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Offlinechaospilot
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Re: December 28th, 2006 at 2:00 pm My dad passed away [Re: boatlaunch]
    #6410493 - 12/30/06 01:04 PM (17 years, 1 month ago)

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boatlaunch said:


Nowadays, my father in law (diagnosed terminal in March) isn't doing so well, and he'll be going into a hospice tomorrow morning actually, because we really can not take full care of him at home anymore and it tears me apart to let him go somewhere else to die, but it's not my choice to make.






There are Hospice services you can get from home. When my dad passed he was on Hospice, and a nurse would come down and look at him every once in a while (when we would call) but he was staying at my aunts house. Hospice can deliver alot of things to your house for him, you just have to be able and prepaired to lose alot of work and sleep, since it will get to the point where you will always need at least one person there with him.

By the time my dad passed, he had 6 people all taking shifts 2 at a time for the last week. The only thing is that we happened to be fortunate enough to not have to work or go to school during this time, it would be much harder if you had to do that.


Well if your sending him away, try to visit each time you get, but then again i dont need to tell you that...






Thanks for all the support guys! I know i dont post alot, but for some reason i still see the shroomery as a second family of sorts.


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Offlineboatlaunch
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Re: December 28th, 2006 at 2:00 pm My dad passed away [Re: chaospilot]
    #6410528 - 12/30/06 01:16 PM (17 years, 1 month ago)

Hi honey, how are you today?

You know what's been driving me crazy? When it was my step-dad that was sick, the nurses who came by from HomeCare were awesome! They showed us how to operate the lift, changes his bandages, inject his morphine... everything! Helped mom with household duties, even let her take off for a few hours to give her a break. They were absolutely amazing. He passed in my moms living room, at home where he wanted to be.

With my father in law, it seems like the whole health care system really doesn't give a hole lot of shit about him. Or us! It's like they see that he's on a fast downward slope and figure "what's the point?" They don't even take their shoes off when they come to the house. (That actually really pisses me off, so finally I said something...anyway.....)
And now, he's immobile, so it's very difficult to maneuver him around to change him, his bandages, etc etc. He's not a small man either, so it takes often 3 or 4 of us to get just the simplest of tasks completed.

He also wanted to be at home originally. But he asked to go to a hospice because he seen the strain his wife was under (well, her especially) and he feels like he's a burden. As well, he feels that dying in his own home will leave a bad feeling there for everyone, and well, just wants to be gone. He's very tired.

I wouldn't wish that kind of suffering upon my worst enemy man. It's brutal.

How are you guys holding up? Doing okay?


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Re: December 28th, 2006 at 2:00 pm My dad passed away [Re: boatlaunch]
    #6411408 - 12/30/06 07:43 PM (17 years, 1 month ago)

God bless you guys and your familys for having to deal with this kind of stuff during the holidays my heart goes out to you.


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Re: December 28th, 2006 at 2:00 pm My dad passed away [Re: chaospilot]
    #6412754 - 12/31/06 04:25 AM (17 years, 1 month ago)

Im doing good today, i slept pretty much all day, which was good because i havent been getting sleep lately. I was able to see some family i havent seen in a while.


I am also finally able to have some memories of him when he was 100% healthy, and normal. This is a relief because all i was able to remember before were the last moments and his suffering. I feel good about remembering him when he was normal and himself, because thats how he would of wanted me to remember him.


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