'm not bad at talking too them its just that once we are talking my fear goes to the next thing which is them asking me why i look so hot (red faced) and when they mention it - it gets even worse.


Just play it off like it's no biggie (because it isn't, bro). Say something like 'Yeah, that happens to me when I'm a little nervous. Cute girls have that effect on me.' And it's ok to seem nervous around chicks. Sure some chicks don't like that, but believe it or not, a lot of chicks DO like it. They think it's cute and it flatters their ego that they make you feel that way and they think it means you're not a player and probably a good guy. So it's totally cool so don't worry about it. Just be yourself. Women like all kinds of different types of guys. There's plenty of women who'll like you for you. Don't worry about those who don't; worry about finding those who do. So step out into the light!

Good luck and let us know how you get on. I'm interested in your progress.


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[quote]Asante said:
You constantly make posts thatr fling middle school insults at people you don't like mixed in with maladjusted psychopathic comments about wanting to beat up the other poster with a crowbar.

You know how shit you are, you just don't give a fuck for precisely that reason.

I disendorse you.[/quote]

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: TheFakeSunRa]
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TheFakeSunRa said:
I think you should quit drugs and make it a point to ask a woman out on a date at least once a week.


i like that idea but
i live in a small town in the middle of no-where and i meet new females at a rate of about 5 per year!!! And thats if i go out all the time.

i even tried explaining to some of them how nervous i was but most of them quickly go and pick up one of my more confident friends.

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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Around here, the girls 8 years younger than me have had more sex in a week than i've had in a lifetime. They all seem to only think about sex too! Which is a bit strange being that i'm the male! i've asked a few of them what they think about long term relationships but they just want to meet an exiting new bloke, fuck him the same night and then go onto the next one. i'm being seriouse too, not pesemistic.

i've got no doubt that the nice girls are out there but they don't seem to ever come out...


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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: TheFakeSunRa]
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>>>Just play it off like it's no biggie (because it isn't, bro). Say something like 'Yeah, that happens to me when I'm a little nervous. Cute girls have that effect on me.' And it's ok to seem nervous around chicks. Sure some chicks don't like that, but believe it or not, a lot of chicks DO like it.

Wow man. Seriously, ive never thought of it like that. But thats something i'm going to try because i think that could work!

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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What's the population of your town?



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Around here, the girls 8 years younger than me have had more sex in a week than i've had in a lifetime. They all seem to only think about sex too! Which is a bit strange being that i'm the male! i've asked a few of them what they think about long term relationships but they just want to meet an exiting new bloke, fuck him the same night and then go onto the next one. i'm being seriouse too, not pesemistic.


Yeah that's a kind of country-fuck mentality I've run into. Actually, I've hooked-up with girls like that. They're just bored as all fuck.

How old are you? Are you in the United States?


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[quote]Asante said:
You constantly make posts thatr fling middle school insults at people you don't like mixed in with maladjusted psychopathic comments about wanting to beat up the other poster with a crowbar.

You know how shit you are, you just don't give a fuck for precisely that reason.

I disendorse you.[/quote]

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: TheFakeSunRa]
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just remeber it doesnt matter? You can live either way you want, and no matter how you are there will always be someone to watch you. If youre this way, there will be someone to match you. And if youre THAT way, theres someone waiting for you too. Dont worry dude, it really DOESNT matter you know?


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God says dance with your heart
And shake free of you desire

Where theres a will theres always a way
When you get confused listen to the music play


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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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u should read this book it is the best 1 about the human existence it puts things in perspective

http://www.amazon.com/First-Last-Freedom-Jiddu-Krishnamurti/dp/0060648317

it can change peoples  lives


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"the way of the warrior is the resolute acceptance of death"

Miyamoto Musashi

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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in my effort to help but also not spend too much time thinking while i have a research paper due:

dont expect a big change to happen, no matter what. you will need to work slowly through everything and be glad with ANY progress, because really its better than you once were. dont give up!


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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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danoEoboy said:
I agree i do need some contact to break me out of the cycle.


you have the power inside you to break yourself out of the cycle. thats what you truly desire! look inside, think logically, WOULD IT KILL YOU? its something i often ask myself when dealing with women and sitations that give me anxiety. i specifically ask myself "what could it hurt?" and then i answer. i try to think about both sides, the good and the bad. and being the man of logic that i am i force myself to do what is logical by promising myself that i will be depressed if i dont. i then put myself into a thought loop about how bad it is to not do it, trying to imitate the anxiety thoughts that made me worried in the first place but in a good way. it sounds odd im sure but it really puts situations into perspective. if your trying to do something specific, like calling a girl or walking up to them to talk, specifically set a time for when you will do it then dont think about it. relish in the moments BEFORE you do it that your not doing it yet, then go through with doing it. you will not be worried about how your "never going to do it" becuase you know "i will do it after this song is over" or "once i make it to the park i will call".

i dont want to sound over simplified but STOP DOING WHAT IS BAD. are you thinking bad thoughts that only hurt yourself? stop! if you know you cant go through with talking to a girl dont spend the whole time being pissed at yourself. be okay with it, you will learn from the situation. stop thinking about how bad your thinking, stop thinking at all! im sure thats why you smoke a lot. having friends that smoke a lot doesnt mean you have to, only if thats the only thing you do when you hang out. you can go places with them and have them smoke while your enjoying the atmosphere. going to a movie? dont smoke. going to the woods? yeah your smoking. dont do what isnt needed. have you chilled while they smoked and you didnt?

so much for not ranting. i feel bad for you, i can really see that you have a serious problem and i want to help. please take what i said into consideration. i see myself in you, i dont want you to fail, your actions are more than just related to yourself.


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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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danoEoboy said:
Hmmm, i was looking up neurorotic and i found this under hysteria.  it seems to be what i have...

Hysteria is a diagnostic label applied to a state of mind, one of unmanageable fear or emotional excesses. The fear is often centered on a body part, most often on an imagined problem with that body part (disease is a common complaint).

Sometimes i can't stop worrying about my face going red and it feels like i can't stop concentrating on the tempature of my cheeks.
This makes it happen anyway which is the crazy thing.  if i didn't think of it, it wouldn't happen.

Somehow i've become stuck, at somepoint i realised it could happen.  Now it puts me into a state of worry that makes it happen!


be proud of those red cheeks! :thumbup:


sexy.


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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: TheFakeSunRa]
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Population = 9,000
Country = UK

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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Do you have a car?


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[quote]Asante said:
You constantly make posts thatr fling middle school insults at people you don't like mixed in with maladjusted psychopathic comments about wanting to beat up the other poster with a crowbar.

You know how shit you are, you just don't give a fuck for precisely that reason.

I disendorse you.[/quote]

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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danoEoboy said:
Population = 9,000
Country = UK


hey man im UK too, so im just wondering where are you from? it doesnt make any difference to any further response i guess i get a better idea just from the context being closer to home than some US backwater! (UK backwater huh...)

unless you arent comfortable sharing your location on this site, in which case no worries

i am from the south but currently in yorkshire


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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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danoEoboy said:
i must change, so this is my plan so far;


2. Take xanax??



Be careful with the zannies.

They will definitely help, no question about it. But they are a real bitch when you try to get off of them.

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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I live in the UK too! in a shitty small town. I agree it can be very isolating. I have just got my first proper job after uni but the problem is there is nobody my age working there so there is no social side to it whatsoever. I go out on the weekend to pubs and stuff but because I cant drink a lot cos of managing my blood sugar I am pretty self conscious. Heres the advice I have for you, my own life is far from perfect but this is what I have picked up. As far as anxiety goes I know supplementing a B vitamin complex and fish oils helped me significantly. I also just started being trained at the gym to bulk up and just to feel more confident and healthy. Cut the pot and caffeine and high sugar food/drinks, peaks in your blood sugar can mess with your moods (ask any kids mum). Also try and build your confidence by speaking to as many girls as you can. Best of luck bud.

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Andy21]
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ever consider yoga?

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: bottomsout]
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im in the same boat as you. i even made a similar post about it, it sucks having anxiety


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"Psychedelics should be used not to escape reality, but to embrace it"


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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Ego Death]
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My previous roomate had bad anxiety attacks. He was overweight and unhealthy. He would get red faced and just didn't play well with others. He went on the atkins low carb diet. After a month on the diet all of his symptoms just disappeared. Perhaps the insulin response to carbohydrate intake is jacking your endocrine system and producing your anxiety. Not saying it is but its worth considering.

Peace


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ToxicMan said:
Russulas are great for kicking. Their brittle nature means they explode in a very satisfying way.

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: synergist]
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i would also recommend quitting caffeine, tobacco, and high sugar foods. eating and living healthy is very important.


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"Fear makes the wolf look bigger"

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Re: i'm a pussy - i'm lost it and i'm scared [Re: Jackenobi]
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Down south too m8

i don't have a car - thanks to anxiety lol i've taken 3 tests and everytimes my nerves were so high that i couldn't drive normally.

Yet plenty of my arsehole mates passed first time thanks to their confidence - what a bullshit test.

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