There are two different questions here:
Why do people get addicted?
What's the best way to deal with it?
Yes, some people should have dealt with the issue COMPLETELY differently. But why didn't they? Did they consider what they were doing to be wrong? If not, why didn't they? What makes a person unable to step forward and address big problems in their lives?
When something is your fault... is it because you were raised that way? Born that way? And if the answer to both those questions is no... what is it then? Is it just "your fault", no explanation, and you deserve to be punished?
Serious addictions aren't just overuse for a period of time. They are using drugs for many years, until it becomes such an integral part of your lifestyle that quitting would force you to confront crippling boredom for hours everyday. And they aren't something you do to yourself all at once.
So many people reach out for help and still fail. Asking for help isn't a guaranteed victory. Or what if you're a professional in a public position with a heroin addiction? Asking for help could destroy your reputation and career... and your addiction might not be yet causing any direct problems in your life, as is often the case.
I'm strange about cigarettes. I was smoking pretty heavily for a while, and I lived with two smokers. But one day I decided to quit, and I did. It was easy, I didn't even really think about it at all.
But I've also smoked pot for many years. Maybe too much, often I waste money on it. But I don't want to quit, even if I know I should, I can't get the desire to quit. How could I force myself to want to quit? My emotions aren't controlled by an on/off switch, I don't know that there's any way to magically do that.
Is it my fault? Well, obviously it is, in a sense. But does anyone have control over their emotions and desires? I don't see how they could. You can say "Well, I overcame depression, or addiction, or whatever", but in order to overcome that, you needed a strong desire to do so, you needed the confidence to think you could, you needed the ability to start something and stick with it, etc... and if you don't have those things, then what? Why do some people have those things while others don't? Are they just superior people?
And if they are just superior people, what makes them that way? Genetics? Upbringing? Magic?
What's the use in blaming people entirely for their addictions? Sure it gives us all a warm glowy feeling of righteous superiority... we get to say "I'm not an addict because I'm a good person who has self control. Those serious addicts are just a bunch of losers who deserve what they get."
But does it allow us to address the problems that create addiction? What if we could find out exactly what factors in upbringing are most likely to lead to addiction, and teach people how to teach their children? What if we could find out who was born with the kind of personality most likely to get addicted and give them some extra help?
But if you recognize addictive behavior in yourself, and you continue to use anyway, without even turning to a friend, then you have only yourself to blame.
There's a general feeling that opiate addiction is some kind of terrifying hell, that anyone aware of their situation would run away as fast as they could.
But opiates aren't like that. They feel good, they make your life a lot easier in a million ways. When used safely, they aren't toxic at all. If they're readily available, there's hardly anything to complain about. You might recognize that you're addicted and say "Hey, this really isn't so bad. I'm not harming myself, my life is good, and I'm more interested in my work/school than I have been in my life. Why would I want to quit?" And that might sound stupid to you... it certainly would have sounded retarded to me a few years ago. But then I was there, and it's a whole lot different when you are. I'm sure practically every opiate addict goes through the same thoughts.
Or alcoholics. In some groups, drinking is a sign of masculinity, adulthood, and strength. The entire group gets together every single night and drinks heavily. Not drinking results in derision, insults, and sometimes even hatred from your peers. Would they go to their friends for help with their drinking? I doubt they'd get much help. They'd probably get a reply like "What are you, a pansy? Have another drink!"
Quitting, for that person, would require abandoning their friends, becoming a social outcast, and almost certainly going through some pretty awful depression and isolation. Heavy drinking in that culture is not something negative that needs to be recognized and escaped from, it's an accomplishment in itself.
If you thought you might be allergic to peanuts, would you blame an allergic reaction you had after consuming peanut butter on "the obvious availability of peanutbutter as both an inexpensive source of protein, coupled with the lack of a loving parent who made sufficient non-peanutbutter containing sandwiches"?
I think that the obvious answer is no. Please don't blame economics, society, family situation, etc. for what ultimately amounts to someone ignoring a problem that they create for themselves.
That's not a very similar situation at all. Addiction isn't something you do all at once, like someone with a peanut allergy eating peanut butter. It's a slow, drawn out process that you rarely recognize is happening until it's grabbed control of you.
And again, why do people ignore the problem? And is it always that they're ignoring it, or do they even understand/realize that it's a problem?
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